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ciarasdreams

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

:rotfl: :rotfl: I don't consider myself talented, mostly a mug:cool: I just get myself in situations by helping out every now and then, word gets around and before you know it, aunty agnes's, second cousins two doors down neighbour needs something doing as well and i've told them you don't mind:eek: I don't think you're lacking, as you never know till you do something-so how can you judge? I just try and do things to help budget, of am genuinely interested in it-OH is mostly happy to let me as he gets cross with himself if he can't do something, and i must admit last time we were patio laying and he dropped a slab on his toes- I howled with laughter-so didnt help really:o

Oh dear I think that I can see why laughing did not help in this case. :rotfl: I think that maybe it is just that I have never actually really tried to do anything creative for myself because it has always been far easier lifelong to just go and ask my sister because I know that she will always just say yes no problem and she will also do whatever it is absolutely perfectly which has always been far easier than the concept of possible failure. She actually built me a wooden house and matching furniture and decorated it all for my old classroom at my old school and she managed all of that without even chipping a nail but I cheated and told everybody else that I had made it myself and then I lived in terror of anybody asking me to help them with anything.

Jo4

ciarasdreams wrote: »

She actually built me a wooden house and matching furniture and decorated it all for my old classroom at my old school and she managed all of that without even chipping a nail but I cheated and told everybody else that I had made it myself and then I lived in terror of anybody asking me to help them with anything.

What are you like???:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

ciarasdreams

Jo4 wrote: »

What are you like???:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I know that that was a really terrible and shocking thing to do but I just could not help myself because they were always being mean to me and making jokes at my expense about how miserable I was and about me being single and unable to get a boyfriend. :mad:

Jo4

ciarasdreams wrote: »

I know that that was a really terrible and shocking thing to do but I just could not help myself because they were always being mean to me and making jokes at my expense about how miserable I was and about me being single and unable to get a boyfriend. :mad:

It wasn't a really terrible and shocking thing to do; it was imaginative and quick thinking. They were probably being mean to you because they envied you. I once had a boss like that. She roared at me one day in front of customers and other staff members and demanded that I get into her office immediately. When I went into the office she said she had noticed what way my husband and I got on, how we spoke to each other, how we interacted, how we were both like a child on Christmas morning when we seen each other. She said she would like my marriage and she would do anything to have it. She said she didn’t even have a relationship never mind a marriage like I had. She said she would swap her degree for my marriage any day; I was doing a degree at the time. I didn’t miss her when I left but I felt sorry for her because she always went for a married man who was still with his wife and their family. She has been with a married man who is at least 20 years older than her for the last 7 years. His son, with his wife, is less than 10 years older than my old boss. Her parents don’t think she should have boyfriends as in their opinion “She is only 31 years old”.

ciarasdreams

Jo4 wrote: »

It wasn't a really terrible and shocking thing to do; it was imaginative and quick thinking. They were probably being mean to you because they envied you. I once had a boss like that. She roared at me one day in front of customers and other staff members and demanded that I get into her office immediately. When I went into the office she said she had noticed what way my husband and I got on, how we spoke to each other, how we interacted, how we were both like a child on Christmas morning when we seen each other. She said she would like my marriage and she would do anything to have it. She said she didn’t even have a relationship never mind a marriage like I had. She said she would swap her degree for my marriage any day; I was doing a degree at the time. I didn’t miss her when I left but I felt sorry for her because she always went for a married man who was still with his wife and their family. She has been with a married man who is at least 20 years older than her for the last 7 years. His son, with his wife, is less than 10 years older than my old boss. Her parents don’t think she should have boyfriends as in their opinion “She is only 31 years old”.

Oh dear I am in no way an expert on relationships in fact quite the opposite but did you suggest to her that interpersonal skills maybe had a lot to do with her less than happy personal life?

boredofbeingathome

ciarasdreams wrote: »

Oh dear I think that I can see why laughing did not help in this case. :rotfl: I think that maybe it is just that I have never actually really tried to do anything creative for myself because it has always been far easier lifelong to just go and ask my sister because I know that she will always just say yes no problem and she will also do whatever it is absolutely perfectly which has always been far easier than the concept of possible failure. She actually built me a wooden house and matching furniture and decorated it all for my old classroom at my old school and she managed all of that without even chipping a nail but I cheated and told everybody else that I had made it myself and then I lived in terror of anybody asking me to help them with anything.

Your sister sounds like me a bit-I used to build all the stuff for my children, have made castles with little boy and i really love that stuff. My sister is exactly the same and she can plaster, has hair extensions and beautiful nails as well. We had three brothers to contend with so never let them get the better of us:cool: Both of our ambitions are to build our own houses- just call me Bob the builder- She's jack!!:rotfl:

ciarasdreams

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

Your sister sounds like me a bit-I used to build all the stuff for my children, have made castles with little boy and i really love that stuff. My sister is exactly the same and she can plaster, has hair extensions and beautiful nails as well. We had three brothers to contend with so never let them get the better of us:cool: Both of our ambitions are to build our own houses- just call me Bob the builder- She's jack!!:rotfl:

I am feeling a bit guilty about relying on her so much for everything and I am determined now that I will actually try and do some things for myself but the trouble is that I know that I will just never be as good no matter how hard that I try.

boredofbeingathome

EEEE, you will you know. Everyone is good at the thing they are good at- its the keep getting up and trying which makes them the winner. look at Rocky. Bless him.

ciarasdreams

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

EEEE, you will you know. Everyone is good at the thing they are good at- its the keep getting up and trying which makes them the winner. look at Rocky. Bless him.

..maybe but then was he not make believe? I can just not quite picture myself in a DIY store talking about sizes and weights and types of wood that would be most suited to my project let alone the best way to cut it and what type of joints to make in it let alone what on earth I would use to hold it all together. However this is just going to have to be my year for learning and then my mother might might finally accept that I am beyond saving. :rotfl:

ciarasdreams

I am having a real issue at the moment and I think that I might very well be on the verge of saying something that will get me banned from this site which I really do not want to happen. Is it possible to take money saving too seriously? I am only asking this because I really need to buy new clothes and it not just that I want to but I really do need to because like I mentioned before I have lost weight and my older things are just too big now but I am finding it almost impossible to justify this need to myself and so I have been unable to buy any. I keep thinking that my need to pay off my debt is a much greater priority and that I am really not entitled to buy anything for myself. Is this just me that feels like this or do others feel the same. Even if you do not please just lie to me and tell me that you do because I am getting worried about it.