Closest thing to "civil partnership" for couple who are not same-sex.

HanSpan

I've never wanted to be married - not since I was 12 and I'm nearly 50 now! However my SO and I are now in the situation that we could really do with the legal and financial benefits of marriage.
We can't legally have a civil partnership in the UK (I'm female he is male) and we seemingly can't even do so abroad, or where we can it wouldn't be recognised here.

I'm investigating where we can get married (that will be legally recognised here) with the least rules about what we must say, and where there is not the inherent sexism of only the father's name/occupation being on the certificate. We are planning a trip to the US - Texas and Louisiana - for my 50th so I wondered if the laws there are different, but I'm struggling to find details of the legal requirements in terms of words and certificates.

Any help gratefully received!

TonyMMM

The standard two legal vows required in a UK civil ceremony are very basic - what is it you don't want to include ?

There is no requirement to include your father's details on the certificate if you don't want to.

Scottish marriage records include both parents I think, if that is what you want and they have more options in terms of types of ceremony.... perhaps that is where to go ?

pmlindyloo

Legal words that must be included

http://www.haringey.gov.uk/births-death-and-marriages/marriages-and-civil-partnerships/personalising-your-ceremony/ceremony-scripts-and-words

Spendless

I married in Florida. I am pretty sure (without having to dig out the certificate) that my father's name and occupation aren't listed on it. My marriage is recognised here.

theoretica

I agree with the suggestion to look at Scotland - you do need to declare you are marrying, but don't need to use words given in pmlindyloo's link.

creased-leach

There will be a judicial review very soon; with a hefty dose of luck, it will lead to civil partnerships being available to heterosexual couples. Here's the background.
[URL="http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/nov/01/heterosexual-civil-partnerships-is-this-the-end-of-marriage][/url]

nearlyrich

We married in New Orleans there is no mention of father's name on the cert however they did put my maiden name and my previous married name on...
We had a very simple ceremony with just us the judge and 2 of his staff as witnesses. We went in the morning and booked the wedding and after sorting out the paperwork we went back to the chambers and got married. Having organized a UK church wedding with my DD it was very different.

TonyMMM

creased-leach wrote: »

There will be a judicial review very soon; with a hefty dose of luck, it will lead to civil partnerships being available to heterosexual couples. Here's the background.
[URL="http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/nov/01/heterosexual-civil-partnerships-is-this-the-end-of-marriage][/url]

Or it may lead to equality being restored by civil partnerships being withdrawn for everyone ....

onomatopoeia99

In Italy the bride and groom only have to each say "Si" (yes) at one point in the ceremony. At least, that was all my brother and his wife had to say, all the talking was done by the local government functionary that conducted the ceremony. And it was all done sitting down, and 36C in September in the Lakes.

As wedding ceremonies go, it was pretty much my ideal. Also, being Italy, the food was fabulous, the people were lovely and it was less than half the cost of a Wedding in the UK.

Person_one

You can decline to have your father's details included on the certificate and it can be left blank.

Person_one

creased-leach wrote: »

There will be a judicial review very soon; with a hefty dose of luck, it will lead to civil partnerships being available to heterosexual couples. Here's the background.
[URL="http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/nov/01/heterosexual-civil-partnerships-is-this-the-end-of-marriage][/url]

I can't see any reason why we need two names for the same thing.

It would make more sense to iron out the final few remaining (minor) problems with marriage and just get rid of CPs.

Then we can just look back on them as a bad memory of a time when we as a country couldn't quite bring ourselves to treat same sex couples equally.