it's a bit depressing being single this time of year, do you agree?

PasturesNew

I don't give it a second thought. Certainly not envious of couples cuddling in public etc.

What you DO need though are good/reliable people who you like being with, who are as available as you are, to be able to arrange things to do/places to go with. That's the real issue.... there's a shortage of people that fit this category.

Finding friends, who you like, who are reliable, who fancy doing what you fancy doing .... nigh on impossible.

barbarawright

Being single doesn't have to mean being alone. Too many people in couples think they don't need friends.

Wilma33

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

do you ever see other couples kissing, laughing or whatever it may be and feel a bit envious?

Every time I see a couple bickering I think "I'm soooo glad I'm not in a bad relationship!" (I'm single).

SailorSam

I'm not sure. I do miss not having a partner.But i'd rather be by myself than having someone just to make a couple up.
I'm on PoF so i suppose you could say i'm searching , and i've had knock-backs but i've been the one sometimes knocking someone back. So i suppose if it was just any partner i wanted, i wouldn't have done that.
But i've always said i think NYE is the worse night of the year to be on your own.

Deep_In_Debt

I was in a relationship for nearly 19 years until about 4 years ago. The first Christmas and New Year was hard but it doesn't bother me now. I'm happy on my own and enjoy my own company.

Like above posters have said, it would be nice to have someone to go on holiday with but apart from that, it doesn't bother me.

barbarawright

PasturesNew wrote: »

I don't give it a second thought. Certainly not envious of couples cuddling in public etc.

What you DO need though are good/reliable people who you like being with, who are as available as you are, to be able to arrange things to do/places to go with. That's the real issue.... there's a shortage of people that fit this category.

Finding friends, who you like, who are reliable, who fancy doing what you fancy doing .... nigh on impossible.

Is it? I have friends - going on 4 holidays with friends before Easter. You just need to be a good friend yourself

phill99

No! Being single means I spend Christmas with people that I want to spend Christmas with, which includes being on my own (by choice) if I want to. There is nothing worse than having to spend time with in laws, out laws, dysfunctional brother in laws and vomiting, screaming badly behaved children who you cant tell off.

chiefie

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

well i feel a bit stupid for moaning after a mere 4 months now lol. do you ever see other couples kissing, laughing or whatever it may be and feel a bit envious? it's weird because this is how i've been feeling. i didn't think being single would affect me as much as it has. i have been single before but i had a different mindset i think.

i split up amicably with my first wife around June time 20 odd years ago. But the first Christmas was hard, everyone I knew seemed to be in a relationship. I became obsessed with getting into a relationship but luckily after some weird dates I got used to it and became content and lost the sort of jealousy I was feeling. And then, guess what, just when you are not looking ........., I suppose my point is don't be hard on yourself but give yourself some time and don't jump into anything.

kingfisherblue

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

well i feel a bit stupid for moaning after a mere 4 months now lol. do you ever see other couples kissing, laughing or whatever it may be and feel a bit envious? it's weird because this is how i've been feeling. i didn't think being single would affect me as much as it has. i have been single before but i had a different mindset i think.

I spent the first year a bit of a mess - I'd been with my ex since I was 17, and he left when I was 35. I did date a little in the second year, but only when my mum could babysit.

Since then, I haven't been on a date at all. My friends are mostly in relationships, and although I volunteer, Guiding is almost exclusively women . I don't envy other people though. It's a negative emotion and I don't have the energy for that. I'd rather concentrate on the positive things in my life.

One of my children is disabled and I think that might put people off. If that's the case, I'd rather not date them.

I do like the sound of someone on MSE (and no, I'm not saying who! ), but they're probably totally different in real life. I know Tigstroonie and Marley met on MSE, and they seem to be very happy together, but I can't imagine sending a PM to a poster who is a stranger to me in real life, and probably doesn't even know I exist. Imagine the embarrassment :embarasse if they didn't want to meet for a coffee, or worse, posts about it on here :eek:

Let's change the subject

catoutthebag

I see where you're coming from op. I've been split from a ltr nearly 1.5 years ago now. I created a thread about it. I still think about her sporadically. In fact, as recent as this morning.

But I've had a great 2015: bought own place, 2 solo trips away (walk at your own pace, do yer own thing), various gigs and cinema trips thar she wouldn't have done etc.

I've been online dating too. I'm quite attractive and been on ~15 dates. I could have been on double that, but declined. I recently broke the heart of a girl few weeks ago who wanted to see me again . I'm fussy & often not confident

Listen to this as I was today and best for you to let it out & have a good cry :think:

Lenny welch - since I fell for you

Time - time is all you need (this one's not a song)