The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

greenbee

You may need to slow down on the house now you're working softstuff. I find I can only cope with a certain amount of chaos and disruption before it impacts on work or just gets too much.

I'm a shattered at the moment. My dad died on Tuesday (not unexpected, very peacefully at home with the family around him) and the last few weeks have involved a lot of driving (it's 3.5-4 hours each way). I'm home at the moment (was here for about 36 hours and about to head back to stay with my mother until her sister arrives on Thursday. I'm debating whether it'll be worth coming back for 36 hours before heading up again for the weekend as the funeral is the following monday.

There seems to be a huge amount of paperwork and organisation to do, despite my dad being so organised.

mrssnowy_2

greenbee,lots of hugs

mrss

nursemaggie

Sorry for your loss Greenbee.

Hester What a massive cut in your mortgage. I hope it helps a lot.

SailorSam

I don't know if i'm in the right place, i just want to have a moan.
Why is it so hard to buy Birthday Cards ?
I've been out and none of the card shops have got what i want. It's my Mums birthday this week, or it would have been,she died nearly 10yrs ago. All the cards have ........ 'Have a lovely day' ........'Hope you enjoy this special day' ....... 'Hope your day is full of fun'
I just want one saying 'Love you Mum'

fuddle

I'm sorry to read of your family's loss greenbee. Don't forget to take care of you too.

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GREENBEE very sad to hear of your loss, hard times to deal with but you are a strong little family unit and will support each other through this difficult time. Blessings on you all, Lyn xxx.

shanks77

Sorry for your loss Greenbee xx
Well done in finally getting your money Hester

ivyleaf

So sorry to hear your news greenbee ((HUGS))

Hester so glad the money came through at last. :beer: As mardatha (I think) said, it's bound to take sometime for you to wind down xx

SailorSam Oh, that's so difficult. I expect you're looking for one to put on your Mum's grave, or just to have on display in memory of her? More difficult at this time of year too when so many birthday cards have been put away to make room for Christmas cards. Independent shops such as local newspaper shops often still have their birthday cards in their drawers if you ask, so that you can look through them.
Otherwise, perhaps one with a lovely picture on the front but blank inside so you can write your own message?

mardatha so glad you enjoyed your day out :T

Softstuff

greenbee wrote: »

You may need to slow down on the house now you're working softstuff. I find I can only cope with a certain amount of chaos and disruption before it impacts on work or just gets too much.

I'm a shattered at the moment. My dad died on Tuesday (not unexpected, very peacefully at home with the family around him) and the last few weeks have involved a lot of driving (it's 3.5-4 hours each way). I'm home at the moment (was here for about 36 hours and about to head back to stay with my mother until her sister arrives on Thursday. I'm debating whether it'll be worth coming back for 36 hours before heading up again for the weekend as the funeral is the following monday.

There seems to be a huge amount of paperwork and organisation to do, despite my dad being so organised.

Hugs Greenbee, sorry to hear it. There's always such a lot to do regardless of how organised a person is, mostly because companies make you jump through hoops. Despite the drive, coming home might give you a bit of a necessary break.

Work on the house has ground a bit to a halt, the problem is we're living in disruption from earlier work that hasn't been finished and it's damned inconvenient. We have no washer plumbed in, no sofa, no tv, the fridge is kjn the garage..... anyhoo, we'll get there. I really wasn't expecting so much work, but am 4 or 5 days a week presently. Fortunately hubby has decided he's ok to help with housework now, because I was just about at the end of my tether

monnagran

Greenbee. However expected it was it is still a sad shock when it actually happens. I am so sorry that at a time when you need to grieve you have all the red tape to deal with. It seems to go on for ever.
My father was also ultra organised, plus my brother and I had been dealing with his affairs for a couple of years before he died but it still took 8 months before the last T was crossed and the last I dotted.
My thoughts and sympathy are with you.

You too Softstuff. Been there. Time has healed the wounds but will never efface the scars. Have also lived without kitchen, bathroom, water, electricity, anywhere to sit........and eventually carried a handy cudgel behind my back to deal with the very next person who said, "it'll be lovely when it's finished."
Of course, it was, but at one point I thought it would never reach that glorious state.

Glad you are enjoying the job though. You need some compensation.

I'm not contributing much at the moment. On Wednesday it is the church's lunch club's Christmas Dinner. Before then I have to make 6 dozen mincepies, 6 dozen stuffing balls and a nut roast for the vegetarians. Also at some point next week the estate agent is sending the photographer round to take photos of the house and I seem to be the only person who is frantic over the state of the place.

Did someone mention Christmas?

It's a good life, if you don't weaken.

x