Father's Day. Not even an acknowledgement....

DUTR

PenguinOfDeath wrote: »

I certainly remembered my father this week, (he's still around) didn't mean I went fawning over FB about it, for a start he's not on it so what's the point?

I never said people should, it was nice reading though as well as those that phoned in on the radio. (just as it was nice reading that you remembered your father today and perhaps 365 days a year).

gettingtheresometime

DUTR wrote: »

There is nowt special about it, just like mother's day.
Although it falls further down the pecking order, I must confess though, I enjoyed reading the posts on facebook of the nice people that do remember their father whether they are living or not, there seems to be a 'better' breed of people that have/had a relationship/contact with their father.

Not sure how to take that DUTR.

I haven't spoken to my father for the past 25 years. Does that make a lesser person?

Pollycat

DUTR wrote: »

It means exactly as that, I'm not on about children (as in under 18s posting) , just life experience of people I come across, those that have had some male input in their life 99% of the time come across as nicer characters than those that don't (male and female).

That wasn't what you said in post #16.
You specifically said 'relationship/contact with their father'.

I didn't have any contact or relationship with my father, his choice when I was small, mine when I was old enough to make a choice.

Having contact or a relationship with my biological father certainly wouldn't have made me a 'better breed of person'

Now, on the other hand, my wonderful step-father (who was the person I thought about yesterday) did make me a better breed of person.

OP - sorry you didn't get any acknowledgement from your children.
I would be interested to know if they are boys. I always tell my 2 friends (4 boys between them., no girls) that most boys don't tend to make such a fuss of 'special' days.

seven-day-weekend

We never bothered about Mother's and Father's Day when our son was little (we did for our own parents, just not for ourselves), so I tell my husband he doesn't need to get upset if our son does not mention it now.

jjj1980

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

Not sure how to take that DUTR.

I haven't spoken to my father for the past 25 years. Does that make a lesser person?

I'm also quite offended by your comments DUTR and feel the same as gettingthere! for both myself and my daughter.

Despite my dad being around until I was 7, my mum is the one instilled manners and good behaviour. After he left, I didn't suddenly become some delinquent, miscreant.

With my daughter, my ex walked out when she was 4 months old and she overnight turned from a stressed, upset baby that had to be in my arms all the time otherwise would scream to a very happy, settled baby. She is now 5 and is constantly complimented on her behaviour and manners. Her father on the other hand laughs at her for being so well behaved. He thinks she would be better with less manners, thoughtfulness etc.

Some of the children at my daughter's school have both parents at home, with very involved, decent fathers are the naughtiest, most selfish children I've ever seen!

I've always bought a card from her for his birthday, Christmas and Father's Day, he has never, even when we were together, done the same back for me.

The last few years when school/preschool were making Father's Day cards, she has refused and told them she wants to make it to Mummy as Mummy is the one who looks after her. She refuses to sign his cards that I buy so I do them from her.

Having a father in their life is not always beneficial to a child. Just because they don't have, doesn't make those with better people.

duchy

I've always found "better bred" people are those who don't make sweeping assumptions about people rather than some weird snobbish view based on whether parents are married/stll together or divorced , or the kind of house they live in, or their accent, or the percieved size of their bank balance. I consider people who judge others on such factors to be very poorly bred themselves.

Goldiegirl

mgdavid wrote: »

what's special about father's day?

Exactly, it's just a day dreamed up my marketing executives and gets even more commercial each year.

I never even knew there was such a thing as Mother's Day or Father's Day until well into my junior school years - it's something that we never did at home.

I never sent my mum or dad a card - and was never expected to either. I can think about my mum and dad any time I want, I don't need a special day for it.

My suggestion for the OP is to not get too hung up about one day, but to try and improve the relationship with your kids for 365 days a year

DUTR

Pollycat wrote: »

That wasn't what you said in post #16.
You specifically said 'relationship/contact with their father'.

I didn't have any contact or relationship with my father, his choice when I was small, mine when I was old enough to make a choice.

Having contact or a relationship with my biological father certainly wouldn't have made me a 'better breed of person'

Now, on the other hand, my wonderful step-father (who was the person I thought about yesterday) did make me a better breed of person.

OP - sorry you didn't get any acknowledgement from your children.
I would be interested to know if they are boys. I always tell my 2 friends (4 boys between them., no girls) that most boys don't tend to make such a fuss of 'special' days.

Yes I did put that in post 16, and hopefully corrected it later as in father/step father, there seems little point in explaining further as I did post (IME) those that do seem to have male input seem calmer less pent up anger and less argumentative and anti men (to name a few traits), of course that is not across the board and I can make no apologies for the way I view the world

red_devil

These types of events put too much pressure on people.

NICHOLAS_2

Don't beat yourself up, i never aknowledged it for my dad either, although i work with him so see him all the time. I'm not into poncy stuff like this myself, i don't get him anything for his birthday either, and he doesn't get anything for me.

My mom on the other hand i give money to and buy stuff for.

Fathers day et al is just poncy!

*In my opinon