(vent) that time of year again

DigForVictory

If nothing else, plan next year a darn sight more carefully.
This year is unfortunate, but you can still salvage quite a lot with judicious negotiation. Bribes, lavish presents, actually talking to each other - the little exotic things that make Christmas special.
Next year, if a repeat of this, is sheer folly.
Best of luck!

Homeownertobe

Your sons will always be your sons, your wife will never be anything more than that. From what you've said, she sounds like she's angling to be your first ex-wife quite soon.

harrys_nan

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

Your wife is unreasonable.

Go pick up your son. Let her stew

and LOL at the ''one day off'' marlarky, when she only does 2-3 hours anyway. I would not even class that as going 'to work'

One day scientists will discover the centre of the universe, and she will be horrified when they realise it is not her

This I agree with, your sons are your family and she should accept them warts and all. Good for you for wanting to see them, a lot of absent parents don't.

Kaye1

Sons.


That's it.

lisa110rry

I haven't seen my 'older' son since July and before that was January 2014. Okay, it's because he lives a long, long way away, is married and working in the UAE, and has only 3 days off, but I would say sons, hands down. You may no longer be married to their mothers but a son/daughter is always that and to be loved. How much would I love my son to just materialise on Christmas Day? I cannot tell you. If he did, we would cancel everything and drive to the airport to collect him, even though we have invited a friend to Christmas lunch. It would have to be Christmas supper. I'd love to have him and his lovely wife with us for Chrimbo...or any other day. Soon we will visit...

Beckyy

You can't please everyone, you'll still see far more of your wife even on the days she's at work. Enjoy the time with your sons

arbroath_lass

Children come first at Christmas, no matter their age. Your wife is being unreasonable. She should get her priorities straight and go with you. I can't believe an adult would "not like" her partner's child, high time she grew up.

tea_lover

Why did you marry someone who doesn't like your children?

tomdickharry

thanks for the input

just to clarify, i knew my time off over xmas ages ago, but my wife only found out hers last week and my son only started his job a month or so ago and was unsure, hence the issue.
i may have been hasty with my "dislike" comment but there can be friction between my youngest and wife but he can be a pain in the !!!!.

picking my eldest up as planned still

tooties

It would appear to me that there has either been a miss communication regarding picking up your son, or a breakdown in communication between you and your wife regarding this matter.

I think you both need to talk.

regards