How do you split expenses?

lika_86

They earn more, they DESERVE to keep more of their money.

I'm not sure this is always true. I'm in the same profession as my boyfriend and earn more because my chosen area and type of employer happens to pay more than his does. We both work hard in demanding jobs, and so I wouldn't say I deserve my level disposable income more than he does.

It sounds like the OP's partner isn't being unfair by suggesting paying bills proportionate to their income though.

166million

I think work out your 'shared' costs, rent, council tax, utilities, tv licence, internet, food,etc. Then split those 50-50 (or another proportion if one of you earn significantly more)

Then the rest is up to you individually. If one of you has more 'disposable income' perhaps they will buy you nice presents. Perhaps they will save more for your future life together. Perhaps you will both spend every penny on jellybeans. Who knows

FBaby

They earn more, they DESERVE to keep more of their money.

As long as it is to spend more on you

Seriously where does that 'deserving' notion come from? The only thing that one deserves is honesty so if OP's partner wasn't happy with sharing some of his income, he should have made it clear to OP before they moved in together.

166million

FBaby wrote: »

As long as it is to spend more on you

Seriously where does that 'deserving' notion come from? The only thing that one deserves is honesty so if OP's partner wasn't happy with sharing some of his income, he should have made it clear to OP before they moved in together.

I think if you earn a wage for your work you deserve to spend it in any way you see fit, whether you are in a relationship or not.

KRB2725

We used to work out all household expenses, then allocate x amount for ourselves for personal spending. Everything else was saved.

Essentially the higher earner was saving more, but this was for our combined future so we were both happy with that. Had we separated then the savings would have been split in the same proportion they were saved.

LilElvis

queryy wrote: »

They thought that they were already being generous splitting everything 50-50 when I spend more money on travel. But they then offered to split bills and travel proportional to income. But isn't that still unfair since they will be left with more spending money than me?

Simple solutions.

1) Get a job nearer to home to cut your travel costs.
2) Get a job which pays more.
3) Get a new boyfriend who is prepared to keep you in the style to which you would like to become accustomed.

pickledonionspaceraider

PasturesNew wrote: »

They earn more, they DESERVE to keep more of their money.

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I agree with this sentiment.

pollypenny

How many of you are involved?

You keep saying 'them' and 'they'?. If it's just two of you, divide joint expenses and go from there with him or her,

korky69

my wife & i go dutch on every essential bill,
luxurious like mobiles we pay our own, i pay sky, she pays bt
i earn more than my wife but wouldn't think to pay bills pro rata,
i could argue that with her been home more it runs the bills up more,
she could argue the pixies who do the washing & ironing want a pay rise ;-)

GlasweJen

I'm in a similar position, much lower earner.

We get paid in our individual accounts, transfer the lot to the joint account minus our work expenses and spending money.

Direct debits come out joint account for household bills and any left over goes to joint savings account. When the new tax year starts we will fill our ISA allowances first and then keep topping up the savings account.