I have a man in my life... but not in my house! Is this unusual?

Lily-Rose_3

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

So you've met my DH then? :rotfl: You've just described him to a tee! What is it with the whiskers in the sink and the constant yapping when trying to watch the tv? :mad:

OP, I know a lot of couples in a situation similar to yours, and it works for them. So if it's working ok for you and your OH then why change it? Carry on doing what's best for you both.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

It must be a man thing Georgie. Gotta love him, but sometimes I think living in separate houses WOULD be a blessing! It's just the cost! Running 2 homes!!!

And if I suggested it we live in 2 separate homes, he would be like this...




:rotfl:

melanzana

Thanks for all the lovely POSITIVE replies. And that pic of the puppy from Lily Rose is just gorgeous.

Was just out for a nice meal with himself, so apologies if you think I abandoned the thread! He now has full control of the zapper, and I can post away!

Yes, we are maintaining two houses. But the alternative is to either sell one, or rent one.

But WHICH one! Get the drift? I love the city life with breaks in the country in his house, and for him it is vice versa.

Anyway, neither of us have ever married and we each had a house before we met. It's not an easy thing to give up the bricks and mortar (security maybe?), that we each worked very hard to achieve for ourselves.

So, there we are.

I suppose I just wondered if anyone else had the same living arrangements as we do, and if so, how are you getting on with that!

Thank you all, again.

Lily-Rose_3

melanzana wrote: »

Thanks for all the lovely POSITIVE replies. And that pic of the puppy from Lily Rose is just gorgeous.

Was just out for a nice meal with himself, so apologies if you think I abandoned the thread! He now has full control of the zapper, and I can post away!

Yes, we are maintaining two houses. But the alternative is to either sell one, or rent one.

But WHICH one! Get the drift? I love the city life with breaks in the country in his house, and for him it is vice versa.

Anyway, neither of us have ever married and we each had a house before we met. It's not an easy thing to give up the bricks and mortar (security maybe?), that we each worked very hard to achieve for ourselves.

So, there we are.

I suppose I just wondered if anyone else had the same living arrangements as we do, and if so, how are you getting on with that!

Thank you all, again.

That puppy is cute isn't he? Looking all sad and forlorn, like my hubby would if I suggested living apart! :rotfl:

Sweetie, if it works for you both, and neither of you is struggling financially with running 2 homes, then why not stay as you are, if it works?

If the main reason you are thinking of changing things is because you are bothered by what people say, then DON'T change anything!

Sometimes, people can rant on so much, because you don't fit into their little 'relationship progression boxes,' that you do start to get bothered by it, and you begin to question yourself.

I used to in my 20s and 30s, but now I am in my early 50s, I don't really give a fig what people think. :rotfl:

melanzana

Lily-Rose wrote: »

That puppy is cute isn't he? Looking all sad and forlorn, like my hubby would if I suggested living apart! :rotfl:

Sweetie, if it works for you both, and neither of you is struggling financially with running 2 homes, then why not stay as you are, if it works?

If the main reason you are thinking of changing things is because you are bothered by what people say, then DON'T change anything!

Sometimes, people can rant on so much, because you don't fit into their little 'relationship progression boxes,' that you do start to get bothered by it, and you begin to question yourself.

I used to in my 20s and 30s, but now I am in my early 50s, I don't really give a fig what people think. :rotfl:

I am a post 50 yr old gal too!

OH is ten years older, but fit as a fiddle, as in four days a week in the gym. Yikes, that will never be me!!

I think you hit the nail on the head there. It's about others wondering and saying things about our set up. But that probably says more about them than us!

Lily-Rose_3

melanzana wrote: »

I am a post 50 yr old gal too!

OH is ten years older, but fit as a fiddle, as in four days a week in the gym. Yikes, that will never be me!!

I think you hit the nail on the head there. It's about others wondering and saying things about our set up. But that probably says more about them than us!

Awwww, well if you are happy, then stay as you are!

Problem is, some people are so insecure about their own lives, and the choices they have made, that they have to have a pop at other people to make themselves feel better. A few of them are probably even a little jealous of you.

pendragon_arther

If it ain't broke...

C_Mababejive

It sounds ideal. If one partner becomes ill or something similar happens, you can just dump them without too many issues.

74jax

melanzana wrote: »

I have been with Jxxxx for many years.

A long time I guess. We are mad about each other, but do not live together. He lives in the country, I live in the city.

We hook up a few times a week, either in the country or here.

Then we go and live our own lives for a few days. Neither of us has children.

I love the set up. Freedom when we want, and company when we want, plus all the cuddles and stuff! We are over 50s BTW!

Is that unusual, or what do you think?

It works fine for us, but a few raised eyebrows, and questions about "when are you going to move in together" have got me thinking.

Not that I care mind you, am happy with this. It's perfect in fact, for us anyway!

Just wondered if anyone else has similar living arrangements whilst being a couple. Thanks.

We lived like that for eight years. I loved it. We are extremely independent. We eventually got married and moved in together. He still has hid apartment.

Not unusual to me.

fierystormcloud

I agree with pendragon, if it ain't broke, don't fix it!

I think you should stop caring what people think. It's nothing to do with them!

ciderwithrosie_2

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I have to ask why? (To the bolded statement.)

Why would you never live with anyone again?

I think because I feel, I've been there and done that, and after 25 years of marriage and sharing my home with a load of blokes (OH + 3 sons) I long to come home and everything be just as I left it, no piles of washing up in the sink, nobody wanting to watch the football, etc.