Joint marriage and christening present ideas

springdreams

I would also go with the three gifts option of a gift for the couple and one for each child.

I got my twin nephews a £20 coin each for the year of their birth. Perhaps you could do a limited edition coin each for the two children?

Buzzybee90

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Good grief - I don't think a church wedding is for them, if that's their attitude.

In fairness Tiddly, that's not really the point of the thread.

Buzzybee90

gellerbing wrote: »

Thank you, the only decent reply in this thread :beer:
Now to think what to get them, shouldn't be too hard though

There are a few Christening gifts I still think about today - one is a teddy, the other is my silver Christening bracelet. I recall (not from when I was a baby, obviously!) various silver photo frames, money boxes and various ornaments which featured heavily in my childhood bedroom!

Hope you enjoy!

jackomdj

I too would give them 3 gifts.

To all those saying if you are a true believer you would have your children christened as babies, this isn't necessarily true. I don't go regularly to church, however we go once a month for Brownie church parade, we go at Christmas and we regularly go to the vicarage for coffee and a chat (as it is next door!) BUT when we had the children we decided that though we would guide them it will be their decision if they want to get christened.

Also I get rather cross when people get their children christened but then never go to church. It then seems as if they just did it for the party and presents!

bcu67

gellerbing wrote: »

£375 is expensive when you don't earn a lot of money! As that is the price they are paying to have the christening, only reason they are getting married as well is because the vicar asked them if they wanted to marry as well so they thought why not!

If they are being charged £375 for a Christening and this is Church of England then they can refuse to pay. Christenings are FREE and legally CofE churches can't charge. https://www.churchofengland.org/weddings-baptisms-funerals/baptism/christening-faqs.aspx

They can charge going rates for optional extra's like heating and organist and ask for an optional donation to cover vicars expenses but all of these can be refused, though heating is quite useful in the winter. If it's within a normal service as it should be/usually are then all those optional extras will be included for free.

The minimum cost for a church wedding on the other hand is £413 before extra's.

barbarawright

Not in anyway questioning anyone's motives but I thought christenings were normally done in batches in the Sunday service. I had no idea they were charged for (I was baptised as an adult and don't remember paying anything).

meritaten

Wedding gift for the happy couple and a christening gift for each child. none of which have to be 'expensive'.

Batman_100

bcu67 wrote: »

The minimum cost for a church wedding on the other hand is £413 before extra's.

Not nessacerily. Yes there are admin fees which have to be paid to the diocese by law, but if the couple are both regular Churchgoers then many vicars are willing to negotiate on some of the other costs. I know some couples who've got married in so called 'fellowship weddings' where the minister, musicians, choir etc have all offered their services free of charge when a couple from outside the Church family would have to pay.

Torry_Quine

barbarawright wrote: »

Not in anyway questioning anyone's motives but I thought christenings were normally done in batches in the Sunday service. I had no idea they were charged for (I was baptised as an adult and don't remember paying anything).

I thought that as well. A christening is about welcoming someone into the church and promises are made by the congregation. Why would there be a charge?