Parking - Can I do anything about neighbour deliberately blocking me

IamNotAllowedToUseMyName

Generally you get what you give. Treat each other civilly and it pays back. Assume that people are horrible and treat them like that and you will get what you expect.

It's not about being walked all over, it is about setting an example, and winning hearts and minds. On a small scale it is Prince Charles and Gerry Adams warmly holding hands when they could be shouting and screaming at each other assuming the worst of each other.

If someone is playing up locally, it is worth trying to take the moral high ground to avoid things spiralling out of control. It is not a one time deal - when you live near each other, you have years of a relationship to consider. If they don't respond, because they are small minded fools, then all you have lost is some time in trying to resolve things - you have also got the weapon of "look, we have tried to be reasonable". The police are prepared to be involved if things get silly, especially as harassment is a criminal offence now.

In fact, in this case, keeping a record of blocking in cars is probably the easiest way of getting them a serious visit from the police. I've had the police involved over a long period of email bullying to do with a community thing I was involved in.

That being said, my daughter was in a flat in Newcastle and had a neighbour from hell - nothing was going to make that work, Someone was very unhappy and it was everyone else's fault. Fortunately as a student she could walk away.

Anyway, nowt so queer as folk, aye?

bod1467

[quote=[Deleted User];68438286]Of course, could be argued that him expecting to park his motorhome in a residential estate where there are limited road spaces for visitors etc is also a bit inconsiderate dont you think?

But regardless of that I can't do anything about it because its a public road and its a taxed vehicle.[/QUOTE]

Are there any conditions in the deeds/missives for the properties pertaining to parking of commercial or residential vehicles? For example, on my estate (in Scotland), whose roads have been publicly adopted, commercial vehicles (like vans) and caravans are not officially allowed to be parked overnight. (That doesn't stop it happening, but if it ever became an issue then a complaint could be raised which had legal backing).

londonTiger

to be honest, if you get the authorities involved that will lead you down to a one way road as far as relationships grow.

Obviousy they seem to have a grudge for whatever reason and they've built it up and now doing these passive aggressive nonsense on you. Find a way to resolve that or at least have a word before contacting police.

If you call the police/council the first thing they'll ask is have you spoken to your neighbours? if you say no. You will look a bit stupid.

RS2000.

londonTiger wrote: »

to be honest, if you get the authorities involved that will lead you down to a one way road as far as relationships grow.

Obviousy they seem to have a grudge for whatever reason and they've built it up and now doing these passive aggressive nonsense on you. Find a way to resolve that or at least have a word before contacting police.

If you call the police/council the first thing they'll ask is have you spoken to your neighbours? if you say no. You will look a bit stupid.

You go on about the importance of nurses being able to read but can you?

Police are already involved and looks like they've been out.

pendragon_arther

IanMSpencer wrote: »

Generally you get what you give. Treat each other civilly and it pays back. Assume that people are horrible and treat them like that and you will get what you expect.

It's not about being walked all over, it is about setting an example, and winning hearts and minds. On a small scale it is Prince Charles and Gerry Adams warmly holding hands when they could be shouting and screaming at each other assuming the worst of each other.

Anyway, nowt so queer as folk, aye?

Are you saying Gerry Adams parks his car outside Prince Charles' house? He should be very worried.

pickledonionspaceraider

I would just park down the road out of his way - it's only short term whilst your drive is being done up, so not really a big deal

Strider590

IanMSpencer wrote: »

Generally you get what you give. Treat each other civilly and it pays back. Assume that people are horrible and treat them like that and you will get what you expect.

IanMSpencer wrote: »

If someone is playing up locally, it is worth trying to take the moral high ground to avoid things spiralling out of control.

Your assuming that everyone is a reasonable human being, but some people ARE crazy, more people than you may think.

I'd never been anything but nice to my ch4vy neighbours, but I still got a load of verbal for something I hadn't done (see earlier post) and they're still give us crap 6 months or so later.

We haven't really spoken to them OR reacted to their provocations, so they've now taken to coming out into the garden when we're there and shouting "Oh lardydar".
Now lets consider that i'm living in a 3 bed terraced house in what is probably one of the quieter areas of town and I drive a 12 year old car, not exactly "posh".

Because we did not react to them in a way they're accustomed to (shouting and swearing and generally behaving like ch4vs), they've automatically seen this as us thinking we're above or better than them.

You just cannot win, sometimes no reaction can be just as bad, because your effectively sending them a message that they're unimportant.

All this crap over a partially deflated football, which by the way is still in their garden, still partially deflated despite the huge hole that I apparently jabbed into it.

Perhaps I sealed/patched said hole just after creating it? Or perhaps it was just one of those cheap plastic balls that we've all had as kids, which never seemed to stay inflated for more than a couple of weeks?

What I need is no neighbours at all.......

IamNotAllowedToUseMyName

Strider590 wrote: »

Your assuming that everyone is a reasonable human being, but some people ARE crazy, more people than you may think.

Which is exactly why I wrote more than you quoted.:mad:

I'd hoped that the point I was making was that by starting out optimistic, you avoid creating a mess. If you go in all guns blazing just in case they are going to be unreasonable you force them into being unreasonable. It may not always work, as some people want to be unreasonable regardless, but make sure you don't start off a relationship as the unreasonable one because of your imagined reasons as to why they have done something.