son eating me out of house and home

skellyele

Just explain to him that if he wants to eat all this food it then he has to buy it first you cant eat food if there's non in the house ,simple .When there`s no food for him and he then has to buy it and see the price of it it might make him think.

wiogs

Deeeliteful wrote: »

Might be time to consider counselling - please don't take offence - but don't be ridiculous.

He is just a teenage boy! that is it, he is growing and needs to eat it is as simple as that.

Unfortunately, we i.e. parents cannot keep up with their appetites. My son did same, buying from just eat when I had made dinner, but luckily that was his own money.

He is not just a teenage boy eating a lot.
He lies to his mother and it appears they cannot communicate effectively.

How would suggest they resolve their communication problems?

I have suggested that they talk, however the OP seems to think this would be fruitless.

(Don't worry I didn't take any offence at your post.)

esalad

ariba10 wrote: »

You say you are a single parent and then mention your "other half"

Have your O H to have a word with him.

By my oh I mean my boyfriend (hate that term at 45) who doesn't live with us. He is having a tough time communicating at all with ds at the moment as he hardly speaks to him. There hasn't been a row or anything and ds doesn't seem angry or resentful just disinterested.

His father is the opposite to me and does cook for him but doesn't part with his cash much.

dandelionclock30

You need to talk to him and say he has to fill up at tea time instead of coming down for pies/pizza etc. Also get a lock for the fridge and use it.
It sounds to me like he is very selfish and I'd say if you continue to be selfish and disrespectful then you are going to have to move out.
It sounds like hes smoking weed and getting the munchies to me.You don't know at all if hes taking drugs. I agree he needs to eat and I'd just let him have toast and some fruit outside of mealtimes and that's it.
Say its my way or get out.

GwylimT

Boys can eat a lot, when my son was in his later teena he ate more than me at each meal and also had an extra meal at about 8pm and snacks throughout the day. I was a six foot three rugby player so out eating me was quite impressive! All children need high protein, high fat and fairly high carb diets, if a childs diet isn't properly balanced they will be hungrier as their bodies are craving the parts they are lacking.

GwylimT

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

You need to talk to him and say he has to fill up at tea time instead of coming down for pies/pizza etc. Also get a lock for the fridge and use it.
It sounds to me like he is very selfish and I'd say if you continue to be selfish and disrespectful then you are going to have to move out.
It sounds like hes smoking weed and getting the munchies to me.You don't know at all if hes taking drugs. I agree he needs to eat and I'd just let him have toast and some fruit outside of mealtimes and that's it.
Say its my way or get out.

Giving a child sugar will just make them hungrier.

Bennifred

Teenage boys do eat a LOT - I've brought up three of them (early twenties now).

Your son sounds extremely thoughtless and selfish, though, OP - that's what you should address. He should get a job (whether he fancies it or not!) and that will help him to understand the value of money, and mean that he can buy the extras he wants.

valk_scot

Boys do eat a lot. I know, my son turned 18 recently. You have to supply them with a good nutritious diet that meets all their growing needs, and in enough volume to fill them up. But that's where it stops. My DS has free access to the kitchen and I was fairly easy going about what he could have BUT he wasn't allowed food out the fridge without checking if it was available or intended for the next meal, and he could tell the difference between "free" food like cereal and bread and foods like pizzas and pies. And if he was in the house on his own he could make a meal for himself rather than just graze, he could even get a meal ready for the rest of us coming home. However this angelic behaviour didn't happen by accident, it came about via firmly laid down rules rules (you must check) and enforced consequences (you ate it already, here's some toast for dinner.) There were four of us to feed off a fairly tight budget and there's no way one member of the family (including myself and OH) would have been allowed to quite literally steal the food intended for other people's plates.


My suggestion is to take away the family allowance and use it for extra food, hand him a packed lunch every day plus put a lock on the fridge or the kitchen door. And for every meals worth of food he steals (it IS stealing if it's not his food, he's been told not to take food without asking and others are going short because of it) make him one meal less. Lies? Call him out on this !!!!!!!!, an 17 year old shouldn't be behaving like a toddler pretending he didn't eat the biscuits.


As for your DD it's all part of the same thing, not enough of a firm hand when it comes to trying to take advantage of mum. What a selfish attitude, refusing to cook for you and leaving you out!

dandelionclock30

GwylimT wrote: »

Giving a child sugar will just make them hungrier.

Fruit can be very filling I've found that with my stepson. I don't think its hunger with OPs son its pure greed.

FBaby

If he eats all the unhealthy food you list in addition to the breakfast, lunches and meals you cook, but it is very surprsing he isn't overweight, unless he practices a lot of sports.

More likely, he has got into bad habits because he got away with it. I expect he doesn't have breakfast because he can't be bothered, then spends his lunch on chocolate bars or the same, comes home and stuff himself on more unhealthy snacks so that by dinner time, he isn't hungry any longer...until later at night when again he craves unhealthy food.

I think it is time to take action because for one his behaviour is totally disrepectful to you (I can't believe you let him get away with not finishing the meals you cook when you know he will go on and eat more after dinner), and very unhealthy the way you described it.

It is time to lay the law, he is after all still leaving under your roof and your rules.