Parking - Can I do anything about neighbour deliberately blocking me

atrixblue.-MFR-.

Mojisola wrote: »

His childish behaviour in blocking in your car suggests you're not going to get a reasonable response from him and the whole thing could escalate until life becomes very unpleasant.

If you look at it from his point of view, the parking was fine and everyone had their 'space' - even if some of their spaces were on the public road - until you started parking on the road.

If there's nowhere else for you to park your car, where do you think they are going to park theirs? As the one who has disrupted the status quo, I would make some other arrangement for my vehicles while the drive is being redone.

all comes back to the sense of entitlement to park on "that bit of road outside the house", why should OP re-enforce that belief by parking somewhere else. its a public road for gods sake first come first served tough to anyone else who missed out.

Mojisola

[quote=[Deleted User];68427914]Its a long story. Not going there it'll just end badly...[/QUOTE]

atrixblue.-MFR-. wrote: »

all comes back to the sense of entitlement to park on "that bit of road outside the house", why should OP re-enforce that belief by parking somewhere else. its a public road for gods sake first come first served tough to anyone else who missed out.

The OP shouldn't have to but, as he has a neighbour who seems to have been unpleasant in the past and has reacted badly to the current situation, it's a choice between escalating the tension and having to live with a neighbour who is willing to make your life hell or parking somewhere else for a few weeks.

Herzlos

It sounds like there's already a history of tension, so I doubt involving the police will make it much worse.

AdrianC

OP - the neighbour is a pillock. That's clear.

You have a choice here. You can engage the pillock at a game he WANTS to play, and will enjoy escalating... or you can ignore him by simply parking on a different bit of the road. If there really ISN'T any more space in the road, then by parking in "his space", you're forcing him to park elsewhere - hence his willingness to play games.

Take the moral highground. It won't exactly cost you much time or energy, and it's not going to be for very long whilst your drive's re-surfaced, is it?

Tobster86

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Strider590

Tobster86 wrote: »

Too many people just never even try to talk to their neighbours now and wonder why it results in animosity.

I think for many it's a silent war of the classes, everyone wants to be better than the person next door and speaking to that person might mean taking a fall from ones personal ivory tower.

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Mojisola wrote: »

His childish behaviour in blocking in your car suggests you're not going to get a reasonable response from him and the whole thing could escalate until life becomes very unpleasant.

If you look at it from his point of view, the parking was fine and everyone had their 'space' - even if some of their spaces were on the public road - until you started parking on the road.

If there's nowhere else for you to park your car, where do you think they are going to park theirs? As the one who has disrupted the status quo, I would make some other arrangement for my vehicles while the drive is being redone.

Seriously. So Im not allowed to park on the road because he 'normally' parks there? The motorhome is there sometimes and sometimes not - Im guessing he rents it out maybe. Are you suggesting I should never park there in case he might wants to park it?

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herzlos wrote: »

it sounds like there's already a history of tension, so i doubt involving the police will make it much worse.

exactly !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Deleted User]

AdrianC wrote: »

OP - the neighbour is a pillock. That's clear.

You have a choice here. You can engage the pillock at a game he WANTS to play, and will enjoy escalating... or you can ignore him by simply parking on a different bit of the road. If there really ISN'T any more space in the road, then by parking in "his space", you're forcing him to park elsewhere - hence his willingness to play games.

Take the moral highground. It won't exactly cost you much time or energy, and it's not going to be for very long whilst your drive's re-surfaced, is it?

If there was anywhere else I would. Cant be bothered.
With driveaways etc all there is this 5 car lenght bit of road. There is nowhere else on the street.

Loads of other neighbours moan that he shouldnt be allowed to park motorhome there but noones complained. different argument.

Mojisola

[quote=[Deleted User];68428673]Seriously. So Im not allowed to park on the road because he 'normally' parks there? The motorhome is there sometimes and sometimes not - Im guessing he rents it out maybe. Are you suggesting I should never park there in case he might wants to park it?[/QUOTE]

No, you're allowed to - if you're willing to engage an unpleasant person in a war of attrition. Which of you is the nastier - him or you? Are you prepared to start a war which could end up with you hating living where you do and dreading coming home in case he's made another move against your property?

It's very hard and very stressful to deal with neighbours who are bullies.

My parents lived in a cul-de-sac and neighbours were accommodating about the parking on the street, eg. the couple across the road only had room for their car on their drive so their daughter parked on the road on her daily visits. There was room for two cars on my parents' drive - if there were any more of us we parked round the corner so that their daughter could use her usual space. As a result, they and their family were very helpful to my parents on a number of occasions.

Unfortunately, it doesn't sound as if your neighbour is willing to be co-operative. If you are getting the police involved, it would be worth getting some discreet cameras in place covering your property and vehicles.