my daughter 16 has a baby can she claim tax credits?

kerry13238

grandma247 wrote: »

She needs to read info on abusive relationships. There is info out there. This is just one site I found. Another. She also needs help to build her self respect and parents are best placed to do that. At her age she still needs her parents to stand up for her even if she does not realise it herself but it must be done in a way that does not belittle her or take away her right to make her own decisions.

Trouble is she is 16 and the last person to see they are in a abusive relationship is the person.

The more I go in on that one the less that she will believe it and will just think im interfering at least if she or they are under my roof the more I can protect them.

My partner has been away for a month with work he is back Saturday her bf seems to respect him so might try that

dealer_wins

Get Jeremy Kyle to sort them out on his show!!

Mojisola

duchy wrote: »

It might be that your daughter needs to try living with him to discover that the awfulness of the week living at his Dad's was as much down to him as his Dad. Sometimes we have to let them make their own mistakes.

I would agree with this except that the baby would be in the mix too and is the vulnerable one.

RuthnJasper

kerry13238 wrote: »

thank you i tried there calculator but cause she is under 16 it is different apparently.

the dad does weed and there flat was raided for drugs that i know of. i have told the health visitor all i know but it doesn't seem they can do anything she said she will put my daughter in touch with mother and baby groups and parenting classes.

I'm looking into swimming groups for baby when she is 4 weeks old she can start also baby massage ext.

in the way of babies dad it seems they can't do a lot just advise my dau if my dau doesn't talk they can't do anything.

he lived her for a week and got angry 3 times that i have seen mainly at me or my dau cause i woke him up for college as he said the was at 61% attendance and he shouted at me saying i can't deal with this today and shouted at my daughter saying its her fault he hasn't been to college cause baby kept him up and he said he should have stayed at his dads.

He also wanted my dau and baby to his dads one bed flat for 2 days. it would have meant my dau sleeping on the sofa and baby was 8 days old and needs the routine i came home from work and my daughters face was white as a sheet and red and blotchy from crying she obviously didn't want to go.

i said its not a good idea for above reasons and because baby had health visitor the next day it would mean my dad having to drive a 20 m round trip to pick her up bring her home to see the health visitor and then drive her back.

we are doing all we can but its not fair on baby to be sleeping out so soon and there isn't adequate facilities and they don't put the heating on.

this made her bf start screaming and swearing whilst holding baby i said calm down your scaring her and he dumped her on the bed and said !!!!in have her my family isn't good enough and started smashing stuff about i took baby out the room straight away.

he stormed out and didn't come back from the tuesday till saturday now my dau has to go over there to see him as he won't come over here.

his mum text me yesterday and said that baby and my dau are going to start staying there every tuesday as of 2 weeks time i don't think this is the right thing for baby but its not my baby i can't choose

Sweetie, I am SO sorry. You must be at your wits' end. He does sound like very bad news indeed.

I would have to say that I agree that he and his family are "not good enough" if he is behaving like this. What happens if baby becomes ill or tetchy and screams constantly? Will he dump it on the floor? Throw it into it's cot? Shake it until it is quiet?

His lack of respect for your daughter is appalling too. I do hope she is able to have the courage to do the right thing.

Take care. x

thorsoak

Kerry - is there any way you could set up a cam-corder which could record his tantrums? If your daughter saw them in the cold light of day, she might reconsider the relationship - and if necessary they could be shown to the health visitor/social services

Ms_Chocaholic

Poppie68 wrote: »

Very strange why you think my comment regarding a mother and baby unit is funny?
Our local unit accepts mums and babies for a variety of reasons and not just because the mother maybe a risk...
The OP has stated the boyfriend has anger issues and a tendency to smash things, as both mum and baby spend nights with him and his cannabis smoking dad in a freezing flat i would be concerned enough to try and get help.

I wonder if the M&B home is different to the type of M&B homes I know of. Who funds these that you mention?

The M&B homes I know of are to assess the risk the mum may pose to her baby, that's why they have round the clock CCTV monitoring. Each M&B have their own flat within the complex but CCTV cameras are mostly everywhere so staff can intervene immediately if there is any risk at all of the baby coming to any harm. I'm not sure why else you would need a M&B home.

NYM

There are M&B placement schemes that 'are aimed to provide parents with skills to enable them to be self sufficient. Staff observe parents and support them to adopt practicing good parenting skills...'

Alison Lodge is an example..

Ms_Chocaholic

NYM wrote: »

There are M&B placement schemes that 'are aimed to provide parents with skills to enable them to be self sufficient. Staff observe parents and support them to adopt practicing good parenting skills...'

Alison Lodge is an example..

But what I'm trying to say is there are no concerns about mum's care of her baby so why would CSC fund this at at cost of thousands.