Frump to Fab 2016 - Lets make it AWESOME!!!

lessonlearned

Thanks Ellsbell

Yes I'm still undecided about accessories, I might just stick to neutrals rather than brights. Or maybe a combination.......say grey hat and shoes, with either cream or a coloured bag and flower or ribbon for the hat.

TBH I do actually prefer neutrals on me and I do think they can look "tres chic" but I'm a bit nervous that too much grey or silver might make me look a bit "ghostly".

I don't want to look too "bland". I am very conscious that DILs family are so typically dark Latino beauties that I might looked washed out by comparison. They are all going to be wearing bright vivid Jewell like colours. Fab on them but they would just look garish on me.

They will look like exotic birds of paradise compared to my pale "English Rose".

I don't want to feel uncomfortable by wearing bright colours that dont really suit me or which make me feel self conscious.

I'm not trying to "compete" with either the bride or her family - it's her day after all, but I don't want to disappoint my son.

So ladies, all advice, ideas and comments will be very much appreciated.......

maddiemay

LL - I love the dress that you have shown and your other outfits sound so smart and sophisticated, as Ellsbel says tres, tres chic.

Chanie - I love pretty/interesting tins and boxes, but I have banned myself from buying as I could get a bit carried away:o

Ellsbel - DS new furniture sounds lovely and it will be good to see it looking pristine and might encourage him (if he needs it) to put his things away tidily (sorry have forgotten age:o)

I have just come back from seeing cranial osteopath, my jaw feels so much more comfortable:D, but I have just realised that I have missed an appointment for a massage, so cross with myself, I really need to buck up and make sure that everything is noted in the correct place. Just on my way round with a note of apology and the fee:(. I wish that all these treatments were not so expensive, but count myself lucky that I can afford to benefit from other people's skill and expertise, the NHS cannot cover everthing.

Need to prepare something nutritious and tasty for supper, OH ate out and I find it too easy not to bother with much when it just for me:(

chanie

elsbell/maddie I'm quite good in that I only buy tins if I have something specific I need to store. I once saw a really nice mini wire shopping basket in T K Maxx, but I couldn't think of a use for it.

ll your dress is lovely, very elegant, but not too fussy. I think you should play up the 'English rose' at the wedding. From what you've posted, it seems to suit you and you are better off playing to your strengths that trying to be something you aren't. I think a pop of colour e.g. a pashmina will look lovely and may make you feel a more colourful. Aim to be the best possible you and don't worry about what everyone else will be wearing.

I have 3 weddings to go to this year and luckily, I can get away with wearing the same outfit to all of them. I really need to find something to wear.

lollyfin

Your dress is beautiful ll
I have kondoed most of my house and the difference is massive in time saving, cleaning takes a lot less time and I can find things when I need them not days later.
My advice would be start with your undies drawer, be ruthless (I was left with hardly anything) fold it all the way she recommends and replace what you need with things you really love. We all deserve to be surrounded with things we love rather than settling for just so so

sugarbaby125

Lesson Learned you seem to have made some very wise choices for yourself. That is a very elegant dress. If bright colours are not you, then go for more muted colours for your accessories.

The most important thing is for you to feel comfortable in your own skin on the day of the Wedding as there will be a lot of eyes on you as well and you will want to be as confident as possible.

lessonlearned

Thanks for all the feedback ladies.

The more I think about it I will stick with neutrals with maybe just a slash of colour for a pashmina or wrap. A la Judi Dench......:rotfl: I think neutrals suit me better with my white hair.

I looked out my shoes last night,I have a blue/grey pair which I wore with the blue dress and jacket and I also have a "nude" pair which go with most neutral colours so they would go with both the grey dress and the champagne coloured one.

I think I will match headgear to the dresses rather than going for contrasts and then I can just add "accents" of colour, ie a pashmina, ribbon or flowers to a hat, or maybe a clutch bag.

I have a nice diamond necklace to wear with the blue outfit and pearls for the grey dress. So I think I'm about sorted really, only a few bits and bobs to buy now.

And thankfully I havent broken the bank, all outfits were bought in the sales and they can all be worn again. Posh meals out, theatre trips, any party or wedding invites that might come my way, cruises, a day at the races.

So apart from ordinary day wear that's my summer wardrobe taken care of. I already have a couple of nice dresses and lightweight trousers that I bought for the cruise so just need some new tops to ring the changes.

I love going to the races, haven't been for years but might try and go This year. Last one was Ascot with "the girls" the year before my husband got sick. My niece has been schooling her horse and he's about ready to show this year so again there should be some opportunities to wear my finery.......:D

Well after my gallivanting yesterday I am going to knuckle down today and deep clean the kitchen. The oven is a disgrace.......:eek: :rotfl:

Ellsbel

Sounds good LL - I'd popped in quickly to suggest staying neutral clothing wise and going for a splash of colour with your make up instead - warm pink lips and nails for instance, or violet/amethyst shades on your eye area, but it sounds like you have it all figured out - you'll look great
Up and showered here - just putting on make up and drying hair; I'm continuing/properly starting Kondoing today so apart from dog walking and a few errands I'm not going out, but the penny has finally dropped that if I'm not up, showered and reasonably fabbed by 9-ish, then I tend to be a bit lethargic all day!!!
Back later

lessonlearned

Yes, I think I have got it all more or less sorted in my head now. Neutrals and just a splash of accent colour rather than going for brights.

It's the same principle I use for interior design, keep the big ticket items neutral and then just ring the ranges with a few accents.

Anyway, a big thank you to all you lovely ladies for your input.

Horrible day here, raining again. Need to pop out later but in the meantime that kitchen awaits......

maman

Just wanted to add that I think you've made a wise choice with neutrals LL . I agree with Ellsbel that hot pink or lilac would work well as accent colours. Money spent on a decent pashmina is always worthwhile and they're so soft they work well as a scarf with winter coats and jackets too.

coppers

Hi Fabbers, I think you will look great at the wedding LL, Im sure you smile will be the just the thing for setting off your whole look, I feel for you being Mother of the Groom is a tricky thing to be, you don't want to outshine the Mother of the Bride but it is still such a big day for your son, you & your family and you need to make an effort. I wore green & silver (pewter) for my sons wedding & I found I soon tired of the hat & heels & changed into a hairband and flats after the ceromony. Comfort was so important, it helped me relax.

I was interested to read about sandwich generation, ive never heard of that before it kind of sums me up although I'm mid 40's. this is something i posted on the flylady thread.
I'll tell you all a little about me, at home I've got my DH, both my parents DM & DF, & adult DS2, My DF & DS2 both need a level of care, which myself & DM share along with the housework of which I don't like DM to do too much as she is a pensioner but she likes to do her bit, I also do shift work in a physical job outside the home, I also have DS1, DDIL & DGD & DGS in my life too but they live in their own home.

Fab wise, I'm now trying out contacts, I'm wearing the correct bra size (From Primark) now after being fitted at Debenhams, my clothes really do look/hang better. It's worth braving being fitted ladies.