How much does average hen night cost?

BigAunty

I have attended 4 Hen-do's and disliked all of them - they've all been pub/club type affairs where I have usually only known the Hen, and then sometimes not that well.

The worst one involved being driven to a dingy nightclub in the east end with one woman who got drunk and agitated, who ran off and left us waiting on the coach for an age.

Another one also involved an underwhelming meal with the other women arguing with the waiter about over-charging and then catching a bus to a retail or industrial park where a pub with adjoining club was built in some kind of warehouse.

The least worst one involved a very slowly delivered underwhelming meal in a drafty venue and then at least had a cosy karaoke with friendly girls who didn't get smashed out of their faces.

None of the Hen Do's have been expensive and at least none have required fancy dress.

I would never attend another Hen do in my life unless it was a quiet meal and the Hen is a close friend.

I've disliked them so much that I refused to have one for my wedding. A couple of friends invited me and my intended round their house for a meal and cocktails as they respected my decision not to hold one but wanted to mark it in some way.

fairy_lights

WolfSong2000 wrote: »

No, not invited to wedding - excellent point. Beginning to dawn on me I was probably asked to bump up numbers. Will have to find a way to politely decline...maybe suggest taking friend out for a meal/drink locally instead.

Whaaaaat? :eek:
So she hasn't invited you to her wedding but would still quite like you to go to the Hen Do to bump up numbers/lower the cost for others/make herself look more popular etc.
I'd just tell her you can't attend after all, not explanation really needed seeing as you're not close friends. I wouldn't suggest taking her out for a meal or drink instead either - if she values you as more than a place holder then she can arrange to see you!

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Gavin83 wrote: »

I agree with this. I'm going to a stag do this weekend in Eastern Europe which is costing me about £500, plus I'll then have the cost of the wedding as well. Most stag events are abroad these days and span a weekend.

I worked out that my brother-in-laws stag night cost me £500, for a grand total of 36 hours.. including flight to Milan, football match tickets for a game that got cancelled, overpriced meal, strip club, overpriced taxi rides, coach rides... Sure, I did have fun, but it was a lesson in not going on weekends away with rich kids (This was 'on the cheap' for them).

Mine worked out at about £150 for 2 nights away and entertainment (ok, maybe £200 once you factor in food and drink. I did make my mates sleep in a cabin in the woods though..

You shouldn't invite people to your stag/hen that you aren't intending on inviting to your wedding though; that's ill mannered

Turtle

I haven't read all the replies, however you're barely acquaintances by the sound of it so I'd just say sorry, you're no longer able to make it and leave it at that. Don't feel bad.

Primrose

I don't think you should allow yourself to feel backed into a corner at all. I suspect you are still fairly young and haven't had much experience of "learning to say NO " and being able to resist peer pressure.
You will make the rest of your life much easier if you start practising now.

Just write her a pleasant email wishing her a happy evening but say you've got to be honest but you siimply can'tbjustify the cost at the moment. PPeople can spend what they like on their own weddings and put themselves into debt as a result if they are stupid enough to do so but you don't have to be stupid enough to follow her example if you can't afford it. a limi will probabky just be the start. There could be a meal, a stripper , a nightclub, who knows. I've been caught with that one once. Never again!

System

Primrose wrote: »

I don't think you should allow yourself to feel backed into a corner at all. I suspect you are still fairly young and haven't had much experience of "learning to say NO " and being able to resist peer pressure.
You will make the rest of your life much easier if you start practising now.

Just write her a pleasant email wishing her a happy evening but say you've got to be honest but you siimply can'tbjustify the cost at the moment. PPeople can spend what they like on their own weddings and put themselves into debt as a result if they are stupid enough to do so but you don't have to be stupid enough to follow her example if you can't afford it. a limi will probabky just be the start. There could be a meal, a stripper , a nightclub, who knows. I've been caught with that one once. Never again!

Absolutely, this hen do could easily reach into the £300 + catagory if you are not careful. Not invited to the wedding too - the cheek of it !!