Quit everything , and start again over 50?

kids9698

I think you have been through a lot. Perhaps you need to spend a quiet day writing a list of pros and cons for every different idea you have. I have been through stress and depression, but I feel leaving one job without having another one to go to would cause me even more stress. Personally, I would get a different job FIRST and then make the other changes (moving to a less expensive area and / or smaller home etc) around the new job.
Have the holidays once all your debts are paid. Then you can enjoy the holiday without worrying about the debt you still have to pay.
But this is my own personal opinion.
Perhaps if you just stop, focus, sit quiet, try to relax, have a nice hot chocolate or whatever and write the pros and cons list for all the options you are considering, it will help you make the right decision for YOU.

another_casualty

Thanks enthusiastic and kids.
Kids , you talk good sense. However, my mind is made up.
Regarding the job thing : I have put on lots of weight , and have myasthenia Gravis. Thankfully, the job I am in has got very quiet,apart from the odd bit of lifting.
In another job , I would struggle as I am huge and out of condition.

At present, I 'live' in one of the richest boroughs of the U.K. ( Richmond ).
But, I am not living. I am drowning. Doing this move, should get me a flat paid with no mortgage . If everything goes horribly wrong, I can always rent for a few years till death . If things work out , I work part time .
We'll see
Thanks
Forgot to mention: all debt gets paid off immediately when sale of house happens.

wendym

AC you should take real heart from your reaction to people trying (not necessarily deliberately) to derail you.


I feel such confidence now that you know what you want. I'm raising a glass to you.

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*de lurks* AC I have been following this thread for the last few months and am delighted to hear you have a buyer. As someone who grew up in Dorset before moving away for the bright lights of London as a 20 year old which suited me fine at time. Now however I'm a similar age to you and the thought of going back to the most beautiful county with its amazing coastline walks, excellent public transport and really friendly people well I'm envious, go for it, I promise you, you won't regret it

thegreenone

I hope the viewings go well today. I'll have my fingers crossed for you.


Can I tell you about my husband's Uncle John? He never married and stayed at home looking after his parents. They had both died by 1990 and he wasn't enjoying his job or living in a not-so-lovely part of South London. He took stock. Not much money but he did some research with family help and bought a mobile home on a beautiful park in East Sussex.


The park is open to all ages for owning but no children, so there is a good mix of people to talk to. There is a small shop and restaurant, bowls club, Am.Dram. Society, swimming pool and a few other clubs. Day trips out for entertainment and shopping, and everyone has a small garden.


Uncle John threw himself into everything including getting on stage as Widow Twanky (the photos are hilarious) for the Park's pantomime one year. He went on all the trips possible and waved and said good morning to all.


My point? Uncle John is now 87 and still throwing himself into everything. Okay, he has a few health issues and needs a snooze in the afternoons now but I think that can be allowed. Moving changed Uncle John's life. I realise that things are laid on at the Park but he still had to go and meet people and join in.


Do It!

lessonlearned

Well done Uncle John. What a fantastic attitude to life, sounds like he's having a ball.

Afternoon naps......I have one most days.

In fact I've done it all of my life, even as a teenager. I blame the Belgian in me. A nap in the afternoon means I can stay up later at night. Great for when I want to party......:D

I came across a great quote yesterday. Thought I'd share. It was by BEtte Davis, a Hollywood movie star of yesteryear.

Although not conventionally pretty she was incredibly glamourous, always dolled up to the nines and she used her glamour and charisma to get what she wanted. She was incredibly feisty and gutsy and wouldn't suffer fools. She took on the Hollywood establishment and challenged the old contract system to get a better deal for actors. And she won.

Anyway she said "aging is not for sissies". I so love that.

AC as you approach your "Third act" remember that one.

What is the worst that can happen to you now......

Illness......well you've been there, done that. You got sick, you fought back and you won.

Debt........you tackled that monster. And soon, when you flat is sold, you will be debt free.

Work.........you Have survived the boss from hell. And you'll soon be out of there, free of her for good.

You are no sissy.......;)

Enjoy your trip to Poole today. HAppy hunting. And if you manage to find a nice pub then raise a glass to your friends on here.

Another fabulous sunny day here. Aren't we lucky. I'm going to get out there and soak up all that lovely Vitamin D.

anna_1977

Well I'm back at work today, first time since 1 Jul (summer holidays) so time to read up on the last 20 odd pages since I last checked in

Sooooo pleased to hear about the buyer AC, wonderful news and well done and getting out there for viewings. I'm sure you'll let us know how it goes.

My buyer wanted to complete today but his solicitor has been a pain in the a**e asking silly questions which has delayed it (thankfully for me). I have agreed to exchange today or tomorrow and move out 30 September, longer than he wanted but i don't have a free weekend until then - taking 2 kids to different uni's on opposite sides of the country.

I can't remember if I said I'd found a DIY project, I pulled out within a week as my builder came back with more problems than anticipated (new roof etc...approx £20 over my initial sums!). I have found another place in a little village in Hampshire where I grew up and my parents still live there. Thankfully I'll be at the opposite end of the village. I am going to move in with them for about 6-8 weeks while my purchase completes - good news is I'll be saving a fortune whilst there.
Looking forward to being mortgage and debt free

lessonlearned

Hi Anna. Fantastic news, both on the new house and being debt free.

We will want to see piccies of your "fixer upoer".

Is all happening for all of us.

Ok another song.......if you all insist. :rotfl:

"What a feeling......":D

Smodlet

Well done, Anna, it sounds idyllic and things seem to be working your way. Your buyers won't get fed up with waiting, will they? So long as it is the solicitor's fault, you are off the hook, so that is great news.

anna_1977

Smodlet wrote: »

Well done, Anna, it sounds idyllic and things seem to be working your way. Your buyers won't get fed up with waiting, will they? So long as it is the solicitor's fault, you are off the hook, so that is great news.

I don't think they are particularly happy with waiting but at least some of the delay is their fault. It's a single man who is a cash buyer & currently staying with his sister so thankfully not holding up a chain