Making a small claim against my ex - advice needed!

BigAunty

samanthabonnes wrote: »

He's been a really nasty piece of work throughout - telling people I've stalked him and his family, have shown up in places he is, most recently he's published publicly on Facebook that I have a history of violence and mental disorder. .

Ensure you keep meticulous records of his behaviour in case it escalates and you have to take further action. At the moment, his appalling behaviour has been on the phone, email or social media. Hopefully the abuse will not increase or turn into incidents made in person.

iammumtoone

I have no idea if you would be successful in getting your money back but my personal advise is to let it go.

I don't know if you will get your money back but I do know to try to do so you will still have to communicate with this man and possibly sit in the same room as him [STRIKE]arguing[/STRIKE] discussing it.

I sounds like you have not been treated well, for your own sake let it go and get on with rebuilding your life quicker than if you still have this hanging over you. The money has gone you paid it outright its not as if you still owe it and need to pay interest on top of everything else. I think someone pointed out above that you could look at it as money well spend to finally rid this person out of your life.

I wish you well.

Toxicity

So you pay to take your boyfriend on holiday and agree beforehand (and have proof of the fact) that you will split the costs and he will pay you back, you go, he cheats on you and now you just what, suck it up and move on? knowing he got away with screwing you over not once but twice?

I wouldn't care what my chances of winning were, I'd take him to court and at least try to fight for what is right and what is mine.

I also wouldn't assume you wouldn't win, judges like to make their own rules up sometimes (as seen from a recent thread on the motoring forum where the defendant lost even though every one was so sure he would win)

I say do it, YOLO and all that.

Guest101

Toxicity wrote: »

So you pay to take your boyfriend on holiday and agree beforehand (and have proof of the fact) that you will split the costs and he will pay you back, you go, he cheats on you and now you just what, suck it up and move on? knowing he got away with screwing you over not once but twice?

I wouldn't care what my chances of winning were, I'd take him to court and at least try to fight for what is right and what is mine.

I also wouldn't assume you wouldn't win, judges like to make their own rules up sometimes (as seen from a recent thread on the motoring forum where the defendant lost even though every one was so sure he would win)

I say do it, YOLO and all that.

And if he wins? A tale he can tell everyone about his ex who took him to court....

Anyway. I agree judges are unpredictable

Homeownertobe

You don't have a contract and so you won't win. But if you're intent on pursuing this action, file via moneyclaimonline (or whatever it's called) and hope he pays up before it gets to court.