Playing the field

chiefie

Excess of a good thing becomes boring. If you do if you will tire of it. If you don't do it you may crave it. Do what works for you. But excesses of anything like this, gambling, drug taking probably hide a deeper issue that doing it will make worse not better.

Ps so wish I had the chance when I was young !! :T

Heffi1

OP you need to get over the ex girlfriend she is obviously having fun and there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop her, she does not want to have a relationship with you anymore, she likes the sex so leave her to have her fun, and let her parents pick up the pieces.


SHE DOES NOT BELONG TO YOU!!!

System

thorsoak wrote: »

Thought of it as a physical attachment

Well theres that as well :rotfl:

System

I did it in my somewhat manic (literally manic....increased libido being one of the annoying symptoms) younger days. Not for me. It was't what i wanted. I had pretty much none existent self esteem and somehow convinced myself if someone liked me enough to sleep with me i couldn't be that bad a person surely? All i really wanted was to meet the right person and i went about it in completely the wrong way. It was usually after break ups that i went off the rails, though the most recent break up i thankfully didn't and i feel better about myself for not going down a route that usually just led to self loathing

I know for some people they enjoy it, and they are happy doing it, and i'd never judge anyone for it. But personally I wish i hadn't done it.

pendragon_arther

[simon] wrote: »

I want to hear from anyone their opinion, experiances, thoughs on both guys and girls playing the field.

Is playing the field (sleeping around for fun) with no emotional attachment a good thing or a bad thing ?

On the down side, your putting yourself at risk of infections, may get a bad name, and emotionally get messed up by feeling used, dont know what real love is, and even bedome depressed later on in life and find it hard to ever settle down, your maybe creating a spiral of playing the field for ever....
Maybe emotions do come in to it after all you might think your in love, you might really like someone but they dont want a relationship, stress is also a factor, arguments and jellousy.

On the up side maybe it boosts your confidence and lets you meet lots of different people so you have a good idea of what you want from a partner when it comes to settling down later on...maybe you feel good in your self...



Lastley does playing the field stop you looking / wanting other people that you might see in every day life...do you think well ive been with lots of people so they are not much to look at any more....

does it create stability in later life and fullfillment when you find the one ? Or is it always in Your mind to carry on playing / feel more tempted to play around even when in a commited relationship.....

Have you ever heard the term 'dogging' or 'fuk buddies' ?

Two or more consenting adults can do pretty much what they want IMHO.

Can it lead to a more fulfilling relationship? It all depends on the individual.