Can you start divorce proceedings early?

WIN79

Really dont want to mud sling though. Could have done it last year when things were a little different, but time has healed, even though it was mutual. Could we get away with saying we separated earlier if i get the Ex to agree? is that possible or do they want proof? Not really sure you could prove it either way though.

RAS

WIN79 wrote: »

Could we get away with saying we separated earlier if i get the Ex to agree? is that possible or do they want proof? Not really sure you could prove it either way though.

It is called perjury and you really do not want a judge picking that up.

Unreasonable behaviour can be almost anything and as long as you agree what is said ( and it is true), that fine.

Gloomendoom

WIN79 wrote: »

Really dont want to mud sling though. Could have done it last year when things were a little different, but time has healed, even though it was mutual. Could we get away with saying we separated earlier if i get the Ex to agree? is that possible or do they want proof? Not really sure you could prove it either way though.

You don't need to mud sling. Presumably, something prompted both of you to want to split. Just tell the truth.

caprikid1

It does not need to mud slinging and does not need to be horrible.

My wife and I are doing it this way so we can move on. We see each other everyday due to kids etc.

Just a case of write something the judge will accept and move on.

I wanted to do it this way and she didn't because of the mud slinging. After she spoke to a solicitor she changed her mind. In many respects it takes more cooperation to do it this way.

tea_lover

You don't have to paint them as the devil for unreasonable behaviour - things like staying too late at work, didn't want to socialise together etc. are fine.

WIN79

So its ok to lie about the reasons you split up, but not to say you split up earlier than you actually did?

We both didn't want to be together any more. No attraction and a sexless marriage. Can you use that?

caprikid1

"We both didn't want to be together any more. No attraction and a sexless marriage. Can you use that?"

Does not even need to be as bad as that but that I believe is fine.

AngelOfTheNorth

Guest101 wrote: »

Since these are legal proceedings, lying about adultery would be not such a good idea....

Although they would not be the first, by any means. It would be quite difficult to prove it was a deliberate lie also...

theoretica

Couldn't you say leaving the country was unreasonable behaviour?

Skint_yet_Again

Wouldn't leaving the country be desertion ?

Interesting article here (yes I know its the Daily mail)

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-8792/Grounds-divorce.html

it suggests there is a time limit involved and the divorce needs to be under way within six months of the last incident of unreasonable behaviour.