Diary of my new life !!!

benbenandme

anyway guys, I'm off to my bed ... see you all tomorrow x

chocaholic110

Ew, admittedly I didn't have a mobile phone or the internet when I was last single but I'd like to think OH wouldn't ever have done that!

Can't really understand this man's mentality - it's not like it's the most attractive part of the human body!

Definitely one to steer clear of, I would think! Stick with us - we won't send you anything like that! :rotfl:

tigzem

Yuk..... what a horrid thing to do!!?? He sounds a def perv to me... lucky escape.

Yep stick with us...x

benbenandme

Evening guys .... bit of a yucky day today Ds has been naughty at school today. He was naughty yesterday (pushing other children) and today his teacher is going to phone me tonight to discuss his behaviour :eek: apprrently he's been hitting other children, he hit the teacher and he pushed some chairs over today :eek: :eek: :eek: I have no idea whats going on with him, he's always been a really placid easy-going little thing and the last few weeks he's started being a bit naughty here and there but I just put it down to him starting school in september and mixing with new kids, but now this and I don't know whats going on with him I've been sat here crying for the last half an hour, I'm going to try and go in and see the teacher tomorrow after school, its parents evening on friday but i need to speak to her before then and also ds father will be there on friday so I want to discuss stuff with her beforehand. I know that sounds wierd but he has almost no part in his upbringing so it feels like he's not involved anyhow. I think part of the problem is that we don't get on at all and ds is aware of this. I have tried to speak to ex about this and remain civil for ds's sake but ex refuses point blank to even try. He reckons ds isn't afected by it and I'm just saying it :mad: I think its hard cos I see lots of children who are regularly in trouble at my school and I so don't want ds to go down that route Tonight I just feel llke i need supernanny here

Anyway, other than that, I spent £3.60 on food today , have given up on the diet completely, bitten off all my fingernails that I have been growing for 2 months ... but I did get enough points now to order a £10 voucher from Argos from a survey site

Keeping_Motivated

Awe Benben I'm sorry about your day. I've given up on the diet too thats why I've not been updating (hangs head in shame).

As for your son does he like drawing? Sometimes you can gain alot about how a child is feeling by asking them to draw things. Such as asking him to draw himself in the classroom, draw his teacher and his friends and see where he places himself etc. Or ask him to draw himself playing in the play ground. See if he puts himself with other children or on his own. You may get some insight into how school feels for him?

Or ask him to draw you and him and his daddy and try and discuss the picture and see if he can express anything from that?

Might be worth a go as he may have something going on. Or he may just be pushing his boundaries and there may be nothing underlying and by you and the teacher working together and standing firm he will regain some control over his temper and the consequences.

Good luck try not to despair too much he is only a baby really and starting school is a big deal for some kids. I know I have just started a new job and even though I like it I am very stressed and its a real big deal for me so it must be the same for some children too. I read your thread often and you sound like such a good mum so you will come through this phase with flying colours I am sure. He is a lucky boy that you are so concerned and willing to help sort it coz some parents just giving the a big telling off and brand them a naughty child and don't try and help.

Sorry for the long post just wanted to try and help in some small way.

skint_spice

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

I read your thread often and you sound like such a good mum so you will come through this phase with flying colours I am sure. He is a lucky boy that you are so concerned and willing to help sort it coz some parents just giving the a big telling off and brand them a naughty child and don't try and help.

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Spot on KM - I agree totally. He's having a wee blip and things will get better, you will see to that. Some kids are really badly behaved and always in trouble but some of these kids (judging by the ones my son knows) get little or no attention at home so act up to get it at school. He's maybe just taking a while to settle down at school as it's still all very new to him, hopefully by the summer term this will all be a distant memory.
I know you and ex don't see eye to eye but do you have anyone that could talk to him for you? his parents maybe? that might help or may annoy him but only you would know his character.

benbenandme

thank you both xxx
I have called my ex tonight to let him know about it, I didnt want to as I only see him a a sperm donor / babysitter, but if I want him to make an effort and get on with me then I should do the same in return. Anyway, she was there so he wanted to talk to me even less than normal, the whole conversation was less than 2 minutes, he basically just asked me to let him know what the teacher says.
Just realised I haven't had any dinner yet so am just off to find some toast ...
Oh, and I deleted that bloke from my contacts list

Karmacat

Hi benben

Sorry things have been so sh*tty for you, what a bad week. Good for you for trying to make new contacts tho - I'm very tentative about that too. And good luck with DS and working out what's going on - drawing does help, it can sound crazy at first - but the choice of what he draws, the colours, the intensity of the pressure on the paper, the focus or the amount of scribble, it all helps when you look at it afterwards, to see what's going on. I use it with clients sometimes, and obviously with them (adults) I'm commenting on stuff like that as they're doing it. I bet he'll be fine, just needs a bit of input now... have a good day today, if you can - it'll be better now you've deleted that bloke!!

chocaholic110

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Might be worth a go as he may have something going on. Or he may just be pushing his boundaries and there may be nothing underlying and by you and the teacher working together and standing firm he will regain some control over his temper and the consequences.

I agree with this, that he is probably just testing his boundaries a little. It could be that he doesn't realise that the teacher will tell you and he's seeing what he can get away with. If he sees that you are both agreed on behaviour it may stop.

Have you asked your son about why he did it? It could just be a little bit of emotional immaturity (he's only in reception, isn't he?) and maybe not knowing how to express himself to say what he wants. Plus, with being an only child, he has your full attention at home, so it could just be a little bit of attention seeking. (Going from having you all to himself to having to share the teacher with the others)

Whatever it is I am absolutely sure you will get through it (with or without your ex's help). From everything you've said on here you sound like a fantastic mum who does loads with him and in my experience of children who are really badly behaved, sadly they either tend to be ignored at home or allowed to do what they want, or both.

Talk to DS, talk to the teacher. I'm sure it will come good!

benbenandme

Thank you all for your support, ds seems to have had a better day at school today, I'm seeing his teacher tomorrow after school to discuss it as she was busy tonight. I got him to draw his teacher a picture to say sorry and he asked me to write on it "I'm very sorry for being naughty, I won't do it again, love xxx". He seems a lot calmer tonight and hasn't hit me at all :rolleyes:

On the money side I've had a good day today, I got paid £11 for a mystery shop I did a few weeks ago, and also postie brought me a cheque for £23 from a survey site :beer: This has all helped knock another month of the mortgage total so it is now finishing in April 2032 :T :T
The flat is a tip so I need to tidy up a bit tonight as Mum will be down again tonight to stay, I also need to start some of the jobs that were on my list for this week.