Hate living on my own - time to sell?

Thatsthespirit

I live in a small but new build flat, which I bought late 2013 with my then girlfriend through the help to buy scheme. We split up Spring 2014 but because everything was in my name she simply moved out no complications.

However, almost 2 years on I still can't get the hang of living on my own business. I hate it and although most people would consider me to be in a 'great position' at my age (I'm 23) and all the great benefits of it I just can't cut it.

Bills wise I just about manage but it's not that. I also am no way going through the processes of having a lodger whether it be a friend or stranger. The flat is nowhere big enough for 2 people and I still to this day believe that's a big reason it didn't work out for me and my ex. We were always getting under each others feet.

The only other option would be to meet another girl but that's an unfair frame of mind to get into.

I could go and move back in with my mom but she lives 30 miles away from me, so would mean quitting my low paying job. Could I do anything with the money I gained from selling this flat, such as starting something - I don't know, but when happiness comes first and still being kind of young would I be mad to sell now?

McKneff

You don't seem to be seeing past 'shall I sell' and selling.


What would you do after that..... buy something and live on your own......


Have you thought about taking a 'live in' job, Hotel, nanny etc.

elsien

If you don't want to live on your own, don't want a lodger (so you wouldn't suit a houseshare) what are your other options?
Do you really want to move back to live with mum till (if) you meet someone else?

What's the issue with living on your own? Maybe that's what you need to resolve before quitting your job and selling up.

PasturesNew

Could you get a 2nd job locally that's in keeping with what a young man might consider "fun".... e.g. anything in the pub/entertainment trade. That way you'd spend less time at home, be getting paid - and getting paid to be in an environment where others are paying to be there.

The income's immaterial, so long as the hours/establishment are to your liking.

Thatsthespirit

elsien wrote: »

If you don't want to live on your own, don't want a lodger (so you wouldn't suit a houseshare) what are your other options?
Do you really want to move back to live with mum till (if) you meet someone else?

What's the issue with living on your own? Maybe that's what you need to resolve before quitting your job and selling up.

I get too lonely and feel like my life has already been laid out in front of me.

I go to work, get home, cook my tea, do the washing rinse and repeat. I don't particularly have the money to go out all the time (yes I know I said I get by but I'm always careful with my money)

I'm 23 for Christ's sake. I feel like I haven't lived yet. I finished School at 16 and went straight into a dead end job. I've only been abroad once. I left my previous job last November for another place but it's not work I hate, it's everything around it.

burnoutbabe

well is that flat 2 bedded? Why not rent the whole flat out and live at home for a year. or a flatshare.

Pixie5740

If you sell you'll need to live somewhere so where would that be? Would you move back in with your mum? Do you think you'll be happier living with your mum again? Does your mum want you to move back?

If you bought the property using HTB in 2013 how much money do you think your pocket if you sell?

You're not happy with your current line of work what would you like to do instead? What careers tickle your fancy?

Counting_Pennies_2

Due to a medical issue I ended up in hospital when I was due to do my A-levels, so in the end had to leave school and get a job.


I had a dead end job but it was enough to get a low mortgage. I bought my first flat aged 18. It wasn't great in terms of size or location, however what it did give me was freedom. I had £5 a week to spend after bills and petrol.


I didn't see it as stopping me doing anything, I felt I had the freedom to do what I wanted when I wanted.


I met up with friends, invited them to mine, cooked meals. Went out at weekends, just didn't go crazy.


I then worked hard at getting higher paid work, doing qualifications and slowly built up a career.


I wouldn't see it as the flat that is causing you issues, I think it is more your mind set. It sounds as if you are feeling trapped.


Have you thought about renting it out (can you do so in the terms of your agreement?) if so maybe rent it out and go into lodgings and see if you feel any better

Serendipitious

If you are able to, then renting it out could be a good plan, but I must admit I don't know what the terms and conditions are (if any) regarding renting out a property bought with the help to buy scheme.

You've done the hard bit as getting the first house or flat is always the hardest to achieve, so it would be beneficial if you can hang to the ownership of it for a while even if you don't want to live there yourself.

If you can rent it out, it frees you up to travel, work abroad perhaps, or simply just move elsewhere for work.

I totally understand how living alone can be boring and lonely, and working in the leisure industry might just the thing to liven things up a bit. The world's your oyster really, as you are not tied down apart from the flat.

Good luck.

DUTR

Thatsthespirit wrote: »

I live in a small but new build flat, which I bought late 2013 with my then girlfriend through the help to buy scheme. We split up Spring 2014 but because everything was in my name she simply moved out no complications.

However, almost 2 years on I still can't get the hang of living on my own business. I hate it and although most people would consider me to be in a 'great position' at my age (I'm 23) and all the great benefits of it I just can't cut it.

Bills wise I just about manage but it's not that. I also am no way going through the processes of having a lodger whether it be a friend or stranger. The flat is nowhere big enough for 2 people and I still to this day believe that's a big reason it didn't work out for me and my ex. We were always getting under each others feet.

The only other option would be to meet another girl but that's an unfair frame of mind to get into.

I could go and move back in with my mom but she lives 30 miles away from me, so would mean quitting my low paying job. Could I do anything with the money I gained from selling this flat, such as starting something - I don't know, but when happiness comes first and still being kind of young would I be mad to sell now?

See post #8, I too had my 1st place when I was 23, I remember the 1st electric bill less than £7 and I wondered how I was going to pay it.
In the longer run it will be worth it, just doesn't feel like it right now.
23? You still have lots going for you, not sure what the problem is with getting a new GF? You'll wonder why you were moping over the last one before too long.
Good luck and remember to bag it if you don't want to be getting in real trouble.

LilElvis

You haven't mentioned friends. Have you invited them round - nothing big, simple food, watch a film, PlayStation, a chat and relax?