*Change of plan - and maybe some good news!*

Snaggles

beanielou wrote: »

WEll its not what you agreed is it & as you say it upsets Ryan.
Never mind, sure you'll cope
Take care

Thanks, it hasn't been too bad but Ryan is asking all sorts of questions now about when he is coming back. I wish he had just waited until tomorrow, because I'm feeling cross about it all again now and wondering if I can ever really get through to him.

Men! :mad:

Snaggles

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

He is a man and therefore emotionally stunted...

I know I shoudn't be laughing but.... :rotfl:

But yes, you're right, I think it's his clumsy way of showing he cares.

ZTD

Really sorry to hear about your troubles. :grouphug:

Snaggles wrote: »

I'm a bit stressed because he has just turned up out of the blue to see the kids,

Tell him to ring next time - don't be nasty, say something like "So I can have the kettle on" - but it probably never crossed his mind to ring to see his kids in his house.

Snaggles wrote: »

so I will have to deal with Ryan being upset again tonight when he goes.

I'm sure the feelings of upset will pass for everyone.

Snaggles wrote: »

I can understand that he wants to see them,

But not his wife, oh dear me no, furthest thing from his mind... :rolleyes:

Snaggles wrote: »

although it's less than 24 hours since he went, but I don't think he quite understands the concept of giving each other space.

If it was your suggestion - he probably doesn't.

Snaggles wrote: »

Think this must be the 'anger' phase.

Don't feel angry at seeing him. I don't think that if the last time you saw him, it was the last time you ever saw him, would be particularly pleasing to you. Am I right?

How long has he known his job was under threat?

ZTD

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

Maybe he's tryign to show he 'cares'?
He is a man and therefore emotionally stunted...

Ahem!

elantan

as usual z hits the nail on the head.... and i agree with him on the stunted bit as well ...but then i know you wernt being serious so found it funny bunny

ginormousflares

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

Maybe he's tryign to show he 'cares'?
He is a man and therefore emotionally stunted...

Oy Bunny, NO! (only kidding, you're probably right)

Bunnyinthelights

Sorry Zed and GF,
Of course, I didn't mean YOU both....
You're not the average men (man?) oh pants, all mixed up with tenses again...

Snaggles

ZTD wrote: »

Really sorry to hear about your troubles. :grouphug:

Thanks x

Tell him to ring next time - don't be nasty, say something like "So I can have the kettle on" - but it probably never crossed his mind to ring to see his kids in his house.

Good idea, I will do.

But not his wife, oh dear me no, furthest thing from his mind... :rolleyes:

Sorry, i must sound bitter and irrational, but this has really come about because I DON'T feel loved and valued.....I am always waaay down the priority list, after work, his sister, his Mum, his mates, alcohol, the ironing....

If it was your suggestion - he probably doesn't.

I didn't exactly suggest it, he said 'you want me to go, don't you', and I didn't answer (didn't really know what to say), so he just went upstairs, packed a bag and left. I sent him two texts later on to ask him to let me know he was safe, and he didn't reply.

Don't feel angry at seeing him. I don't think that if the last time you saw him, it was the last time you ever saw him, would be particularly pleasing to you. Am I right?

How long has he known his job was under threat?

Yes, you are right - I've been really calm and haven't raised my voice once through all of this, partly for this reason and partly because I don't want to cause Ryan any unnecessary stress or unhappiness. But I don't want to just give in and say everything is okay and we can go back to normal, because I can't live with how things were any longer.

As far as his job goes, they were all set to take him on permanently a couple of months ago, but he has had a few (minor) bumps in the van, and has blown his chances. They are now laying off all the temps, so he will be out of work again for the second time in 6 months.

He will probably find something else, but only if I type his CV for him, help him fill in the application forms, help him come up with things to say during interviews, lick and seal the envelopes and stick them in the letter box for him...:rolleyes: I don't want to be his bloody mother for goodness sake :mad:. (oops, anger again... )

tigtag02

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

Sorry Zed and GF,
Of course, I didn't mean YOU both....
You're not the average men (man?) oh pants, all mixed up with tenses again...

Bunny

Digging

Stop

NOW

ginormousflares

Snaggles
Before DFW my life was filled with rain
Snaggles
You smiled at me and really eased the pain
Oh the dark days are gone and the bright days are here
My Snaggles one it shines sincere
Snaggles, one so true
I love you

Snaggles
Thank you for the sunshine bouquet
Woah, Snaggles, thank you for the advice that you brought my way
Oh now you gave to me your all and all
And now i feel like im lennymfo
Snaggles, one so true
I love you

( ...Snaggles
Thank you for the truth that you made me see
Snaggles
Thank you for the facts, from A to Z
My life was torn like a wind-blown sand
And then a rock was formed when we held hands (on DFW!)
Now Snaggles, one so true
I love you ...)

Mammy Snaggles
Thank you for the smile thats upon our face
Mammy Snaggles
Thank you for that gleam that flows with your grace
You are your kids spark of natures fire
And to your hubby his sweet, complete desire

Snaggles, one so true
We all love you