Christmas Dilemma - WWYD?

pigpen

I'd leave the 1 in hospital and be with the 5 year old.. and all go visit the other so you can all be together for at least a short time.

fizz

Move the family to the hospital or as near as can be. Can't believe you are asking the question tbh.

fizz.x

Saffagal

Pinkshoes, I'm sorry to hear LO won't be out this week, but in your shoes I would choose to do as you are and go home with dd and ds1. The twins don't have any idea of Christmas, but to ds1 it is a big deal, and he will remember it in years to come as is old enough.

My youngest brother and sister-in-law are twins and bil spent the first month of life in hospital; whilst mil and sil were home. It wasn't even an option for mil to go up every day to see him as she had 12 other children to look after at the same time (4 of those were under 5). The hospital bil was moved to for most of that month was a 2hr return journey so mil was only able to visit once a week when her husband could take her and someone else could look after the older children.

Take care, and wishing you all the best,
Saf x

RuthnJasper

fizz wrote: »

Move the family to the hospital or as near as can be. Can't believe you are asking the question tbh.

fizz.x

To be fair, we don't know exactly what options are open to Pinkshoes. It may not be practical, affordable or even physically possible for them all as a family to decamp to an hotel - and she has already stated that the hospital's family-rooms and flats are all occupied. The OP is doing her best in very trying circumstances. She has also satisfied herself that Third Pinkshoe /Twin 2 will be lovingly tendered-to and cared for during her temporary absence.

Without knowing the fine details of this situation, I continue to think that the OP has made the right choice for all concerned. She has every right to sound-out the forum and ask whatever she wants to.

Happy Christmas to you too, anyway. x

enthusiasticsaver

Difficult situation for you but I think you have gone for the least worst option as at least you will be around for your little boy who will understand what is going on and I am sure your baby will be well cared for. My own little granddaughter was tube fed although she was born at 37 weeks not 34 so a little less prem. She was in fact sent home with my daughter and SIL with the tube still in after a week in hospital and they were shown how to care for her and luckily she was taking full feeds within a further week. I hope you have both babies home with you soon.

System

I'd do Christmas at home with the 5 year old and the twin who's allowed home for the 5 year olds benefit and no other reason.

RuthnJasper

How did it go Pinkshoes? I hope that you and your family had the best Christmas possible in the circumstances.

Most sincerely wishing you and your family the very, very best for 2016. xx

meritaten

best wishes for you and your family - you can only do whatever YOU think is best.
Hope everything went well for you and you had a happy Christmas.
oh and do enjoy the twins - be prepared to be treated like royalty when out with twins...............people seem to be fascinated by them! and ask inane questions - the most frequent of which is 'Are they twins'?

kingfisherblue

Congratulations pinkshoes - I hope you all had a lovely Christmas and that your little boy had a great time. How are your twins getting on? If tube feeding is the only reason that twin 2 is being kept in, you can ask about taking him home.

My son was born with major disabilities and required extensive surgery the day he was born (five weeks early). He had my breastmilk through a tube, along with his medications. My sister asked me why he was staying in, and I replied that he needed tube feeding. It didn't occur to me that I could tube feed. I asked the doctors and they agreed that he could come home once I was confident at tube feeding him. Three days later (because of a bank holiday) we were home. My son had a tube for eleven weeks, but was born with major digestive abnormalities. We even learned to rethread the tube when he pulled it out - and I am definitely not nurse material!

You're probably way too busy to browse MSE at the moment, but I wish you and your family happiness, and hope that twin 2 is home soon.

pinkshoes

Thanks for all the well wishes.

We spent most of christmas day in the hospital, took some presents to open, and had a lovely time. We then went home for an evening meal.

Twin 2 is still in hospital, so we are still making the daily trip back and forth. I am dreading today, as the traffic will pick up again making it a very long journey due to roadworks! Ds1 is being amazing, given spending 4-5 hours a day in hospital isnt his idea of fun.

Twin 2 is making good progress though, and is now gaining weight. he just needs to feed himself rather than being reliant on tube feeds And then hopefully can come home!

All i do is express milk, feed babies, go back and forth to the hospital, and occasionally remember to eat and sleep! Surviving though!