Dla and son with autism advice

rogerblack

Confuseddot wrote: »

Not meaning to put words in anyones mouth but the bit you quoted was FBaby was responding to IndieKid who was saying that all ready meals were full of crap so to speak.

Neglecting the cost - ready meals are not a panecea.

I have in the recent past had food poisoning twice due to improperly preparing and using them.

Once when I re-used a plate from a couple of weeks earlier that I thought I had used the day before.
Once when I hadn't realised I hadn't put all of the ready meals away in the freezer when I got them.
I reheated one after it had apparantly been out two weeks.
Yes, it tasted funny, no I could not face getting a replacement from the kitchen.

This is added to the fact that I frequently either overheat or underheat the meal, leading to either burns or frozen bits in.
I'm also so wobbly that I quite often drop them.

bloolagoon

rogerblack wrote: »

Neglecting the cost - ready meals are not a panecea.

I have in the recent past had food poisoning twice due to improperly preparing and using them.

Once when I re-used a plate from a couple of weeks earlier that I thought I had used the day before.
Once when I hadn't realised I hadn't put all of the ready meals away in the freezer when I got them.
I reheated one after it had apparantly been out two weeks.
Yes, it tasted funny, no I could not face getting a replacement from the kitchen.

This is added to the fact that I frequently either overheat or underheat the meal, leading to either burns or frozen bits in.
I'm also so wobbly that I quite often drop them.

But you can manage fresh food? Do you never make similar issues when fresh cooking?

rogerblack

bloolagoon wrote: »

But you can manage fresh food? Do you never make similar issues when fresh cooking?

I am not sure what this question is coming from.
If you mean 'can I cook a meal for one from simple ingredients' from the DLA regulations, then no.

If you mean 'can prepare and cook a simple meal unaided' from PIP - then again no. (My draft PIP application argues for 'cannot cook or prepare food at all')

And by a normal meaning of the words, of course I make mistakes.

bloolagoon

rogerblack wrote: »

I am not sure what this question is coming from.
If you mean 'can I cook a meal for one from simple ingredients' from the DLA regulations, then no.

If you mean 'can prepare and cook a simple meal unaided' from PIP - then again no. (My draft PIP application argues for 'cannot cook or prepare food at all')

And by a normal meaning of the words, of course I make mistakes.

No I mean the issues you state you have using ready meals (forgetting to check dates, reheating food etc) surely you have the same with fresh food.

However for many ready meals are perfectly good solution

Ames

Roger - I had similar problems with eating off dirty plates etc, I switched to using disposable crockery and cutlery. The only solution I've found to eating gone off food though is to shop every day or two, which isn't possible when I'm really bad.

Confuseddot

nannytone wrote: »

they may cost less than the weekly shop .... but i buy food for 3 meals a gay plus toiletries plus cleaning products!

it would still be more expensive to buy ready meals that it is to cook, and with rather less choice. ( would be no good for me anyway because i don't eat meat, so even less variety, and i can't see to read the timings or to use the microwave )

imdies post about special dietary needs was in response to F Babt suggesting that ready meals was a suitable alternative to cooking and that many 'professionals' had to use them because they didn't have time to cook.

what someones profession has to do with ability to cook for ones self, i'm really not sure

I think that you quoting the wrong post then as post 62 that you quoted mentions nothing about professions. I was just pointing out that the steam fresh ones from aldi are not expensive and not full or that much crap. The point was they were cheaper than hiring a cook.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Indie Kid View Post
They're not ideal for those of us with dietary requirements. They're also packed full of sugar, fat, salt and other stuff.
FBaby
Then you are not shopping properly. They are many which are perfectly balanced and certainly a lot cheaper than hiring a cook, which I very much doubt commonly happens.

Confuseddot

rogerblack wrote: »

Neglecting the cost - ready meals are not a panecea.

I have in the recent past had food poisoning twice due to improperly preparing and using them.

Once when I re-used a plate from a couple of weeks earlier that I thought I had used the day before.
Once when I hadn't realised I hadn't put all of the ready meals away in the freezer when I got them.
I reheated one after it had apparantly been out two weeks.
Yes, it tasted funny, no I could not face getting a replacement from the kitchen.

This is added to the fact that I frequently either overheat or underheat the meal, leading to either burns or frozen bits in.
I'm also so wobbly that I quite often drop them.

I have never said they are panacea, just that they don't always have to full of the crap suggested.

Just out of interest how do you manage to eat anything at all as it sounds like you would have issues whether it was fresh/frozen or anything in-between. Would you not benefit from full time residential care then and at least be fed ?

nannytone_2

FBaby wrote: »

Why wouldn't it count? Many professional rely on pre-prepared meals because they don't have the time and energy to cook decent meals for themselves. You can survive on them? And why say you 'would' need to spend it on someone to help you cook? You either need it or you don't. If it means that your wife does the cooking, why does this require additional funding? She would only be doing what many wives in this country does every day.



And that's fair enough, but it is not JUST children with disabilities that need this sort of extra support. My DS has an issue with anger management. He says it's in his genes! He has had to learn since he was a toddler how to cope with it and at times it has been hard and very emotional. Sport without a doubt has helped him massively. As it's been stated, sports are expensive but it is very beneficial to him. Yet because being angry is not a disability, I don't get extra money to pay for it. I wouldn't want it. Being a parent is accepting that you do have to invest to help your children overcome difficulties, whatever they are.

post 46 is the initial comments i was replying to.
the conversation carried on after
maybe 'professionals' can afford ready meals 3 x a day.
most on benefits can'.

also in the post you quoted above it talks about 'hiring a cook'
no one said that those who receive DLA CANNOT cook.
in the majority of cases supervision/help will suffice.

i am quite capable of cooking.
i just can't set the over and it is hazardous to use knives/heat when i don't have someone to help and make sure i am being safe.

most people that receive this help DO pay.
if on middle rate care/standard PIP, people are expected to contribute towards any care package they receive.

to suggest that people that live alone are assessed differently to those that live in any number of different siteations where another person lives in the same property ( in whichever guise) would be ridiculously expensive and complicated to administer

rogerblack

Confuseddot wrote: »

Just out of interest how do you manage to eat anything at all as it sounds like you would have issues whether it was fresh/frozen or anything in-between. Would you not benefit from full time residential care then and at least be fed ?

Much of the time, cold stuff that needs no preparation - biscuits/crackers.
Not ideal.
And yes, in principle significant personal care might considerably increase my quality of life.
I can't face that I'm at that point yet.

FBaby

I used the word 'professional' to give an example of members of our society who are known to depend on prepared food, usually because they have busy lives and don't have the time to spend to cook proper meals every day.

I won't say more, I think the argument around ready meals that million of people eat every day without dying from it and the need of DLA to eat better says it all for me.