Angry at myself

trixini

Do you ever open your mouth, tell the truth and then want to crawl into a large hole and stay there forever?

I'm dating a fella I was at school with. He has little relationship experience, I do albeit not some great relationships.
We've been dating for a month, in that time we've seen a lot of each other. I've met his family (his idea), they think its great and were very welcoming.

Everything feels right. We get on like a house on fire and have lots in common.
We were texting each other at the at the weekend. I had a senior moment and ended a text with "love you". He text me back that he loves me too.
I am falling in love with him, I do actually love him. On Sunday we spent a few hours together, before I went home I told him I loved him. He said I can't know that yet, he doesn't know how to be in love but wants to be. I do know I'm in love with him, I know!

So I went home feeling like a total fool. He was concerned I wasn't too annoyed about it, I said I was just annoyed with myself and he told me don't be silly and he wasn't knocking me back.

I feel like a total idiot and truth be told I am slightly heart broken. Had a bit of a cry yesterday, which isn't like me really, my hormones are all over the place and I don't really have anyone I can talk to. Love hurts!

neneromanova

Don't worry, I said I love you to my husband after 2 months. He said it a couple weeks later. Everyone gets to that point at a different stage. And I think it's more meaningful when they just suddenly turn around and say I love you first and don't feel that they have to say it in reply to yours

tea_lover

It's scary. Being open and honest leaves you vulnerable to getting hurt - but it also gives you the chance to develop amazing relationships.

Relax! He didn't run away screaming, he didn't get a plane to Brazil and change his phone number. He was honest with you and explained that he cares about you and is just taking his time. I would so much rather have that than someone that says they love me but their actions show something different.

I'd say it all sounds really promising

Stevie_Palimo

As above stated already to you, Just chill and await his next move you may be surprised as he may say it to you in a week or to as well.

jaylee3

I think he is right that you can't know you love someone after 4 weeks. There is food in my fridge that has been there longer than 4 weeks!

Hopefully you haven't scared him away, but to be honest, if a man I was dating told me he loved me after 4 weeks, I would run a mile. Maybe he is different. (Hopefully he is.)

I have to ask, what were you thinking?! Saying the L word after 4 weeks?!

Play it cool now, and don't hound him or hassle him. Maybe he will calm down and cool off and realise it was a heat of the moment thing, and that you're not already picking out wedding dresses!

j.e.j.

trixini wrote: »

Do you ever open your mouth, tell the truth and then want to crawl into a large hole and stay there forever?

I'm dating a fella I was at school with. He has little relationship experience, I do albeit not some great relationships.
We've been dating for a month, in that time we've seen a lot of each other. I've met his family (his idea), they think its great and were very welcoming.

Everything feels right. We get on like a house on fire and have lots in common.
We were texting each other at the at the weekend. I had a senior moment and ended a text with "love you". He text me back that he loves me too.
I am falling in love with him, I do actually love him. On Sunday we spent a few hours together, before I went home I told him I loved him. He said I can't know that yet, he doesn't know how to be in love but wants to be. I do know I'm in love with him, I know!

So I went home feeling like a total fool. He was concerned I wasn't too annoyed about it, I said I was just annoyed with myself and he told me don't be silly and he wasn't knocking me back.

I feel like a total idiot and truth be told I am slightly heart broken. Had a bit of a cry yesterday, which isn't like me really, my hormones are all over the place and I don't really have anyone I can talk to. Love hurts!

Are you on the rebound by any chance? You do sound a bit full-on.

ellesbellesxxx

Tea lover is quite right, he hasn't ran away screaming - it just sounds like you took him by surprise.
Give it time, relax - he sounds like he is a reasonable guy

Mushaville

I told my OH I loved him after a few weeks, he didn't tell me until a few weeks after - we all feel love in different ways. For example, I miss my family if I don't see them for a few days - my OH on the other hand doesn't really miss people, he misses his father who passed away but he doesn't undertand missing someone who lives just around the corner.
He doesn't tell me he loves me alot, I know that he does , he doesn't see the point in telling someon everyday...although I always hear him tell the puppy how much he loves her at least twice a day...Lol

thriftylass

We started going out at the end of September, by the end of October he told me he is falling in love with me (maybe not quite the same?), my silly reply was "oh that is good news". Doh. That was 11 years ago. We're now happily married with two kids. I knew after about a month or two that I'm in love (and I knew because I never felt like this before, just couldn't express when he did). It is a very personal thing, I don't think there is a hard rule like you can't know after 4, 6, or 8 weeks. Just go with the flow and maybe not mention it again till you given him some space to figure how how he is feeling. Good luck for the both of you

Double_V

Don't worry.
Don't be hard on yourself.

I said "love you" to my partner first, her reply was "okay".
Then 2 weeks later she wouldn't stop saying "love you".

It's okay. Will take some time.
And based on his idea you have already met his family that's good.
He might have something planned.
Somewhere nice, music, roses and then I Love you honey.

Wish you all the best.
Stay happy and blessed.

jaylee3

Maybe it *is* a personal thing, I just know that if a man I was dating told me he loved me after 4 weeks, you would not see me for dust.