Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

mellymoo74

It's the first one without her.
I have got a grave ornament for him but he got like this just before Christmas so I know why he's doing it.

Just filling in esa form
Ticking it varies a lot

mellymoo74

Ono flowers.
I have a company I use flowers are beautiful
Let me find em out if you want.

Birdie85

I'm a grouch and don't like Mother's/Father's day. I just get annoyed with having to fit so many people into one day when we see our parents plenty as it is. I'm not even bothered about getting stuff myself; it just adds to my bah humbug-ness as we now have to split the day 3 ways, rather than 2! I also don't want to have to eat a lot of bad food on Sunday as our final weigh-in for the work weight loss contest is on Wednesday and I need to be super good over the weekend to have a chance of getting 2nd/3rd place!

Glad you had a nice birthday Faerie (despite the sciatica diagnosis!). What film did you see?

tea_lover

I'm a bit similar Birdie. Don't get me wrong, I love my mum! But I also love her the rest of the year I also see her most weeks anyway. If anything I'm less likely to see her this weekend as I might hide - am not too bad in the build up now but the actual day itself is still a bit raw.

Having said that, it was fun seeing what things the girls thought of to promise their mums - gave quite an insight into the sorts of things they obviously get told off for at the moment!

Is there a prize for the weigh-in winners??

Pyxis

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

It's Mother's day on Sunday, I've just learned (from Melly's post above) :eek: Usually it's the Sunday after my Dad's birthday in the middle of the month (or even the one after that) and I use that as a reminder to post a card. Who moved it this year then?

The card is on my desk at home, which is no use at all as I won't be there until tomorrow night as I'm leaving work at lunchtime and going to central London for a friend's birthday meal this evening. Oops

Ono, buy another one today and send it. Keep the one at home for next year!


Mind you, you only had to walk into any supermarket and you'd have been confronted blatantly by all the marketing for it!

Haven't you been shopping in the last week or so? :D

Birdie85

Yep Tea, there's cash at stake! I'm not quite sure how much, but the entrance fee was £10 and I think you get more than that just for coming 3rd so I'd like to at least earn that tenner back! If there wasn't money up for grabs I wouldn't be as bothered. I just hope that someone isn't going to pop up on Wednesday who's been happily in the middle of the table for 8 weeks with a 10lb loss because they chopped off a limb or something!

What kind of things were the guides promising?

Pyxis

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tea_lover

Birdie85 wrote: »

What kind of things were the guides promising?

"I will not make a fuss when we walk the dog"
"I will clean out the hamster"
A lot of room-tidying without being nagged.... clearly there's a lot of mums out there constantly battling with the same things .

My favourite was one of the quieter girls who (without any prompting) promised to spend a day with her mum without any electronic gadgets. She decorated it with a cup of tea and a book. Made me well up a bit that one! :rotfl:

mellymoo74

Feeling really low.
Did the esa assessment form and I'm !!!!!!ed

tea_lover

Well done on sorting the form x. Maybe you could reward yourself with a lie down, or a nice relaxing afternoon on the sofa. Stick a DVD on and get your feet up. You definitely need (and deserve!) a rest!