Money Moral Dilemma: Should I contribute to my mum's broadband?

Ikamva

My parents have always paid for everything and have never expected me to contribute

Pollycat

Ikamva wrote: »

My parents have always paid for everything and have never expected me to contribute

Do you know the value of money?

Will you be able to budget when you're not living at home?

I think one of the best gifts parents can give their children is a good grounding in how to manage their money - and letting them live at home for free isn't - imho - a good way to set them off in life.

Seakay

yes you should and your mother should accept the money if not demand it a a way of helping you to understand budgeting and the cost of living as you want to.

I don't think that a parent is helping their adult child if they subsidise a standard of living beyond basic requirements

joneeboy

There is only one answer, which is yes you should, or better still, pay for it all.

lisa110rry

I'm a parent of a 33 year old son who has been married to a wonderful wife for three years in February. They are financially very independent, not to say quite well off.

It made me a little sad when one year I asked him what he would like for his birthday and he said "nothing Mum". I then said I would deposit money for a treat and he replied "I don't need it Mum, you keep it".

I like giving my child presents. I see the current moral question as being a similar thing. If Mum likes to give this present to son, be grateful and allow Mum the dignity of offering the gift.

Pollycat

lisa110rry wrote: »

I'm a parent of a 33 year old son who has been married to a wonderful wife for three years in February. They are financially very independent, not to say quite well off.

It made me a little sad when one year I asked him what he would like for his birthday and he said "nothing Mum". I then said I would deposit money for a treat and he replied "I don't need it Mum, you keep it".

I like giving my child presents. I see the current moral question as being a similar thing. If Mum likes to give this present to son, be grateful and allow Mum the dignity of offering the gift.

I'm sure your son would be mortified if he knew you felt like that.

Fujiko

lisa110rry wrote: »

I'm a parent of a 33 year old son who has been married to a wonderful wife for three years in February. They are financially very independent, not to say quite well off.

It made me a little sad when one year I asked him what he would like for his birthday and he said "nothing Mum". I then said I would deposit money for a treat and he replied "I don't need it Mum, you keep it".

I like giving my child presents. I see the current moral question as being a similar thing. If Mum likes to give this present to son, be grateful and allow Mum the dignity of offering the gift.

My situation is the same as your's, except it is my daughter who is married to a wonderful man and they too are much better off than me. However, one of the things which gives me the greatest pleasure is buying them and their three children presents, often quite expensive ones. I don't know how old the mother in the question is, but personally I would far rather see them enjoying their gifts while I am alive. You can't take it with you!
I agree with your answer to the "dilemma". Accept gracefully what your mother is offering, but make sure you take her out for a meal or to the theatre every now and again, but don't say that this is in return for using her TV which would spoil the whole thing for her.

tallgirld

Nahhh doesn't sound like she wants you to contribute. Just ask her and see what she says!!

tallgirld

Ikamva wrote: »

My parents have always paid for everything and have never expected me to contribute

So did mine but only because I refused to contribute as I felt it was their job as my parents. I had a terrible attitude and when I left home had no money management skills and ended up in debt!! The only person to blame is ME!! So make sure you don't end up clueless about money like I did.

Jagraf

Ikamva wrote: »

My parents have always paid for everything and have never expected me to contribute

Lol did they just give up expecting you to contribute