Help but don't judge please

teddysmum

brokennotbent wrote: »

Teddysmum, is the website The Dogpages, I'll google it

If you haven't already found the site : www.dogpages.org.uk .

tomtontom

brokennotbent wrote: »

Why the prob with me being outside- judging and jumping to conclusions. TBH, I have two dogs to look after, I haven't got the time or inclination to be doing jigsaws. This is all getting so messed up, thank you but I have to face facts.

No one has been judgemental - they are just suggesting ways that might help you move forward and get some balance in your life.

nannytone_2

OP.... you're very focused on what youn want ... and thats a good thing ....
but you have to temper it with what is possible and what respomnsibilities you have ....
you have to make concessions or you will get nowhere

brokennotbent

If by concessions you mean staying in an area I hate with them still controlling me then, as I feared when starting this thread, my situation is too messed up for people to make suggestions that are feasible, and my responsibilities are to my dogs, no one else

northerntwo1

brokennotbent wrote: »

If by concessions you mean staying in an area I hate with them still controlling me then, as I feared when starting this thread, my situation is too messed up for people to make suggestions that are feasible, and my responsibilities are to my dogs, no one else

Have you rang letting agents in your preferred area to see what's available with dogs. How will you furnish your new place. Do you need fully furnished. Who will pay your deposit and security bond.

tomtontom

brokennotbent wrote: »

If by concessions you mean staying in an area I hate with them still controlling me then, as I feared when starting this thread, my situation is too messed up for people to make suggestions that are feasible, and my responsibilities are to my dogs, no one else

It's not that your situation is too messed up, but that you need to be realistic in what you can achieve all at once. Have you thought about setting longer term options - finding work, saving a deposit, further study etc? Then you can break these down into more achievable slices.

The problem with being unrealistic in your short term aims is that you set yourself up to fail.

michelle2008

OP

I have read through most of the thread and I think everyone accepts you don't want to live with your parents anymore - and want some distance from them so they are no longer part if your life.

You are an adult - that is natural, particularly if relations are strained.

If you don't mind me saying - your reactions are a little defensive. I really think you need to speak to a councillor or trusted friend to work through your issues. Your appearance should not and will not be an issue in getting work. But you need to hear that from someone you believe.

I am sure there is wonderful life waiting for you out there - you just need a little help to find the confidence to grab it. Please please please talk to someone

Good luck

pebbles88

brokennotbent wrote: »

Why the prob with me being outside- judging and jumping to conclusions. TBH, I have two dogs to look after, I haven't got the time or inclination to be doing jigsaws. This is all getting so messed up, thank you but I have to face facts.

brokennotbent wrote: »

If by concessions you mean staying in an area I hate with them still controlling me then, as I feared when starting this thread, my situation is too messed up for people to make suggestions that are feasible, and my responsibilities are to my dogs, no one else

Grrrr.... Lost big reply..... Op, look at this link for now, lots of info, and the opportunities section is very good for info. They have advisers avail through the website to do online chat, 7 days a week 8am to 10pm

https://nationalcareersservice.direct.gov.uk/advice/planning/jobprofiles/Pages/kennelworker.aspx

Xx

brokennotbent

On it now pebbles, thank you x

brokennotbent

Yes I am defensive but, if you knew more, you'd understand why. I have no friends in this "prison" except my two forever friends - dogs don't judge. And, despite the DDA etc, my appearance will be a factor (H&S risk etc) but no-one will admit that; given that at my age I have no job hx, employer refs etc, they can use that as the reason instead.