my daughter 16 has a baby can she claim tax credits?

evenasus

kerry13238 wrote: »

He seems to think he has a medical condition that means he can't take orders

There is a name for 'his' thoughts on this but it's not medical.

NYM

evenasus wrote: »

There is a name for 'his' thoughts on this but it's not medical.

that made me giggle....


Seriously though OP. Your daughter will just have to make some decisions for herself. No amount of telling her that she's fooling herself if she expects him to 'step up' and become a responsible partner and parent. You can really only be there to support her whilst she's learning that becoming an adult with all the responsibilities of caring for a baby is tough.

Kids can be so obstinate and telling them what they should do rather than coaxing them into believing it's their own decision in an art.

Ms_Chocaholic

PETIE wrote: »

If it was my child I would refuse for her to leave and live with her BF.

Anger Issues, Lazy, not the best role model and atmosphere for a child to grow up in.

Fair enough he is the father but he sounds like bad news who could possibly drag your daughter down with him, at her age which is still very impressionable I would avoid them moving in together at all costs.

There's nothing OP could do if her daughter wanted to move out with the baby.

kerry13238

RuthnJasper wrote: »

I remember your previous thread too Kerry. I think the baby is better off with you than with the father and HIS father - weren't they into drugs as well at some point?

I hope that things will be OK. Have a look at http://www.turn2us.org.uk/ - there's a good benefits calculator on there and details of charities to whom your daughter could apply for help.

All the best. x

thank you i tried there calculator but cause she is under 16 it is different apparently.

the dad does weed and there flat was raided for drugs that i know of. i have told the health visitor all i know but it doesn't seem they can do anything she said she will put my daughter in touch with mother and baby groups and parenting classes.

I'm looking into swimming groups for baby when she is 4 weeks old she can start also baby massage ext.

in the way of babies dad it seems they can't do a lot just advise my dau if my dau doesn't talk they can't do anything.

he lived her for a week and got angry 3 times that i have seen mainly at me or my dau cause i woke him up for college as he said the was at 61% attendance and he shouted at me saying i can't deal with this today and shouted at my daughter saying its her fault he hasn't been to college cause baby kept him up and he said he should have stayed at his dads.

He also wanted my dau and baby to his dads one bed flat for 2 days. it would have meant my dau sleeping on the sofa and baby was 8 days old and needs the routine i came home from work and my daughters face was white as a sheet and red and blotchy from crying she obviously didn't want to go.

i said its not a good idea for above reasons and because baby had health visitor the next day it would mean my dad having to drive a 20 m round trip to pick her up bring her home to see the health visitor and then drive her back.

we are doing all we can but its not fair on baby to be sleeping out so soon and there isn't adequate facilities and they don't put the heating on.

this made her bf start screaming and swearing whilst holding baby i said calm down your scaring her and he dumped her on the bed and said !!!!in have her my family isn't good enough and started smashing stuff about i took baby out the room straight away.

he stormed out and didn't come back from the tuesday till saturday now my dau has to go over there to see him as he won't come over here.

his mum text me yesterday and said that baby and my dau are going to start staying there every tuesday as of 2 weeks time i don't think this is the right thing for baby but its not my baby i can't choose

Mojisola

kerry13238 wrote: »

his mum text me yesterday and said that baby and my dau are going to start staying there every tuesday as of 2 weeks time i don't think this is the right thing for baby but its not my baby i can't choose

But your daughter can decide to stay with you. She doesn't have to go.

Poppie68

I would seriously consider contacting your local Child services team......IMO your daughter is in an abusive relationship and the baby could be at risk....

kerry13238

but they don't do anything i have told social services when we first found out she was pregnant and i have told the health visitor.

i know she can decide to stay with me but she is 16 and is under pressure from him

i keep telling her she needs to do whats best for baby all it does is push her towards him and his family

Poppie68

If you contact the Child Protection team they can't ignore your concerns, they also deal with Young people so you need to speak to them regarding both your daughter and baby.

Poppie68

Your daughter may benefit from being placed in a mother and baby unit, the HV will be able to help. They provide support and counselling, overnight stays are restricted and rules put in place to help monitor mum and baby.

Mojisola

kerry13238 wrote: »

but they don't do anything i have told social services when we first found out she was pregnant and i have told the health visitor.

Have you put any of your concerns in writing?

It's much harder for the relevant people to ignore an issue when there is a paper trail.