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The stairs were the first thing I mentioned, although she is very active and fit at the moment.
I am now just waiting to see what she decides, thanks again for all your responses. Little comfort but at least I know I am not mad to have concerns!0 -
Are there any non-financial benefits to this? Will she be/does she want to be close to your sister? Is it simply a much nicer area to live in?
I take everything everyone has said on board and agree with most of it; but there are some housing association properties in areas I would pay to move out of so this needs to be taken into account also.0 -
To me, your sister's attitude is the most worrying aspect of all this.
If she can't see that your mother is virtually cutting her own throat, one wonders how much concern/restraint/honesty/compassion she would show if push ever did come to shove.0 -
ScorpiondeRooftrouser wrote: »Are there any non-financial benefits to this? Will she be/does she want to be close to your sister? Is it simply a much nicer area to live in?
I take everything everyone has said on board and agree with most of it; but there are some housing association properties in areas I would pay to move out of so this needs to be taken into account also.
Where she lives now, which is close to me, is in the most sought after area for the HA bungalows. The town where BIL lives is a 'prettier' town but with much less facilities.
A bit of history - becsuse of BIL's dodgy way of life, mum has been quite distant to him and my sister for a long time.
She is of sound mind but she can act a bit strange at times, but that's not new. Before she lived here she had moved house 30 times in 30 years, this is the most settled she's been since then. That's what I mean about the Buzz of moving being her reason .0 -
Just to add, it will actually take a lot of pressure off me if she does move, as my sister will be closest and will have to do all the running around for her and I can just have social visits.0
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Just to add, it will actually take a lot of pressure off me if she does move, as my sister will be closest and will have to do all the running around for her and I can just have social visits.
That's an optimistic point of view - chances are that you will still be running around for her but having to travel to do it.
Would your mother take advice from someone outside the family? If you asked someone from CAB or AgeUK to explain the pros and cons of the proposed move, would she meet with them?0 -
As she's not getting any younger why on earth would she want to move from a 2 bed bungalow to a 4 bed house??
What will she do with 3 spare bedrooms?0 -
As she doesn't seem to be too short of money and BIL's house is furnished, could she rent it for a month or so as a trial run? After the novelty's worn off, she may be glad to move back, particularly if sister doesn't step up to the mark.0
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Where she lives now, which is close to me, is in the most sought after area for the HA bungalows. The town where BIL lives is a 'prettier' town but with much less facilities.
A bit of history - becsuse of BIL's dodgy way of life, mum has been quite distant to him and my sister for a long time.
She is of sound mind but she can act a bit strange at times, but that's not new. Before she lived here she had moved house 30 times in 30 years, this is the most settled she's been since then. That's what I mean about the Buzz of moving being her reason .
Does she, for whatever reason, actively want to be closer to your sister though? This may be something you find a bit irritating or upsetting but it might be part of her reason for moving, and if so, you have to take it into account.0 -
missbiggles1 wrote: »As she doesn't seem to be too short of money and BIL's house is furnished, could she rent it for a month or so as a trial run? After the novelty's worn off, she may be glad to move back, particularly if sister doesn't step up to the mark.
What a brilliant idea!! I will put it to her but I can almost predict her reply.....0
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