Elite 11+ Part 75

vanilla_twist

I remember Princess Melody as a comper as well as money saver.
Last year she won a family merlin pass. This was something she could have only dreamt of so I do hope she got to use it.
I also remember how she called her ex partner 'My mister', and the family photos from Lolly Bop last year when they met the Cbeebies gardener Mr Bloom.
Before that I had always though of Melody as blonde.

For those that don't know Melody posted on Fb yesterday evening and the Fb suicide services were alerted by some fantastic community members. I think someone still had her address and emergency services were called.
I never knew Fb had a suicide team to locate people posting their goodbyes.

I must admit it has affected me deeply.

Savvybuyer

mrsmac10 wrote: »

Just popping on to say thanks to Aau for the info about Morris's big bags of curries rtc to 81 p each and savvy for the gales honey. Got the last 3. Someone had cleared the 5p ones. :rotfl:

Will have to go round all of my eight stores within 20 mile radius then:rotfl::rotfl:.

HILLBERN

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Oh how sad for the family. And sad for people on here too.:(

There's nothing I can say...

I feel... normal:o, except that I start reading people's posts and feeling a bit sad (not that I should not feel that way). I'm sure I've had PMs from her in the past and I "ought" to feel feel worse, except that I think it will hit me later and different people deal with things differently. It does bring to light the issue of depression - me and someone else struggles with that in our home - there are times I get concerned about the other person when they just go out - though, touch wood, they always come back. I felt they were a bit down and might, in a minute of madness, 'do something stupid' - I can't always catch them before they go out:( but fortunately I have not had any problems to date - I bet if anything were to happen, they'd have gone out smiling and seemingly happy and then never return:(:(, I sincerely hope not although problem is you just never can tell and depression can occur suddenly at times. I think best people can do, unfortunately:(, is just try and look out for people but it's difficult as there's no way to prevent everything - for myself, I've been there and know what it's like, from my own perspective, I think, sadly, once you are there (once you have had the depression), it's always there, underlying underneath things, and if you have a moment where you feel a bit down, you feel really down - fortunately many of us can then get to a stage where the amount of time between each period of down increases but then you can have moments where it just comes back - it's difficult and all that can be done is lots of love to the people struggling with it. Hard to believe that people can be seemingly so happy and then just feel really down, and worse, but it does sometimes go from one extreme to the other - in fact, and I'm out of my depth and know nothing about this:o:o, but some things are marked by extremes in mood.

I'm sorry if I've said something that people don't want to hear. It's just a tragic situation:(.

I think what you have said shows how you/others can deal with this awful thing called depression, until you have dealings with something personally you cant comprehend what someone is going through, its not a case of 'pull up your socks' and it will be fine, it isn't- people find their own levels and can usually cope with the periods of down times,... but unfortunately the down times and darkness are like a black hole that sometimes you cant get out of with no matter how much help and support that is given tragedy strikes:(

rockyrose

David. wrote: »

Anyone thinking of sending flowers from us or donating to an applicable charity count me in

and I as well

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

oh bless you :A you have no need to deal with things any other than you normally do

We had a loss and you noticed :A that's a testament to how hard you try :A

feeling normal is good for you and we will all always accept you will Please don't feel the need to join in on the grief and mournings. We know you don't roll like that :A

I never don't notice, even if I was behaving earlier as if I hadn't. (Don't worry though - I do wonder, very carefully, whether it's appropriate still to post money-saving posts and some that seem to be expressing joy in the money-saving finds at a time like this. I've even, in the past, come to the thread, seen it's in the middle of some sad news for something and then I've gone away and posted my post a day later instead. I don't know what to say:o:o - I never get involved, for fear of saying the wrong thing and making matters worse. So, I just retreat and say nothing at all and then people wrongly assume I don't care. In RL though, I've always taken a back seat, got out of the way and let other people deal with upset people as they just know how to whereas I never do:o! They do it so much better...best people to deal with the situation:cool:.)

In fact:

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Oh don't worry about me, I'm all right. I was just going to say though (and now am saying) that elliemoo was absolutely right (unfortunately) - Churchill had it (depression) and called it his "black dog". As I keep reminding the other person in this house that sometimes even people that get to positions of greatness have struggles underneath. We don't always see other people's struggles and think that they are doing just fine when they are not, and some of us see our own struggles and tend to think that other people are not struggling when this is not the case. Although it may seem like it at times, you are not alone. There are people, here, that care. All of us have struggles at times and share problems that you have. It's not all down - the best way is to try to stay positive, it will get better, and try to get back to things that you used to enjoy (that maybe you had forgotten about) and to take things away from the depression and into something positive.

Take it easy on yourselves folks and take care.

I was going to put something else instead at the end of my post just now, but was rewording it and couldn't think of what to put - I was originally going to say something like "Keep positive, stay positive and look after yourselves" but didn't really know what to say.

You're not alone. We care. Don't ever lose hope. Hugs to you all. (But, then, I have another relative - who, last thing he ever wants is a hug and rebuffs anyone that tries to comfort them in that way (or maybe it's just me?:think:) so that I feel reluctant of even saying hugs in case anyone doesn't want that and thinks it is interfering. I'm reassured though that, even if may sometimes feel it, it's not some social 'rule' that's there to try to catch me out:cool:. "You hug someone, unless they don't want to be hugged!" Well, how do you determine when someone wants to be hugged and when they don't?!?:think: It's alright - I'm overthinking it again!)

Folks, take care, people share your difficulties and wish you all best wishes.

(:eek:Is that even appropriate at the moment?!? Can I wish the people the best?:think:) Rest assured though - you are all in my thoughts and it has all been thought about. Way too much...:o:o:rotfl:

rockyrose

Savvybuyer wrote: »

I never don't notice, even if I was behaving earlier as if I hadn't. (Don't worry though - I do wonder, very carefully, whether it's appropriate still to post money-saving posts and some that seem to be expressing joy in the money-saving finds at a time like this. I've even, in the past, come to the thread, seen it's in the middle of some sad news for something and then I've gone away and posted my post a day later instead. I don't know what to say:o:o - I never get involved, for fear of saying the wrong thing and making matters worse. So, I just retreat and say nothing at all and then people wrongly assume I don't care. In RL though, I've always taken a back seat, got out of the way and let other people deal with upset people as they just know how to whereas I never do:o! They do it so much better...best people to deal with the situation:cool:.)

TBC...

I just adore you savvy

David.

rockyrose wrote: »

I just adore you savvy

:eek: and me

3Dogs

Listening to your song ILGD, beautiful and very fitting to tonights news. So sad that even though emergency services were alerted due to the quick thinking of some FB members, and arrived within 30 minutes of Melody's last FB message, it was too late

It is so dreadful to think that someone so young could feel that this was the only way out ................

Goodnight friends ..... and tanku :A

braveheart60uk

David. wrote: »

Anyone thinking of sending flowers from us or donating to an applicable charity count me in

May I comment with respect.
I believe it is better to send condolences via a card etc, rather than fill a florists bank account. Better to use money you would have spent on either giving to the family or a charity specified by them. We requested donations to charity when my mother passed away from dementia a few years ago.
Hope I do not offend anyone with this comment.

aau1

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