Quit everything , and start again over 50?

Smodlet

Only thing with that, wendym, I imagine property prices in the SW will be more resilient than those in the NE... oh, and the weather's warmer, as are the accents. I lived in Newcastle for a few years and never got used to being treated like a foreigner because Ah divent tahrk like that.

wendym

I suggested South Shields only because that's the only other place where AC talked about having a friend.

Could you not have taken elocution lessons?:rotfl:

I do take your points.

Smodlet

Why aye, ah did, hinny; are y' gannin' doon yem, themorrer?

That accent grates on me to this day. :eek:

P.S. Hadawaay n' !!!!! (not really)

another_casualty

Howdy !:)
Mrs.p , &call looking at the above , I'm feeling a bit unsettled again .
I'm just beginning to get my feet under the table ,and people are talking about me getting back to work already / not being able to find a place within budget. A little off putting ,but I know you all mean well

I'm sticking to the plan set out .I have to . If it doesn't work out ,I can think of plan b or even c.
I'm not well enough to work .Simple as that . The huge (IMHO) upheaval hasn't helped . Looking at me , I wouldn't employ me right now.
Next weds is when I'm expected to move into a flat for 6 months.
This is after I have 2 nights on my friends sofa .
Next Thursday ,I aim to start the gym .

A few of us agreed to treat this as a holiday , albeit the most expensive one ever. I aim to get a job around the spring . The spring is always a good time to look for work.
I'm still having trouble sleeping . Sat was the best sleep I had for some time .
I've decided to not upset the landlady and let the flat be furnished.
The estate agent told me the landlady was flexible . The landlady wants to meet me next Tuesday . The estate agent wants to see me next Monday .

As it's dark , I haven't ventured into the pubs in the evening . I e stayed in
and saved cash by doing so .
Still trying to find my feet .
Hope you are all well.
LL ,best wishes to your dad .

lessonlearned

AC. I wasnt suggesting you look for work today......or even tomorrow. I agree leave it until spring.

It was Just a gentle reminder of the need to forward plan a bit so you are not panicked into taking any old job just to put food on the table. If you have a bit of a cushion then you can pick and choose.

Choice is good.:D

Off to see dad in a minute. He's having a blood transfusion this afternoon, hopefully that will perk him up a bit.

Feel as if I could with one myself......I feel half dead. :rotfl:

I felt great after Physio yesterday. today I'm a mass of aches and pains. The stress of running around and hospital visits doesn't help.

One stepforward, two back. Hey ho.

lessonlearned

Btw. There was a Martin Lewis programme last night on the tele. I think there is going to be a series of them. Last night was about energy providers, next week it's savings. Next week it will be on Monday, rather than Tuesday.

dreaming

Hi AC, you sound a little despondent today but I think that is to be expected. After any big upheaval there is often sense of "anti-climax" (for want of a better term) and sometimes you just need to be still and catch your breath. I'm actually with you on the work front and think you would be better off getting some fitness back, and finding your bearings in Poole (or wherever you decide to live). I think a trip to the Jobcentre is a good idea though, even if you can't claim anything, as they can give you advice about NI contributions. It's very important to keep those up for future pension, as once you get behind it can be hard to catch up. Also joining the gym would be a god idea, sooner rather than later, as not only will it help with your fitness (obviously) and help you sleep, you will also get to meet others and, most importantly, it will give you a sense of routine. I do know how hard it can be to motivate yourself to get up and go out, especially in a new place, but I worry that you could easily sink into a state of mind where it becomes too easy to sit indoors and think you will do everything "tomorrow".
I think when you are in your (semi) permanent home next week you should try to work out what you want to do - not your brother(s), not your friends in Poole, not us on here but YOU. Think about what dreams you had when you were younger and see if any of those still fit; get your practice guitar out of storage and get going on that; buy a local newspaper (or look online) to see "what's on" in your area; challenge yourself to explore a new area every other day and get some decent walking shoes and get outside; read postcards in shops to see what's going on, or listen in on conversations; join the library - a great resource not just for books but music, films, information. I know the move was hard, both physically and mentally, but actually the real hard work starts now in putting together your new life. I think you can do it though - you come across as a very warm person and you obviously have a good sense of humour. Stop thinking that "you wouldn't employ yourself" right now and start thinking about your good points - you've shown how brave and resourceful you can be in the last couple of weeks. Try being your own best friend.
Have you considered keeping a diary (not just this thread) so you can set yourself some goals and work towards them? Somehow I feel more driven to do stuff that is written down (but be flexible and if something really doesn't work then let it go).
Right, now I have given you the benefit of my advice (which I would advise you not to pay too much attention to):rotfl: I had better go and sort a few other things out -Brexit, D Trump esq. maybe? Just have to feed the cat first.

wendym

Hi dreaming. Lots of good ideas.

When you are sorting things out, would you ring my dentist and say I have gone off the whole idea and won't be coming? Thanks.

dreaming

wendym wrote: »

Hi dreaming. Lots of good ideas.

When you are sorting things out, would you ring my dentist and say I have gone off the whole idea and won't be coming? Thanks.

Ha-ha, WendyM, I really sound as if I know what I'm doing in my (very) long post above (sorry AC) don't I? You may not have thought so if you had seen me at the dentists' last year when I sat in chair nearly crying because I couldn't get him to listen to me about the excruciating pain I was in following an extraction the previous week. He told me it was part of the healing process but eventually his nurse persuaded him to "have another look" and it was discovered that the tooth in front of the one that had been taken out had "died" and there was infection in the bone. I knew there was something wrong as I was just about to rip my face off with the pain but I went all feeble and told him that it was "a bit uncomfortable". My daughter tells me I always do that when it is for me, but I can fight to the death for other people somehow.

wendym

Who made dentists gods? And gave their receptionists cloaks of Stupidity and Unhelpfulness.


By the way, when AC says he wouldn't employ himself, he isn't putting himself down. Some days, when you live with ill health but put up a front, you catch sight of yourself in a mirror and think "Hmm, so I won't be able to fake it today".

It's really difficult being assertive on your own behalf, isn't it?