Can't Stop Thinking About Dying

Kaye1

Are you poorly?


I'm not being facetious- a while ago I had shingles without the rash. Not very common and difficult for the doctor to diagnose. I felt rotten because of the pain. But also really down, weepy, upset. Not like me at all- totally the opposite. Not thoughts of death but certainly very negative.


The shingles was diagnosed and pain relief offered. After some help from the doctors it turned out shingles can be linked to depression- especially with the pain.


I didn't need any treatment but knowing that it was linked to the shingles certainly helped.


Hope this helps. All the best.

pinpin

I'm only in my 20's and i've thought about death non-stop for years.
I can't help it.
The feelings are strongest if I happen to wake up very early in the morning (say 4am)

I also always think about how i'm 'wasting my life' and feel powerless to change it and the regrets i'll have as an old person (If I live to be old)

I recently got some very worrying health news which has obviously made the feelings worse since I now feel like a walking time-bomb and death seems even more 'real;!

Anyway, time for bed. Sweet dreams!!

Tlg1991

pinpin wrote: »

I'm only in my 20's and i've thought about death non-stop for years.
I can't help it.
The feelings are strongest if I happen to wake up very early in the morning (say 4am)

I also always think about how i'm 'wasting my life' and feel powerless to change it and the regrets i'll have as an old person (If I live to be old)

I recently got some very worrying health news which has obviously made the feelings worse since I now feel like a walking time-bomb and death seems even more 'real;!

Anyway, time for bed. Sweet dreams!!

That is my exact worry also, i spent pretty much the whole of my teenage early adult life in a miserable school relationship and wasted a lot of time doing nothing.

i had a big group of friends prior and lost them all pretty much now the few i have have their own groups which i find hard to get involved with. the more time goes by the more time i feel like im wasting and the feeling gets worse.

on one hand i want to get out their and enjoy my life again but on the other hand i think i should start a family as i find it hard to socialise now in new groups and starting a family would be my new life kind of thing.

If you have been felling like that for a few years, i would definitely go and talk to you're doctor. Don't suffer in silence.

Jaguar_Skills

I have also really badly suffered with this in the past. I ended up having hypnotherapy for it.

catkins

BarryBlue wrote: »

I think that we all start thinking about our mortality at some point in our lives, sometimes when we reach a milestone like a 'big' birthday. I found that as you get older you worry less about it as you conclude that there is nothing you can do about the passage of time.

It's really about how you deal with it. Some people refuse to accept the reality that we are all born, live, then die. These are the people who try to convince themselves that there is some sort of afterlife so they grasp on to the false hope of a religion. True contentment is when you accept that there is only one life and this is it. Then you can get on with living it and enjoying it as best you can. Hope things get better for you.

You don't know for certain there is no afterlife. You believe there isn't and that's fine but you can't call it a reality and I find it extremely rude and disrespectful to anyone who doesn't share your views


I believe 100% there is an afterlife but I don't expect everyone else to believe it. I am not scared of dying just the way I will die

motorguy

catkins wrote: »

You don't know for certain there is no afterlife. You believe there isn't and that's fine but you can't call it a reality and I find it extremely rude and disrespectful to anyone who doesn't share your views


I believe 100% there is an afterlife but I don't expect everyone else to believe it. I am not scared of dying just the way I will die

Firstly, as my old boss used to say, perception is reality, therefore the reality to some is that there is no afterlife and to others that there is.

That doesnt make someone elses reality "wrong" or something you should take offense at.

Secondly - you brought it up. Totally irrelevant to the thread, and then dont seem to like it when someone has a different view than you?

Thirdly, there are approx 1,000 different sun god religions on the go at the moment around the world. So we're not hugely different - i just believe in one less than you do (food for thought there perhaps)

motorguy

DermotFlanigan wrote: »

Recently I have been thinking a bit too deeply that one day I will no longer be here and now I can't stop thinking about it.

I am getting quite depressed about it and after dropping my partner off in work last night I got home and broke down crying. It has only been the last 2 weeks. I don't know what's triggered it but I now think of it as soon as I wake up until I go to sleep. The more I try and ignore it the more I think about it.

