Help but don't judge please

brokennotbent

See judging again. How do you know I haven't been through the GP/concelling crap, and that hasn't made me feel like I do. My comment you highlighted was tongue-in-cheek BTW. And as for saying I need to develop a thicker skin....physically yes, mentally....a lot of people would have, bluntly, topped themselves for less than I've put up with. This is really my last comment.

brokennotbent

FWIW, how do you know I haven't been totally screwed up already by the medical profession. As for saying I need thicker skin- physically yes, but mentally (be blunt) many would have topped themselves by now for what I've had happen to me. As for suggesting I need to "get used to talking to people" - well here isn't really a good example as I'm ranting, but you have formed an image/stereotype of me so thank you for those who haven't and I am now signing off, so talk amongst yourselves.

NYM

Without facial expression it isn't always easy to tell if a comment is written 'tongue in cheek' and is not seriously intended.

My comment btw, is not a criticism of what you wrote but of understanding that some posters may not appreciate another posters humour.

pmlindyloo

brokennotbent wrote: »

See judging again. How do you know I haven't been through the GP/concelling crap, and that hasn't made me feel like I do. My comment you highlighted was tongue-in-cheek BTW. And as for saying I need to develop a thicker skin....physically yes, mentally....a lot of people would have, bluntly, topped themselves for less than I've put up with. This is really my last comment.

I think most of us feel that we are floundering in the dark to a certain extent.

You know what you have been through but we don't. We have no idea of what problems you have faced since you went to university. We have no ideas what your life is like at home.

Whilst totally understanding you wish not to go into details, that just means that we are trying to help based on the little bits that you have told us.

We can assume that you are overly protected by your parents, we can assume that you just don't get on with your parents, we can assume that your parents abuse you mentally, we can assume lots of things.

So in the end we may make mistakes because we have no idea the 'history' of how you have reached the place you are at.

Believe me, we are trying.

You are obviously 'hurting' and I feel desperately sorry for you but please don't take offence when we get it wrong. We have very little to go on. We probably are not giving you the help you want and, for myself, I feel totally inadequate as to what to suggest next. I just hope that some of what has been suggested has been helpful.

Forums are extremely difficult places to get to know a person. I am sorry that we seem to have 'failed you'.

Wishing you well.

KiKi

brokennotbent wrote: »

See judging again. How do you know I haven't been through the GP/concelling crap, and that hasn't made me feel like I do. My comment you highlighted was tongue-in-cheek BTW. And as for saying I need to develop a thicker skin....physically yes, mentally....a lot of people would have, bluntly, topped themselves for less than I've put up with. This is really my last comment.

brokennotbent wrote: »

FWIW, how do you know I haven't been totally screwed up already by the medical profession. As for saying I need thicker skin- physically yes, but mentally (be blunt) many would have topped themselves by now for what I've had happen to me. As for suggesting I need to "get used to talking to people" - well here isn't really a good example as I'm ranting, but you have formed an image/stereotype of me so thank you for those who haven't and I am now signing off, so talk amongst yourselves.

People can only judge on what they've been told, so we won't always get it right. Equally, you've judged all of us: you think we're people who will "talk amongst ourselves".

People always form 'images' of others online - and you've done the same about people on this thread, assuming that we're like everyone else you've met. So if nothing else, we all have something in common!!!

I get the impression that you're really hurting, your responses show that (that's not a stereotype I've made, but a judgement based on your replies). But there is some really good information in those replies too, so try and take that and work with it where you can.

Wishing you luck.
KiKi

GlasweJen

Have you ever reached out to mental health charities to see if they can offer you support?

MIND are good at supporting anyone with a mental health problem and could give you advice on housing and getting out of your home environment if it's impacting on your well being.

I don't know how far along on the journey you are but a charity like b-eat could help when you're out as the drastic change in environment could potentially trigger a relapse. It might be good to call their helpline for support.

I don't know what gender you are but if you're being abused in the home (and that includes mental abuse) you can approach charities to help domestic abuse victims, the famous one is womens aid but they will help men too and have a mens phone line for specialised support.

I'm not sure if emergency accommodation would accept your dogs (if you went down the domestic abuse route) but one of the animal charities might be able to find you a foster home for yours while you're getting settled and then when you're in a permanant home you can arrange for them to come back and live with you.

I do hope it all works out OP but miracles don't happen over night. This is definitely a marathon but you need to start somewhere.

Transformers

brokennotbent wrote: »

See judging again. How do you know I haven't been through the GP/concelling crap, and that hasn't made me feel like I do. My comment you highlighted was tongue-in-cheek BTW. And as for saying I need to develop a thicker skin....physically yes, mentally....a lot of people would have, bluntly, topped themselves for less than I've put up with. This is really my last comment.

brokennotbent wrote: »

FWIW, how do you know I haven't been totally screwed up already by the medical profession. As for saying I need thicker skin- physically yes, but mentally (be blunt) many would have topped themselves by now for what I've had happen to me. As for suggesting I need to "get used to talking to people" - well here isn't really a good example as I'm ranting, but you have formed an image/stereotype of me so thank you for those who haven't and I am now signing off, so talk amongst yourselves.

You have taken the majority of well balanced comments and misinterpreted them as negative - that is why I've formed an opinion that you still need help to sort through your issues.

Not all people are the same and not all medical professionals are bad.

People here are not trying to have a go at you - they are tying to help but you can't seem to see that.

Please think about talking to someone - Mind, a local support group or your GP (get a new one if you are not happy with the one you have now).

brokennotbent

I know I seem ungrateful, but truly I'm not. I have used this forum, unfairly, as a means to vent at strangers rather than those it's directed at. IF, I post again, it will be under a new name for sure as, not for the first time, alienated myself. Thank you x

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I know the feeling, don't you worry pet x

NYM

brokennotbent wrote: »

I know I seem ungrateful, but truly I'm not. I have used this forum, unfairly, as a means to vent at strangers rather than those it's directed at. IF, I post again, it will be under a new name for sure as, not for the first time, alienated myself. Thank you x

Sometimes it's easier to speak your mind with anonymous strangers that won't be hurt by what you say, rather than saying what you would really like to, to those that will take it personally and perhaps retaliate unkindly.

So, start each of your posts with ..*this is a rant and is not directed at anyone in particular...* Then write exactly what you want to.