Parking rights issue with neighbour

talisker1947

Doozergirl wrote: »

The tension was created by your passive aggressive note. I doubt that a solicitor's letter is going to help anything!

A sensible conversation and - I'm sorry - a bit of leeway for people to have a visitor park for a bit or even, shock horror, to forget the car overnight - would have been the best option.

You have to remember that getting on with your neighbours is actually more important than the occassional bit of errant parking. You're finding now that they have two cars and are playing to exact boundaries etc that being completely to the letter isn't always the best option.

Quite simply, if you had ever wanted to access to your garage on the few occassions they were parked on it, I am sure that asking politely would have been met with an apology and the car moved.

Make friends with them, not everyone's life hard.

Are you serious?

The neighbour started behaving like a cheeky muppet, exploiting my kindness and parking in front of my garage access on land that belongs to my title. We are past the friendly neighbours part because they are cheeky and wanted to ruin our relationship by ignoring an informal approach for the bleeding obvious. If you had bothered to read my post you would also read that we had a "sensible" conversation with the neighbour from the very first day.

My home is not a charitable car park for other people's visitors. I paid a premium to buy a property with off-street parking and clear deeds to avoid parking disputes. It is my right to enforce it when other people are attempting to disrespect the title repeatedly.

As I wrote in my post the street is generally empty for them to park their cars. If the neighbour is not happy driving a few yards down the road to park then they are free to sell and buy elsewhere!

You cannot seriously suggest that I should ask a cheeky neighbour "politely" to let me access my rightful garage. Should I bake them a cake as well?

Dan-Dan

talisker1947 wrote: »

Should I bake them a cake as well?

g_m says yes

talisker1947

ljonski wrote: »

If you go down this route, you will have to declare this dispute on selling your house in the future. Maybe let the matter drop!

Are you suggesting that I should let the neighbour park his car in my drive when he pleases then?!

moneyistooshorttomention

Doozergirl wrote: »

And it isn't a co-incidence that you have your own neighbour dispute.

Now what was your phrase again? You know that "passive aggressive" one - ahem...if the cap fits....

The neighbours concerned seem to be leaving me alone these days at last - but one of the bad neighbours is conducting these "parking wars" with the other one of these bad neighbours. Rather proves my point...

.....but I'm glad they're just sticking to slugging it out between themselves these days and leaving me out of it at last:)

J_B

talisker1947 wrote: »

Should I bake them a cake as well?

maybe just some mince pies perhaps

heretohelp

if you are not bothered about getting on with your neighbours anymore padlock the gate and just tell them for access to give you 24hr notice.

moneyistooshorttomention

heretohelp wrote: »

if you are not bothered about getting on with your neighbours anymore padlock the gate and just tell them for access to give you 24hr notice.

That isn't actually a good idea - or legal. Down to those neighbours having the right of access too and its not possible to block it by law.

phoenix_w

Have to agree that passive aggressive notes have soured things. You'd have been better off knocking on their doors at inconvenient times to ask them to move their car because you can't get your lawnmower/collection of old dishwashers through the gate. A few occasions like that and they wouldn't dare to block your access for more than a few minutes.

Doozergirl

phoenix_w wrote: »

Have to agree that passive aggressive notes have soured things. You'd have been better off knocking on their doors at inconvenient times to ask them to move their car because you can't get your lawnmower/collection of old dishwashers through the gate. A few occasions like that and they wouldn't dare to block your access for more than a few minutes.

Absolutely.

You set the boundaries, politely. These people were allowed to park there constantly before the OP moved in. The fact they made an effort not to do almost all of the time shows that they aren't entirely unreasonable and a willing to be good neighbours. Just pointing them a bit more to where the boundaries are, if they encroached on goodwill, would probably have been enough.

Doozergirl

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Now what was your phrase again? You know that "passive aggressive" one - ahem...if the cap fits....

The neighbours concerned seem to be leaving me alone these days at last - but one of the bad neighbours is conducting these "parking wars" with the other one of these bad neighbours. Rather proves my point...

.....but I'm glad they're just sticking to slugging it out between themselves these days and leaving me out of it at last:)

I'm glad it's gone away.

There's nothing passive aggressive about what I post to you. This is an anonymous forum where there is no choice but to converse with text. I'd quite happily talk to you personally if there were a choice of options.

No one should write notes to their next door neighbour. If one expects an adult response, one should go in for adult dialogue.