Renting to Family Member

mumcoll

Mojisola wrote: »

That's an optimistic point of view - chances are that you will still be running around for her but having to travel to do it.

Would your mother take advice from someone outside the family? If you asked someone from CAB or AgeUK to explain the pros and cons of the proposed move, would she meet with them?

My mum never takes advice from anyone. She sees it as 'nobody's business'. She (and BIL and sister) are all 'annoyed' at me as I am voicing my concerns. I wish someone neutral could point out the reality. I could show her this thread and she would shut her eyes and tell me off for telling people her business (although it's anonymous).

Marvel1

I only read brother in law and instantly thought very bad idea. Don't tier her do it, your BIL does not have her best interests at heart and all sounds dodgy.

Mojisola

mumcoll wrote: »

My mum never takes advice from anyone. She sees it as 'nobody's business'.

Then you'll have to stand back and let her cope with the consequences of her decisions.

mumcoll

I am waiting for her to tell me what she's decided, will let you know the result, if anyone is interested!

teddysmum

The trail residency does seem a good idea, as she will find out how much extra work is involved in running a larger house (especially if having to clean around stored items).


I would also visit less often and let her see how much help she gets from the others.

mumcoll

Mum has decided to postpone her move. Not sure what has made her decide this (hopefully she did listen to what I said) but I am relieved that it's put off for now anyway!

Thanks for everyone's advice.

I didn't even have to show her this thread either.......;)