The Happiness Fund.

savingwannabe

I'm supposed to be going home for Christmas but I don't want to go. It is so hard to get some time to myself at home - people are constantly visiting. I just want some me time. Crossdresser, telly, shopping seeing friends etc. Right now how do I tell my parents?

Skint_yet_Again

That's a difficult one as your parents will probably not like the idea of you being alone for Christmas and will worry about you. They will think you are ill and want to come and stay with you to look after you if you don't go to them. Would you go to the boys for Christmas Day ? It's not much fun spending it on your own. Perhaps you can convince your parents you gave a contagious disease and cant possibly travel or see them 😷 😂

savingwannabe

Mum and dad have been amazing. They are coming up tomorrow and will go back on Sunday I think. They said I always get stressed by this holiday and so will give me some space!!!! Best parents ever. If it was just my parents at their home I would be fine I am just panicking if my brother gets difficult and I am not strong enough to cope with it.

Lodger is not sending any cards. I gave him a spare pack and said to write them to the people at work and he hasn't. He said he doesn't usually give cards. OMG. He's got friends though so as long as he is happy that's fine. He's gone out to visit one of them and hopefully he will have a good Christmas without his old partner. I will get him a nice pressie poor thing.

Creep at work insisted on walking me home after standing by my desk all afternoon:(. I finally cracked and said politely 'I don't want to walk home with you. I don't feel comfortable with you. Let's just have a cordial professional relationship. He then said did I do something wrong on Friday? If so I was drinking and I do apologise'. I said 'that was fine apology accepted but I am not walking home with you again or socialising'. He then rang me tonight. Bloody nutter can't he get the message? If he was in his 20s I'd get it but he is so much older. I have been told to contact a manager. I don't want to go to HR and put his career in jeopardy but it would be good if someone would tell him to back off. :eek::eek::eek:

Last day at work tomorrow. We are doing a Secret Santa. I've written my work cards. I found my address book and will be writing cards for posting tomorrow (which is late).

I can't wait till I come home. My parents will be here. Hurrah. :j:beer::j:beer:

Skint_yet_Again

I am so glad your parents are so understanding and are coming to see you. I hope you can relax now and have a good break.


If you ignore the bloke at work hopefully it will all blow over and be forgotten after the Christmas break and you wont need to see HR. There are so many horror stories around Christmas drinking and work colleagues the two definitely don't mix !


The last posting date for first class is today so your cards should arrive for Christmas. I think men are different when it comes to sending cards, my DS doesn't write any for work colleagues either.

savingwannabe

Work has reported it to HR as he had a go at me in front of everyone today. It seems to be a power thing. He has shaken me up as I am not assertive at the best of times. It has come out that he has also made similar remarks to others who are all making complaints against him.

I can't believe it, work is backing me. My manager has been great and said she will not put up with his treatment of us as we are a close knit group. HR will be speaking to him on our return.

I feel so uncomfortable. I actually feel closer to the team.

I ordered a perfume a few days ago. It does not smell of the scent I ordered. The ebay seller says it is new but it is not wrapped and they don't have any proof of the age. I have requested a return or refund. At present they are refusing to give it. I will see if they change their mind or if ebay agrees with me.

VintageHistorian

How dare he SW! I think you've been handling this really well, far better than I would have. For him to throw it back in your face by having a go at you is really out of line.

Frankly it doesn't surprise me that other women in your work place have had this problem, men like this all follow similar problems. What's a shame is that no one warned you beforehand that he was like this

Tomorrow is Friday and then you have some time away from work and him. Block his phone number (keep any messages he's sent in case you need evidence and screen shot the list of missed calls so you have evidence of unreasonable behaviour) and then try to forget about it. It sounds like your work place are pretty clued up on him and his activities.

Have yourself a nice sit down with a good movie tonight, and look forward to spending time with your parents over the next few days!

savingwannabe

Bless you Vintage Historian, I just cant believe someone would behave like this at work. Not one person at work has ever been like this. Yikes. So glad for the holiday I will use it to tidy, recharge and catch up with friends.

I am sooooo tired. I got in from work and slept like a log for about 4 hours.

Skint_yet_Again

Oh SW I am so sorry to hear things have escalated at work. What a loser he deserves everything he gets dont let him make you feel bad. Xx

Kittikins

Oh my goodness, what a horrible piece of work. Thank goodness it has already been made public, rather than you feeling like he's singling you out. It should be grounds for disciplinary action. What a loser he is

x

savingwannabe

I sorted out presents for my family and the lodger today. It's just a relief that its all done.

My parents are leaving on Sunday morning. All I am going to do now is tidy the house - spare room, bedroom drawers and wardrobe. And hopefully watch some telly. :j

I'm not buying anything in the sales as I don't have any money! and I don't need anything.