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Estranged parents

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  • RuthnJasper
    RuthnJasper Posts: 4,033 Forumite
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    vroombroom wrote: »
    Sorry, he has been contacting my brother about me.

    Thank you x



    Ah, understood; thanks. In that case, it's your brother's problem. I know it sounds harsh, but you've been clear with him. He needs to man-up and tell his father to pack it in.


    All the best. x
  • culpepper
    culpepper Posts: 4,076 Forumite
    Absolutely. Don't contact him at all for any reason else all that strain and anguish will come flooding back in.
    I have this same situation with my mother. No contact between us for the last 27 years.
    If your brother knows the whole story, then he can either ignore the messages , ignore the father or tell the father he is not going to listen to any more of it .
    If he doesn't know the whole reason, now is a good time to tell him(brother).
    It really isn't your problem how he deals with his father.
  • red_devil
    red_devil Posts: 10,793 Forumite
    its amazing how people say the most nastiest of things and then expect that you will want to see them!:eek:
    :footie:
  • paddy's_mum
    paddy's_mum Posts: 3,977 Forumite
    I've been Money Tipped!
    I'd be asking your brother (very politely) what part of No does he (your brother) not understand?

    He is very close to shoving and bullying you in the same way as your father does. Why is your brother enabling him?

    Perhaps it's time to tell your brother that if he will not help to protect you from this nutter who calls himself your father, you will be changing your contact details...and be prepared to do it!
  • vroombroom
    vroombroom Posts: 1,117 Forumite
    Lol he's back. This time in the form of his latest bit on the side - who has never met me. She sent me a message on facebook about woe-is-me father and how we should all feel sorry for him, how I need to contact him etc etc....sent her a polite message back telling to keep her opinion to herself and not to contact me again.....honestly, some people!
    :j:jOur gorgeous baby boy born 2nd May 2011 - 12 days overdue!!:j:j
  • pigpen
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    why is your brother telling him about stuff in your life?? I'd be utterly furious!

    I'd be telling him under absolutely no circumstances would he be sharing my personal information with someone who was not part of my life...

    I'd not contact your dad at all but I'd make it clear to your brother he had a choice of telling him to shut up himself or also not being part of your life.

    I cut contact with my dad 11 years ago.. we went from seeing him 2-3 times a day to never. Life goes on.
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  • pigpen
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    vroombroom wrote: »
    Lol he's back. This time in the form of his latest bit on the side - who has never met me. She sent me a message on facebook about woe-is-me father and how we should all feel sorry for him, how I need to contact him etc etc....sent her a polite message back telling to keep her opinion to herself and not to contact me again.....honestly, some people!


    why reply? just block her!


    and change your setting so only those who are friends can contact you .. or only certain people of your friends even! Noone contacts me without my say so.
    LB moment 10/06 Debt Free date 6/6/14
    Hope to be debt free until the day I die
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  • vroombroom
    vroombroom Posts: 1,117 Forumite
    pigpen wrote: »
    why reply? just block her!


    I have blocked her but I'm not having some woman who knows nothing about me telling me what she thinks is best for me ;-)
    :j:jOur gorgeous baby boy born 2nd May 2011 - 12 days overdue!!:j:j
  • pigpen
    pigpen Posts: 41,152 Forumite
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    vroombroom wrote: »
    I have blocked her but I'm not having some woman who knows nothing about me telling me what she thinks is best for me ;-)


    Lol.. is that not every other person on the planet?

    everyone always knows best!
    LB moment 10/06 Debt Free date 6/6/14
    Hope to be debt free until the day I die
    Mortgage-free Wannabee (05/08/30)
    6/6/14 £72,454.65 (5.65% int.)
    08/12/2023 £33602.00 (4.81% int.)
  • piglet74
    piglet74 Posts: 2,157 Forumite
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    Block the new girlfriend, change your number so your dad cant get in touch, and tell your brother that he is not to pass on any information about you to your dad, or any messages from your dad back to you

    Make it really clear to your brother that you mean it and you will not be asking again!

    Good luck,
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