No benefits after car crash puts you out of work?

McKneff

She really shouldn't have left her employment, was there no company sick pay there.


Even if not, her holidays would still have accrued and she would have had something to aim for.


Does she not have savings she can use to feed herself with.....

carcrash

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Just to warn you - PIP is taking some 26 weeks (maybe longer) to sort out.

Great.

Thanks for the warning.

Indie_Kid

carcrash wrote: »

Great.

Thanks for the warning.

But if awarded, it is backdated.

[Deleted User]

So sorry to read your situation, I know when I was driven into and my job ended same day it felt tough, seeing the car going of to a scrap yard and forgiving afterward seems blooming easy in comparision so thank you, hope your lady pulls through and see's past money worries or for what they really are, I realised long ago only a parents love is unconditional and rightly so, forgive my mental thoughts but I can understand your lady and plight in more ways, take care and I hope you get everything entitled to from someone lucky enough to get out of the car x

thorsoak

carcrash wrote: »

No.

I have been able to cope with the 96 straight hours by her bedside in trauma without sleep or food, 2 weeks of hell trying to figure out whether she will be able to speak/walk/talk again and 3 months of rehabilitation where she has talked many times about wanting to end it all.

But her not being able to contribute anything to the household financially I think can only result in terminal separation. :wall:

Seriously? A life-threatening/life changing accident which will result in her not being able to contribute financially to the household will split you up? What sort of couple are you?

I'm sorry - but your financial situation as you set it out seems pretty comfortable to the majority of posters here. Obviously though, like everyone else, you are living up to (and possibly) beyond your financial reserves. But why should you expect the already-strained social purse to help?

I'm sorry - I had every sympathy for the situation your partner is in, and admiration for the way you have supported her - until I read that comment.

t0rt0ise

An explanation as to why people seem hostile.

I think that some people remember the past when a family unit was a family unit in everything including finances. Nowadays it seems that some couples want to be together but keep separate in some ways. So while some couples' expectations have changed, the rules set by government haven't. And if you think about it, they can't change. It would be far too expensive and far too easy to claim fraudulently. So you are expected to financially care for each other in times of need.

jayII

carcrash wrote: »

No.

I have been able to cope with the 96 straight hours by her bedside in trauma without sleep or food, 2 weeks of hell trying to figure out whether she will be able to speak/walk/talk again and 3 months of rehabilitation where she has talked many times about wanting to end it all.

But her not being able to contribute anything to the household financially I think can only result in terminal separation. :wall:

I'm so sorry you are both going through this, you must be so relieved that she's come this far already.


Of course, what else would one do! *rolleyes*


Good luck to her and you, I hope she has a full and speedy recovery.

GwylimT

carcrash wrote: »

Thanks for the info.

PIP can take a while but it would be back dated so apply as soon as possible. If she requires any in home alterations you are over the income boundary, but some charities offer help, again this will most likely be means tested.

I'm unsure of why she quit her job, surely she receieved sick pay even if it was only a very small amount it is better than going without it. Many employers also provide health insurance, in which case she could have has substantially reduced care such as physiotherapy and communication assistance. When did she hand in her notice, she should be able to withdraw notice until its final date.

If she requires in home care you can contact social services for an assessment, they will also sometimes supply minor adjustments such as hand rails, raised toilet seats etc. They also supplied us with a ramp at our front and back door.

When my wife suffered similar and was left permanently paralysed I had no concern about her finances as I value her far more than her wages, as you say her being worse off ends the relationship please don't string her on. Her health care team will also need to know whether she is living alone or with a partner so they can tailor her rehabilitation appropriately, if you string her on you're denying her proper care.

thorsoak

OP - I suggest that you find the thread started by Victory, in the marriage/relationships forum, on the accident her OH had just before Christmas. That is how the majority of families cope with accidents x

Here's the thread :- https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5130381

Andypandyboy

thorsoak wrote: »

Seriously? A life-threatening/life changing accident which will result in her not being able to contribute financially to the household will split you up? What sort of couple are you?

I'm sorry - but your financial situation as you set it out seems pretty comfortable to the majority of posters here. Obviously though, like everyone else, you are living up to (and possibly) beyond your financial reserves. But why should you expect the already-strained social purse to help?

I'm sorry - I had every sympathy for the situation your partner is in, and admiration for the way you have supported her - until I read that comment.

I could be wrong, but I read that as the OP being sarcastic:D