Recently Married, New Job, babies - Help!

clarabell1984

Thank you so much for more of your comments.

I have now called the agency to cancel the interview with the company.

I appreciate everyones input and has made me realise i need to think more about this for the future.

The chances are I wouldn't fall pregnant for another year, if at all, but the grass isn't always greener either.

Gigglepig

clarabell1984 wrote: »

The chances are I wouldn't fall pregnant for another year, if at all, but the grass isn't always greener either.

OP if you are going to cancel why not tell the agency that 2k is a bit less of a step up than you are looking for

Keep going until you find a job where the grass truly is greener, and good luck with trying for a baby.

Kynthia

Women can't put their lives on hold because they 'might' start trying for a baby soon. They might not, they may wait a while, split up from their partner, their partner might get made redundant, it might take a while or even years to conceive, etc etc. Employers need to deal with the unexpected like their staff falling pregnant, getting sick and even going on long term sick, giving notice unexpectedly, etc etc.


Employers certainly give no consideration to the fact some of their staff 'might' be planning to have a baby soon when they put their employees on notice of redundancy, or worse say it might happen in 6 months or 16 months. So do you get pregnant now and hope that it's not 8 months as then you'll be jobhunting heavily pregnant, unlikely to get anything and have to cope with no money while on maternity leave when you are the main breadwinner? Or do put off trying until you know what's happening and get another job, but now you're worried about being too old, not qualifying for enhanced maternity pay with a new employer or feeling sad that there will forever be a much bigger age gap between the new child and the existing one than you wanted. The same goes for employee who was house hunting, afraid to put an offer somewhere in case they lose their job and have to pull out of the purchase, afraid to buy something bigger in case they can't afford it once they're redundant, having to put their lives on hold or stuck somewhere too small.


So people need to make the best decisions for them and their families, and stop making working and pregnancy a 'moral' issue.

*~Zephyr~*

j.e.j. wrote: »

But as far as I know, regarding the maternity pay, the employer doesn't have to cough up. The only thing she would be entitled to by law would be SMP which is paid for by the government.

Incorrect. SMP is NOT paid for by the Government in every instance. SOME small employers are able to claim back SMP payments, but not all of them. It depends on the value of the company payroll. If the NIC bill is less than £45k per year, they can reclaim.

£45k per year equates to employing about 11 people, including Directors, on the national average wage.

j.e.j.

*~Zephyr~* wrote: »

Incorrect. SMP is NOT paid for by the Government in every instance. SOME small employers are able to claim back SMP payments, but not all of them. It depends on the value of the company payroll. If the NIC bill is less than £45k per year, they can reclaim.

£45k per year equates to employing about 11 people, including Directors, on the national average wage.

Ah, ok.

Large companies don't tend to find female employees having time off due to pregnancy/maternity leave such a problem, so that would make sense.

If it's a small employer/company it's still a hassle for them, though, I would imagine, and a lot of extra work for the books/accountant.



It should be paid for by the government, imo, because otherwise you'll get employers being reluctant to take on women employees (as indeed some are!)

In any case OP is only in admin which 1) tends to have mainly female employees and 2) doesn't pay very well anyway.

missbiggles1

j.e.j. wrote: »

Ah, ok.

Large companies don't tend to find female employees having time off due to pregnancy/maternity leave such a problem, so that would make sense.

If it's a small employer/company it's still a hassle for them, though, I would imagine, and a lot of extra work for the books/accountant.



It should be paid for by the government, imo, because otherwise you'll get employers being reluctant to take on women employees (as indeed some are!)

In any case OP is only in admin which 1) tends to have mainly female employees and 2) doesn't pay very well anyway.

You were doing so well until your last sentence!:rotfl:

clarabell1984

When I said small business, I should really have said independant company. I'm not sure of the size of the business as I don't know much about the company at all but from what I do know, they are an expanding internet based company.
Not that it matters now anyway

kleapatra

I'm pretty sure all employers can claim back 92% of the statutory maternity pay they incur- so 8% of a pittance really isn't a lot for a business to swallow for 6 months.

I'd go for the new job OP!

j.e.j.

missbiggles1 wrote: »

You were doing so well until your last sentence!:rotfl:

Oh. Sorry


I just find there are very few fellas working in admin roles. There are some, but generally it's done by women.


:rotfl::rotfl:

Buzzybee90

j.e.j. wrote: »

Ah, ok.

Large companies don't tend to find female employees having time off due to pregnancy/maternity leave such a problem, so that would make sense.

If it's a small employer/company it's still a hassle for them, though, I would imagine, and a lot of extra work for the books/accountant.



It should be paid for by the government, imo, because otherwise you'll get employers being reluctant to take on women employees (as indeed some are!)

In any case OP is only in admin which 1) tends to have mainly female employees and 2) doesn't pay very well anyway.

You have a low view of administrative work, of which most office jobs consist of, in one form or another.