Just keep swimming

Igamogam

Don't be horrible and fall out......keep her at arms length. Politely tell her something has come up and you will be in touch. You can leave that 'being in touch' date for as long as you want. Rearrange a time to meet with other friends maybe then she doesn't have all your attention. Be brutally honest and say you are trying to save money so maybe another time. As far as inviting herself round with the children.......can you meet on neutral ground? Park,pool,local fun centre type place?? Then there is a definite end to the meeting. No falling out just you controlling it.
As for OH.........don't mention OHs. Mine was in foul mood this morning............:mad:

mumblingtaff

Morning ICBW.
I know exactly what you mean about so-called friends, I went through the same thing with one of mine last year. Don't see them anymore. It's tough though isn't it?
I hope you manage to have a good day regardless - Igamogam's advice is sound, perhaps you should put them if and do it on your own terms?
Xx

itcouldbeworse

Thankyou ladies your advice is appreciated, I'm going to keep her at arms length, good idea to meet up on neutral ground, I do think it is unfair that she always invites herself to my home, her excuse is your house is bigger, they have more room to hang out and play. I really don't mind having people over but when they invite themselves and expect you to feed them, and then leave you with a pigsty to clean up it really isn't fair.

itcouldbeworse

Kids enjoyed swimming and it only cost me £5.60 out of this weeks fun budget, the pool had floats and blowup castle thing in the pool, so they had a whale of a time and asked when they can go again, next week was the reply.


I nipped to the post office posted £bay parcel (postage paid for) and also posted bus pass form for DS, had to send it signed for so cost me £1.73, but as it has a DD mandate in with it which contained bank details I wanted to be safe ( really don't trust royal mail).


Nipped to the shop and bought milk and a loaf od my favourite crusty bread as a treat, so spent £2.34.


So this weeks fun budget has £19.40 left in it, need to see if the kids want to do something on Thursday, will wait until Wednesday and see what the weather is doing first, I can see them wanting to go swimming again.


Off to do some surveys and find something to £bay.

itcouldbeworse

Morning diary.


Off into big town this morning to try and buy the last of DS school uniform, Ds has a WHsmith voucher he wants to spend and also informed me he has a £15 arg0s one as well, trying to persuade him to buy a board game or swing ball for the garden, he is insisting on some plastic tat that I know he will be bored with after 5 mins, kids!!


Checked banking this morning and all is looking ok, checked N£XT account and I'm £16 away from being in the 3s, so challenge for me this week is to get it into the 3s by Sunday evening, small target to keep me focussed.
I have an item ending today on £bay which has bids of £3 on, so that's a start for the target and have listed my daily item, I'm finding this listing daily much easier and less daunting than sitting with a pile of stuff, as I just put it off .


Going to have to order pet supplies in the next few days, chicken food is low and so is woofett food.


Right better get myself moving and go and get dressed.

mum2one

Swimming sounds a bargain, sounds like the fun budget going well. Hope u get things sorted out with friend, does seem all one sided and as others have said make an excuse that something has come up, I've culled a few friendships over the yrs, I think we just become immune to it, and then it hits a point where there is no turning back.

Dd is always moaning at me for being a softie, I think for us things came to a head last ur my dad got stuck with bowel cancer, completely unexpected, he goes to the docs on the Monday constipated, admitted to hospital on the wed - same reason - on the third ngt mass panic been admitted to emergency surgery with ruptured bowel and its cancer. He spent a month is hospital 160 mile round trip, yet those friends who as a family we had been there wore the Tshirt were useless yet people who we weren't as close to, we're like gold to us. Not that u need a crisis to realise who true friends are xx

t2rry

How appropriate - just keep swimming....!


I am trying to take a leaf out of your book and list one item per day. I am out of data on my phone until next week though, as I usually find it easier to do it whilst I'm out and about during the day for things that occur to me (I usually use stock pictures). Means I have to be a little more organised about it now.


Great little targets coming though, stick with it, every little helps as they say!

itcouldbeworse

mum2one wrote: »

Swimming sounds a bargain, sounds like the fun budget going well. Hope u get things sorted out with friend, does seem all one sided and as others have said make an excuse that something has come up, I've culled a few friendships over the yrs, I think we just become immune to it, and then it hits a point where there is no turning back.

Dd is always moaning at me for being a softie, I think for us things came to a head last ur my dad got stuck with bowel cancer, completely unexpected, he goes to the docs on the Monday constipated, admitted to hospital on the wed - same reason - on the third ngt mass panic been admitted to emergency surgery with ruptured bowel and its cancer. He spent a month is hospital 160 mile round trip, yet those friends who as a family we had been there wore the Tshirt were useless yet people who we weren't as close to, we're like gold to us. Not that u need a crisis to realise who true friends are xx

Hi thanks mum2one, Sorry to hear about about your dad, I think when things hit the fan that is when you find out who your true friends are!
I'm not looking forward to this evening, just can't be ars£d.

itcouldbeworse

t2rry wrote: »

How appropriate - just keep swimming....!


I am trying to take a leaf out of your book and list one item per day. I am out of data on my phone until next week though, as I usually find it easier to do it whilst I'm out and about during the day for things that occur to me (I usually use stock pictures). Means I have to be a little more organised about it now.


Great little targets coming though, stick with it, every little helps as they say!

Hi, thanks or posting, i'm using my phone to list as well its much easier than faffing with the laptop.
God luck and fingers crossed you get lots of sales.

itcouldbeworse

Afternoon diary, £bay item sold and paid for :j, £10 sent to N£XT account, so only £6.42 to find now, easily doable I think. Also paid fees to £bay, makes sense to do it as I go.


Managed to get some of DS uniform in town, spent £36 and still need to get another pair of trousers and schoolshoes.


Forgot to get Sausages out of freezer for tea last night, so I emptied my change tin before going to town and bought some in Sainsbury, you shouldhave seen me feeding 1p,2p, 5p and 10ps into the self serve checkout, I didn't care, but DS disowned me and walked off :rotfl:, I bet he still eats the sausages though.


DD met her friend in town and has gone to her house for a sleep over, I gave her £5 to get some treats to take with her, this came from entertainment budget though.


DH is taking me to the cinema on Sat eve to see the new mission impossible film, so I nipped into poundland and got us some treats, not paying cinema prices, £3 spent.


DS spent his WH$miths voucher on school stationary, he decided to keep his arg0s giftcard as there was nothing he really wanted, training him well.