How can I be a proper adult?

LameWolf

Primrose wrote: »

I think it,s a sad fact of life that we only start to develop wisdom and understanding when we have experienced a few of life's bereavements, knocks and other traumas along the way and have started to develop coping mechanisms. These generally help to develop and improve our characters and general philosophies on life. If your life has been generally serene and trouble free to this point be thankful. Sooner or later we all run into troubled waters and while they are hard to manipulate, often they all bring valuable learning and coping lessons to our experience.

Conversely, sometimes such experiences can knock one so far sideways that one never recovers one's equilibrium (assuming one ever had equilibrium in the first place).

balletshoes

suki1964 wrote: »

Im still a big kid I'm sure when I have to go deal with grown ups about grown up issues they know I'm really a 16 year old in someone else's body. How I ever managed to buy and sell houses, deal with councils and education, pass interviews for jobs, interview others, organise a wedding, a couple of funerals, be there at the birth of my granddaughter and a million and one other things I will never know cos I'm only 16:)

In my head, I'm still in my mid-twenties, I've felt like this for about 20 years now, I may never feel older than that .

somethingcorporate

Age is just a number.

I work in a huge "corporate" company surrounded by a lot of "professional" people. Even talking to some very senior, grown up folks when you get down to it they are often more than happy to admit winging it.

Everyone does it, there is no practice run for life so we're all just making it up as we go along. It sounds like you are doing fine.

A 30 year old having had 2 kids (still 13 in my head).