Can't Stop Thinking About Dying

Fireflyaway

I found that after having my baby I viewed everything differently. Before she was born I was quite unemotional. Afterwards I would ( and still do) cry at disney films or sometimes just look at her and worry that one day someone might hurt her or what will happen when I die etc. I think its normal to feel this way sometimes. Especially with lack of sleep and other changes in your life.

Do you mean you feel scared of dying sometime soon? Do you worry about leaving people behind or are you worried about the actual dying bit but when it happens ( hopefully a long way off) ? Maybe working out what aspect scares you will help you figure out how to deal with the fear.

I sometimes worry what will happen to me when my parents are gone and if my husband dies first. That has made me cry many a time!

If there are other symptoms then ask for help. Go to the GP and have a chat. Its quite normal to get down even a long time after having a baby and there are lots of ways to get back on track too.

DermotFlanigan

I think its just the thought that I will be gone forever and never exist again. I'm going to see my GP in an hour so hopefully I can get some help.

Jaguar_Skills

DermotFlanigan wrote: »

I think its just the thought that I will be gone forever and never exist again. I'm going to see my GP in an hour so hopefully I can get some help.

Exactly what I had. PM me if you want.

pinpin

DermotFlanigan wrote: »

I think its just the thought that I will be gone forever and never exist again. I'm going to see my GP in an hour so hopefully I can get some help.

Update us on how it goes etc.

no1catman

DermotFlanigan wrote: »

I think its just the thought that I will be gone forever and never exist again. I'm going to see my GP in an hour so hopefully I can get some help.

Then try to achieve something in this world, so that people remember you and smile at the memory. It's peoples memories and the love (your children for example) they had for you, will still be real.

Armchair23

Hi and I'm really glad you're seeing your GP but there are other services that can help as well . Your GP may be amazing but sometimes waiting lists for counselling and CBT can be really long so try looking at something like

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

Is a great resource for young men who are finding life difficult at the moment.

I hope life seems better soon X

BigAunty

It's not necessarily depression (could be) but a normal part of being human as we are the only animal with language and are likely to be conscious about our future demise.

I am an atheist who takes comfort from the fact that I will leave no trace once I am cremated and scattered.

For me there's no afterlife, and this isn't a bleak outlook at all.

I have an interest in secular buddhism, meditation, mindfullness and yoga. This type of Buddhism insists that the path is more of a philosophy, an outlook, a guide for living. It focusses on suffering and how to ease it. The really old fashioned term 'Nirvana' which is about the end of suffering might be better described in modern terms about achieving contentment or the 'end of worry'.

The principles behind the things I've listed are brilliant because they provide techniques in how to enjoy the present moment without being obsessed with the past or fretting about the future. That way, anxiety, worry and sadness are eliminated.

I also enjoyed parts of the book by Eckhart Tolle called The Power of Now because it outlined the difference between clock time (chronological time) and psychological time (if your mind wandered to the past or to the future or could maintain a healthy focus on the present). It outlined the suffering that came about if clock time and psychological time were out of synch.

It also came up with various strategies to challenge the voice in your head that you assume comes from within you and is The Truth. In fact, the author is mischievous and misleading. With the book, you can learn to push back and not be affected the The Voice that you assume comes form you and stop it from having authority over you. Parts of the book are tedious but it does contain some great nuggets that aren't too far out in terms of New Age Woo-Woo.

Another thing you might benefit from exploring is 'Constructive Living', a psychological therapy with its roots in Japan. It deals with anxiety. Look it up on the internet. It's about acknowledging your anxieties but not letting them overwhelm you. It indicates the type of fear you have is common but that it shouldn't paralyse you. It helps with grounding you, considering what you have rather than how you imagine you are wronged or what you don't have.

Welcome to being human - you are worried about death.

Scrapaholic

I was 26 when I had our son and started to think more deeply about my mortality . Wouldn't say I had PND and I didn't go to the doctors . I had panic attacks but no one knew , just thinking that one day I'd just not be here . Through the years I've completed a counselling skills bereavement course and did volunteer work with bereaved people . Through work I did a short course and was going to pass on the visit to the hospital morgue but I went . It's helped me to a certain extent to accept it.
These days no one opens a conversation about dying and how they feel about it but you're not alone in fearing it . I'd think it's quite natural and if we talked about it maybe it would help .
I try not to think too deeply about it at present as its a waste of time worrying about it . Talk to someone about your fears and I hope it helps you .

Lorian

If you get this in the middle of the night, you might find having an MP3 player with you favourite music ready to play a help, or at least a distraction.

System

I was 18, a few months previously my baby daughter had died, my Dad died 4 months after that. I went through a range of emotions and was convinced that i was going to die too. I went to the Doctors and he gave me the most useless advice. "Pull yourself together".

I did manage to pull myself together after i found something positive to focus on. The birth of my second child.