I'm 27 and have recently changed jobs and have an 8 month old baby. Would the life changes have triggered this?

Dermot, i think you need to seek professional help as it sounds an awful lot like you're suffering from depression. Speak to your doctor in the first instance but get help before it really does drag you down. He or she may be able to recommend someone to talk to too.

One thing i would say is - death is part of the cycle of life and its something you cant change. In that sense there is no sense in worrying about it. Try to think of the positives in your life rather than (let this illness) focus on the negatives (which is what it does).

Sleep detriment doesnt help so make sure you're getting the sleep you need. Also exercise helps, so try to exercise regularly.

Also, if this is what it turns out to be, you're not alone - its very common in men and these days very treatable.

Hope it all works out.

motorguy

DermotFlanigan wrote: »

Thank you all for your responses.

I didn't even know men could get PND but having looked on google some of the symptoms are what I am experiencing.

Feeling very low, or despondent, that life is a long, grey tunnel, and that there is no hope. Feeling tired and very lethargic, or even quite numb. Not wanting to do anything or take an interest in the outside world.
Feeling a sense of inadequacy or unable to cope.
Feeling guilty about not coping, or about not loving their baby enough.
Being unusually irritable, which makes the guilt worse.
Wanting to cry/crying a lot or even constantly.
Having obsessive and irrational thoughts which can be very scary.
Loss of appetite, which may go with feeling hungry all the time, but being unable to eat.
Comfort eating.
Having difficulty sleeping: either not getting to sleep, waking early, or having vivid nightmares.
Being hostile or indifferent to their partner and/or baby.
Having panic attacks, which strike at any time, causing a rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms and feelings of sickness or faintness.
Having an overpowering anxiety, often about things that wouldn't normally bother them, such as being alone in the house.
Having difficulty in concentrating or making decisions.
Experiencing physical symptoms, such as headaches.
Having obsessive fears about baby's health or wellbeing, or about themselves and other members of the family.
Having disturbing thoughts about harming themselves or their baby.
Having thoughts about death.

I've highlighted the ones that I have experienced in the last 2/3 weeks.

You really do need to get professional help - i wouldnt hang the PND tag around it - but it does sound very much like depression.

InsideInsurance

Agree with others that you should be speaking to a professional about your situation.

As an aside though, what is your actual fear of dying? Is it what happens to you personally or the impact it will have on those still living?

Being dead has never scared me, lifes last big adventure and all that. If the Atheists are right then I simply cease to be so nothing bads happening to me as me doesnt exist. If the religions are right and there is a merciful god/ karma then all in all I've been an ok person but may just leave my banking experience of my resume. The process of dying itself could be painful but then it could also happen when I'm in my sleep in my 90s with a beautiful 20 something next to me.

As to the impact on others, well I'm not going to be around to see it, I have ensured I have appropriate arrangements to look after them for the mid term and life moves on. Realistically if the Mrs was widowed at 36 she will meet someone else in time and be happy again. I wont be envious of that as I'll be gone.

catkins

motorguy wrote: »

Firstly, as my old boss used to say, perception is reality, therefore the reality to some is that there is no afterlife and to others that there is.

That doesnt make someone elses reality "wrong" or something you should take offense at.

Secondly - you brought it up. Totally irrelevant to the thread, and then dont seem to like it when someone has a different view than you?

Thirdly, there are approx 1,000 different sun god religions on the go at the moment around the world. So we're not hugely different - i just believe in one less than you do (food for thought there perhaps)

I didn't bring it up actually, the poster who I quoted did.


I never said the poster was wrong if you read my post properly. I said he is entitled to his views but they are not 100% reality or certain.


People can decide for themselves to believe or not believe in any religion and I don't have any problem with that. The poster I quoted seems to though as he said " Some people refuse to accept the reality that we are allborn, live, then die. These are the people who try to convince themselves that there is some sort of afterlife so they grasp on to the false hope of a religion."


If he chooses not to believe in any god or any afterlife fine but don't belittle those that do