3 year old boy (37months)

pigpen

ilikewatch wrote: »

Surely it would only be illegal to discriminate against a protected characteristic such as disability, race etc.?

discrimination is excluding anyone based on any aspect of their person.. ability to pee in a lavatory at 3-4years is one of them. physical maturity is reached at different ages and this is recognised.


There was a girl still in nappies in year 2 at the previous school mine were at. She was a little behind in many areas so it was just accommodated as part of their SEN provision. She was admitted to nursery at 3 same as all the rest.

But yes, there are a LOT of parents who think it is the job of school/nursery to teach their children basic life skills like dressing, toileting, speaking etc..

ilikewatch

pigpen wrote: »

discrimination is excluding anyone based on any aspect of their person

Yes, but most forms of discrimination aren't illegal - i.e. I can legally discriminate against someone because they have long hair, but not because of their race, gender, disability, HIV positivity etc.

Loulou2010

He has now decided to keep trickling into his pants grrr. I swear I shouldn't ever talk about stuff he can do cos he then stops doing it.....

pigpen

Loulou2010 wrote: »

He has now decided to keep trickling into his pants grrr. I swear I shouldn't ever talk about stuff he can do cos he then stops doing it.....

but mummy, this piece of ribbon I am playing with is just SO interesting I cannot possibly bear to be away from it for a second.

Look for the peepee dance.. or just take him to wee every 30-45 minutes.. he just needs a reminder.. they ALL do it

I admit to being THE worst ever.. I do actually still wait until the very last second before I head to the bathroom.. it drives OH crazy..

It will pass.. just ignore it and praise when he gets it right!

I have 4 July/August babies and they have all coped perfectly well with nursery and school despite being JUST 3/4 and despite my reservations. My 5 y/o just started yr1 is in the top groups for numeracy and literacy.. when she started nursery at 3 and 4 weeks she wouldn't even use a toilet and had 3-4 accidents in the 3 hours she was at nursery EVERY DAY!! It took 5 months after starting nursery to get her to use the toilet despite the fact she had been out of nappies from a few week after her 2nd birthday. She still is bit of a sprinkler but infinitely more reliable. They ALL get there eventually!

Loulou2010

Thanks pigpen. He came down with an upset tum and high temp so probably the cause.

foolofbeans

I feel blessed my children go to a great pre-school.
They have a large intake of children who have English as a second language and one year a few started who spoke very little English at all. They coped though and they taught the children through songs and interaction.
Nappy wearing wasn't a problem although they do assist in toilet training. They like the children to be able to go to the toilet themselves but will help if necessary. I guess they are trying to prepare them for school where there is no assistance at all.
My pre-school would be happy to take your son and he sounds like a fairly typical three year old. Of course if you are worried you can speak to your health visitor.
You do know nursery is not compulsory don't you? If you are anxious then you could always delay his start date.

Loulou2010

Well he started nursery and loves it :j we've been amazed as to how well he has settled so far. He thinks he is just like his big brother who goes to school :j he has had one small accident when he didn't want to come in from the garden to use the toilet but nursery were fine. Out of 8 days we've had two days with a few tears (literally a few) at drop off time but both days it was understandable due to tiredness and break over weekend.

Sounds silly but I am so proud of him. He's such a mummies boy and always been so clingy. His teacher commented on Friday thay he is a rather clever young man he saw a speech therapist who agree his speech could be better but wasn't behind enough to cause concern just yet. Nursery has a fab speech team as well so they are monitoring

FBaby

My biggest concern is he is very much a mummies boy.

Then the best you can do is not pass on your anxieties over to him and hold him back in doing things that are totally normal for his age.

Nursery is about learning all the skills you are worried he doesn't have yet. This is why the government funds places for 3 and some 2 year old.

Kids more and more often grow into teenagers suffering from anxiety mainly because of parents who hold them back as a result of their own worries.

Let him experience the world away from you, he will most likely love it and if he does find it a bit hard, then be there for him to take him through it reassuring him that the world ahead of him is full of fascinating things, not frightening ones to stay away from.

ps: My DS as a mummy's boy too, naturally careful and anxious, totally the opposite from his sister, but by encouraging him to challenge his worries and then realise how much he enjoyed the things he feared, he has grown into a confident teenager, even if he does remain more refrained and thoughtful than his sister who will always be more naturally impulsive than him (and who had to learn to refrain herself a bit).

schwam66

havent read other posts, but in terms of my son your kid is way advanced, my son still attends speech therapy and he is now 5....boys are notorious for being behind in speech, when we first started group speech therapy there was 10 others kids....all boys....trust me your son is fine, the things you are worried about they will pick up in no time the numbers colors, potty trained those are all HUGE there will be plenty of children that cant do any of that yet so dont stress....as someone else mentioned speak to your health visitor if you want, but honestly nothing to worry about....all the best and goodluck!!

sooty&sweep

Hi
Don't let a few tears at drop off time put you off.
Both of mine would regularly turn the waterworks on when I left them but when I peeked through a window 2 minutes later they were playing happily. They also didn't want to come home at the end of the day !
Small children can be proper little con artists !

Jen