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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I stop paying for my host?
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here is no 'you'.
It's made up.
I'm not sure they are all made up. I once got a PM from an MSE forum staff member asking if a thread I'd started could be used for a money moral dilemma.Let's settle this like gentlemen: armed with heavy sticks
On a rotating plate, with spikes like Flash Gordon
And you're Peter Duncan; I gave you fair warning0 -
I'm not sure they are all made up. I once got a PM from an MSE forum staff member asking if a thread I'd started could be used for a money moral dilemma.
As you had already posted it and presumably got a range of answers, what's the point in reposting it? I wouldn't ask someone what I should have for dinner yesterday.
Out of interest, did they use any artistic licence?"Real knowledge is to know the extent of one's ignorance" - Confucius0 -
As you had already posted it and presumably got a range of answers, what's the point in reposting it? I wouldn't ask somewhat what I should have for dinner yesterday.
Out of interest, did they use any artistic licence?
They didn't use it in the end. I pointed out that it hadn't turned out to be much of a dilemma.Let's settle this like gentlemen: armed with heavy sticks
On a rotating plate, with spikes like Flash Gordon
And you're Peter Duncan; I gave you fair warning0 -
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How could you possibly afford a place elsewhere in any event if you cannot afford food, I also mirror the thoughts of another poster with these silly question threads that are all made up with what looks like the boredom factor kicking in within the MSE tower ranks.0
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I think the person in the OP needs to gather their belongings into their handkerchief on a stick, take their cat and make a start on usurping Boris Johnson.0
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If she's a friend of yours just talk to her about it.
"Just move out" and live WHERE in London for less? Sounds like you literally want to live for free.
That's why I do not have people living with me. More hassle than it's worth!!0 -
"I just don't have the money to fund her while I'm not working."
If she is letting you stay rent-free and it is costing you less than rent would be, then you aren't funding her, she is funding you, albeit not with actual cash.
Do you really need to be in London in order to job hunt? Unless you're getting interviews daily, would it be cheaper to move home (if possible) and travel in for interviews? It may be possible to get your travel costs refunded that way as well. And if you get a few interviews in one week, you could stay with your friend.
Alternatively, tell her that money is tighter than you were expecting, and offer to do the housework instead. This is a situation where really paying your friend back happens after you get a job, and can treat her to a nice dinner or two.0 -
Living rent free with a friend or family member is pretty much a best case scenario for someone who is unemployed, so I don't see how you think you can spend LESS money unless you expect your friend (who is basically your landlord) to also provide free food for you too!
I lived with some friends (a couple with a 2 bedroom flat) not long ago who kindly took me in during a difficult time The (mostly unspoken) contract was pretty simple. I stayed in their 2nd bedroom, paid 1/3 rent which I got housing benefit for (pretty easy to apply for since I was legally their sub-tenant), I also paid for 1/3 of the gas & electric. I bought all my own food and we had separate meals. I also occasionally stocked up on cleaning supplies and toilet roll when I felt like it was 'my turn', and all this worked out well.
They ended up decided to move away, so now Iive on my own in a tiny, tiny flat suitable to my budget. It sucks being poor, but that's life. You can't expect to live anywhere for free unless you're a child!!0
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