*Change of plan - and maybe some good news!*

Ellidee

Thinking about you hon. Hope you're ok and Ryan too:grouphug: XX

Toto

What's he been doing snaggles? Honestly I've seen it all I think some of it not so nice, but nothing surprises me or shocks me now. I don't pretent to be an expert on Autism, just a mum who's been through a lot of what you are experiencing. Don't forget where I am if you need to ask or talk about anything at all.

spud30

Snaggles,

Let me know if I can help.

I can ask round at school if necessary.

hypno06

Hi Snaggles, just catching up on yesterday's threads and was sorry to read that things are difficult with Ryan at the mo.

Remember that with any child who is on the autism spectrum, life is going to be one great big learning curve for you all. Just as you think you have got the hang of things, something will change and you will have to work it out, adapt accordingly and this is not always going to be easy.

But, you are a good mum, with a sensible head on her shoulders who will do everything she can to give her children the very best she can. Unfortunately, at this stage, you are hampered by a lack of information about Ryan's condition and so still have to work solely on what is presented in front of you, which can be draining and confusing.

However, over the next few weeks and months, more information will come your way, and you will be able to take each "episode" and make a little bit more "sense" of it all.

I hope things are good for you today xx

beanielou

Hope you are ok Snaggles.
Sending you huggles.

taka

Hugs Snaggles... I hope things are better for you and Ryan today.

Snaggles

Hello, thank you so much for your replies - I have been reading them but have been feeling a bit low and wasn't sure how to reply, but yet again you have helped pull me back from the brink of feeling miserable.

Right, I didn't know whether to explain Ryan's odd behaviour or not, but I've decided to say it. Last night, Ryan was playing out on our driveway, and Stu thought he had gone a bit quiet, so popped his head out of the door to make sure he was okay and found Ryan sitting on the driveway with no trousers or underwear on. He asked Ryan what he was doing, and Ryan seemed to genuinely not know - he said he had just 'gone out of control for a minute', and seemed really puzzled.

We didn't make a big thing about it, just said 'come inside and lets get you dressed before you get cold'. A bit later, I had a little chat to Ryan and told him I wasn't cross at all, I was just worried about him and wanted to make sure he was okay. I asked him what he had been thinking about when he did it, but he couldn't remember. I asked if he had been confused or upset, and he just said he had 'lost it for a minute'.

I don't know why, but this has really scared me (not particularly the lack of clothing, although admittedly it's a bit odd, but more that he seemed to not know why or how he did it).

I know it's nothing at all to do with moneysaving, but has anyone had any experience of anything like this before at all? I'm not sure whether I'm right to be worried, or if I'm over-reacting.

He's done something similar-ish once before (but indoors) but generally doesn't behave so strangely.

Snaggles

Arrrgghhhhh, damn you all for being so lovely, I'm crying again!!!!

Lucy1982_2

Hun, I can't help with this, but I just wanted to send you a hug as I can only imagine how worried about him you are.

Toto

Well, your Ryan is a bit more cognitively um aware? than my Amber. She has no idea what she's doing or why most of the time and she certainly can't explain it. She's always taking her clothes off, in public, where ever she fancies really but that's just her. What I will say though is that she does lots of things through impulse, she doesn't know why she does it, just her brain tells her to. It may have been that without thinking in his aware brain he wanted to feel the cold sensation, sometimes our kids zone in on a strong stimuli just because their world is so noisy in terms of sight, sound and touch. They like to feel something really strong because it helps them focus and it feels good. My daughter loves to feel pressure, sometimes she asks me for a squeeze, so I hold her and squeeze her tightly, she loves it. She also loves to carry a backpack with heavy things in, to feel the pressure sensation on her back.

There are loads of things that come up which I often sit and think 'christ, what next?' What the years have taught me though is to always try to reason things from Amber's view of the world, not from mine. Our kids really don't understand what's acceptable in a social situation, they don't understand society and it's rules. Some things just feel right to them at that point in time and they can't explain it. I'm sure Ryan's explaination is just the words he could find which fits with your world and understanding, I think what he's really saying is, I don't know why I did it (I'm not sure I know why not to do it) it just felt the thing to do right then.

Did that help at all?