Work Stress

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FBaby wrote: »

Lulu, you are suffering from the symptom of being too efficient and dedicated, and it is such a treasure for your manager and company that they take it for granted.

Yes, I've discovered the hard way that the more efficient and capable you are, the more work you're given.

You are good at your job. Your manager is not good at theirs. This will become glaringly evident at some point; as long as you have documented your efforts to resolve the training issue, don't worry.

lulu_92

Thanks for the support. I've gone into work today, which was a good job as the other girl wasn't in for ages!

I have made a point of seeing if someone else picks up one job, as a test. If anyone asks, I'll say I'm busy, which is true!

I did end up saying something which upset the other girl. Basically my manager has decided that because it's Christmas this other girl should start shadowing me (on things she could have been doing from day 1, I might add). This has annoyed and worried me as I have a lot of appointments and some holidays to use this month and I don't think she'll end up trained to the standard that she'll need to be in the office on her own (which I think she is over Christmas). I said "why has this only been an issue now when we've had months" and she wasn't very happy. I apologised but it has prompted me to draft a rather long email to my manager (which I will copy in my other boss, who is her manager).

Yeah I've got a bit of a victim complex going on, but it's only because I am at the end of my tether

Pollycat

lulu_92 wrote: »

Thanks for the support. I've gone into work today, which was a good job as the other girl wasn't in for ages!

I have made a point of seeing if someone else picks up one job, as a test. If anyone asks, I'll say I'm busy, which is true!

I did end up saying something which upset the other girl. Basically my manager has decided that because it's Christmas this other girl should start shadowing me (on things she could have been doing from day 1, I might add). This has annoyed and worried me as I have a lot of appointments and some holidays to use this month and I don't think she'll end up trained to the standard that she'll need to be in the office on her own (which I think she is over Christmas). I said "why has this only been an issue now when we've had months" and she wasn't very happy. I apologised but it has prompted me to draft a rather long email to my manager (which I will copy in my other boss, who is her manager).

Yeah I've got a bit of a victim complex going on, but it's only because I am at the end of my tether

You sound like me 15 to 20 years ago.
Very conscientious, worrying about training other people in the best way for them etc.
I wouldn't have apologised (actually, I probably would have back then but not now ).
I think you've done the right thing by documenting your concerns upwards - I would advise you to read your email very carefully before sending it to ensure there's no ambiguity.

lulu_92

Pollycat wrote: »

You sound like me 15 to 20 years ago.
Very conscientious, worrying about training other people in the best way for them etc.
I wouldn't have apologised (actually, I probably would have back then but not now ).
I think you've done the right thing by documenting your concerns upwards - I would advice you to read your email very carefully before sending it to ensure there's no ambiguity.

To be honest I didn't want to apologise, as it wasn't aimed towards her at all. The problem with her and another person in our team is that they're very sensitive so you can't even say something firmly to them without them taking offence.

All of these jobs, including training this girl, are seen to be my responsibility, which I refuse to accept. I was never told I had to train this girl. The fact that my manager made me move to another desk so she could train her (we used to sit next to each other) says it all.

Nobody has picked up that job, either. :mad::mad:

If I didn't need the money I'd just quit. This isn't worth it.

lulu_92

So, I ended up talking to my manager in the office as she had noticed I wasn't being very nice today. I broke down and told her exactly how I felt, to be told that the new girl is pregnant and wouldn't be learning much of the job as although she is only 9 weeks, she will be going off on leave at the same time as me. My manager has said she will help me as much as I need.

Not really sure how I feel to be honest. Part of me feels really guilty for getting so worked up, part of me is annoyed she is pregnant and the other part of me wishes I could have an easy last few weeks in the job. Not much I can do about any of it so might as well get on with it! (I know I sound extremely selfish!)

foolofbeans

If you are planning to not return to the job then I don't think you need to worry about training the new girl. Seeing as she will be on maternity leave too I guess she will coast through until she leaves.
I worried about how my boss would cope when I left on maternity leave and left loads of things in place to assist. I found a replacement and had one week to train them and would have gone in a week before my due date if baby hadn't arrived! I was in labour and the first person I told was my boss as I was concerned the new girl needed to loads more than I had had time to tell her.

Do you know what thanks I got? None. I was advised by my manager not to give anybody all the info to do my job as why would they then need me but all I worried about was the business.
I wish I had taken heed and I wish I had cared less as you will never get the thanks you deserve. A job is just that - a JOB.
Count the weeks until you leave and enjoy your time as a parent, it goes so fast. Try not to worry about your job or the new girls job as chances are the business will survive whether you are there or not.

FBaby

I think you are focusing on the wrong matter. You are taking your frustrations on her and what hasn't been done in the past rather than focusing on you and the future.

You are exhausted mentally and therefore reached that stage where you want sympathy rather than being pro-active. Unfortunately, no-one really understand this because they have their own problems, so you will only come across as uncooperative and unpleasant if you continue in that direction.

You don't have to care what happens when you are off on maternity. Believe me, all those concerns that are taking over will go straight of your head the moment you are on maternity leave. Don't let it get to you at this stage, focus on leaving on a positive note.

Let them deal with her, just do what you are asked, do your best to deal with all the work, but what you won't have done will be their issue. Just make sure you do an excellent handover, hightlights the things you couldn't do achieve because of time taken to train her and what are required.

picklekin

I feel bad for you OP, but I also feel really bad for the new girl. What is she doing all day? I wasn't trained when I started my job and spent a lot of my day twiddling my thumbs, there is only so many times a day you can ask your co-workers if there is anything you can help with.

Being without enough to do at work is as stressful as having to much imo.

Pollycat

picklekin wrote: »

I feel bad for you OP, but I also feel really bad for the new girl. What is she doing all day? I wasn't trained when I started my job and spent a lot of my day twiddling my thumbs, there is only so many times a day you can ask your co-workers if there is anything you can help with.

Being without enough to do at work is as stressful as having to much imo.

The OP's manager is supposed to be training the new girl so if anyone's to blame it's the manager.

lulu_92 wrote: »

She is meant to be trained by my manager but so far nothing has happened. She was given one of my jobs to do, with the help of my manager, and I ended up having to do all of the work for it as they forgot to do a lot of it and the deadline was looming. I've spoken to both of my managers about how this was handled.

It doesn't sound like this girl is twiddling her thumbs - more like she can't do the job.

lulu_92

I don't know what she does, to be honest. I've been told they've been giving her tasks, but they aren't taking any of my workload to give to her - the attitude is basically "what's the point if she's going on leave before you?" which sounds bad, I know, but it's not really the fairest solution. My manager is going to take some work off me if I need it, and she has said some things don't need to be done so urgently (but they still need to be done, might as well do it at the same rate I'm doing it now)

It feels better today but only because I know for a fact now that it won't get better so I can resign myself to it.