Money Moral Dilemma: Should I share my referral bonus?

terill

The friend should be buying the person who referred him drinks as he now has a job!

pollypenny

I'd say the friend should be treating him to a meal, or at the least a good bottle of whatever he likes, for getting him the job.

lemon_pie

No, you approached him, and if he has the cheek to ask he is no friend! Although I would expect him to buy me a drink for Christmas!!

JayD

Errr - you did say this was your 'friend' - didn't you?

And he did put your name down, just as you asked him - didn't he?

So why wouldn't you split it?

scarletclark

I used to run a referrals process at a previous job.

Don't split it, that's my advice. You helped him to get a job, so he's done OK out of it too.

He now has the same opportunity as you to refer someone himself (or multiple people - I had some people who referred lots of others and actually used this to supplement their income!) and bag the bonus for that himself.

Pollycat

matty_art wrote: »

Everyone is jumping on the cheek of the referred friend, but to be fair, the dilemma does not say anywhere that it is the referred friend that is asking to split it. It could be other mutual friends etc who are asking and making OP question whether he should.

That's because these 'weekly dilemmas' are poorly thought out and always lacking in adequate detail.

marich

Questions for you to consider :

1) What usually happens ? - ask around at work .

2) Does he need the money ? - ask yourself - you should know if he is a friend .

3) What would he do ? - ask yourself - he is your friend .

4) Ask yourself again - is he a real friend or someone you know ?

As others have pointed out , you have done him a favour by helping him into a job - he should be grateful and he'll get his chance to refer someone else in the future .

On the other hand , refusal might turn him against you and gain you an enemy at work .... This will be when you find out if he is a friend , a chancer , plain selfish or ugly.

You could just tell him not to be silly - and that he owes you a drink !

Nick_C

I think the person who got the referral bonus should split it 50/50 with the new employee.

However, I assume that for the new employee this was a promotion. So they should give half of their additional monthly income to the person who referred them.

Or putting it another way, what a stupid hypothetical question.

SueB8831

Sadly I understand this dilemma. The company I work for also provides a referral bonus. There is an initial (50%) payment when the person is taken on and another payment (50%) on the anniversary date.
When my friend asked me to help her get a job at my company, I told her about the referral scheme and she asked if she would get half the money. At the time, I felt pressured to offer to split it with her. She got the job and I split the initial payment. A year later, she 'pestered' me for half the remaining referral payment as 'she was having new windows and needed the money'.
Needless to say we are no longer friends, but she can't understand why (this was just one incident of many where she let me down). Lesson learnt. Who needs friends like this?

Lunar_Eclipse

No, not unless the friend is willing to split their pay!