Child In Need Meeting worried

croyland87

Hi as i have said before SW are saying they are going monitor it for 5 months but they haven't confirmed it yet the I asked the SW and this is what he said. The people who come out to do the monitoring will they be from the SW dept or someone external and will they tell me when they are going to visit or just raid my house when ever they like. And do have a right to say if they do set it for 5 months that it is do long.

We dont need rest bites or someone to come into are house and give us help to care for us when this is all over if the SW suggest the following do i have to take it or can i refuse. Thank you

[Deleted User]

You can say you are going out if they do a surprise visit.., but the problem is, the more unwilling to work with SS's you seem, the more suspicious they can get.

From what you have said, they are planning on arranged visits.

None of this is going to be easy for you, I really do sympathise., but I am afraid once the process has started you are better advised to go along with it.

This could help you, once they see you aren't in need of parenting classes, extra support, do understand your children, they will have to admit that schooling is part of the problem. Although in my case schooling only improved for a while, the improvement was there.

Phone IPSEA.., http://www.ipsea.org.uk/contact/advice-and-support. They will explain that you can ask for a Statutory Assessment which now not only includes strict educational needs assessment but health needs as well, possibly this process could help you get the assessment for your child that you need. Keep asking for it. Use the meeting you are due to go to soon to ask about it. IPSEA will give you advice and may be able to help you get the child in need process focused on what is going wrong with your child's education rather than on your performance as parents. But SS's will need to eliminate this concern from their agenda. To do this, you will have to co-operate to some degree.

You can refuse to co-operate with anything they suggest but have to be aware that this could backfire on you.

Ask SS's at the Children in Need meeting who they are proposing to send out to visit you. This is a time for you to ask questions and find out what they propose. Have you seen SS's report? If not ask to before the meeting. But keep calm while reading it. Write out bullet point discussion points for things you disagree/agree with, and discuss this at the meeting.

I had it decided that my children were actually at risk at the first meeting (borderline though, but it was very upsetting), then at the next meeting it was downgraded to a Child in Need Case (although they were very nervous at doing this so quickly, but they did recognise I was doing all that could be asked of me, and they might have over reacted, the refuted comments in the report helped bring some sanity to the process). Three more of those meetings and the case was closed. As I say, my reactions to the concerns initially certainly didn't help. Once I started co-operating the atmosphere changed dramatically.

Gigglepig

I don't get it. Are you not at all worried that something might have happened to your child at some point, that you don't know about?

squirrelchops

The Family Rights Group online is a good resource and can help provide details on process as well as support.

croyland87

Gigglepig wrote: »

I don't get it. Are you not at all worried that something might have happened to your child at some point, that you don't know about?

Something happening to my child like what?

croyland87

Hi SW actually called the meeting early on Friday which freaked me out why would they do that for anyway it was decided that the setting is not right for my child and interim review meeting will take place because the school cant cope with him and they are not going to take the sexual allegations any further they didn't say if its going to be case closed and didn't book another meeting ether seems very strange to me.

The completion of the Core Assessment was not available as the SW is delayed.

[Deleted User]

Sounds like it was a good outcome for you and your child.

I hope you are able to find a better place for your child. A statutory assessment might be worth pursuing. Have you phoned IPSEA? SS's are not your only source of information.., or here lol.

croyland87

deannatrois wrote: »

Sounds like it was a good outcome for you and your child.

I hope you are able to find a better place for your child. A statutory assessment might be worth pursuing. Have you phoned IPSEA? SS's are not your only source of information.., or here lol.

Yes the interim review is next week and SW will be attending that and he will be assessed by the psychologist before that. I am going to ask them is it case closed or what.

Rambosmum

croyland87 wrote: »

Something happening to my child like what?

I think that what the poster was suggesting is that SS are currently investigating that something may have happened to your child which is causing a change in their behaviour. This could be a normal part of their development in relation to their disability or it could be due to a traumatic event that you are unaware has happened.

Could you elaborate on your child's disability? It will help me understand the context of their behaviour.

What they are concerned about is that your child's behaviour is out of the range of normal behaviours. This is either due to their disability or because of trauma/ abuse/ neglect - not necessarily by you or your partner but still concerning and SS job is to determine which of these two it is.

6 months is standard monitoring time. If they are not concerned about neglect it is unlikely they will do unannounced visits. If they do, you can say you are going out or refuse to allow them to look around your house - I know I wouldn't like it but if I had nothing to hide I'd let them get on with it, they are more likely to leave you alone.

Just make sure that you count to 10 before giving any responses- if you come across as aggressive it goes against you, even though it is a normal response of you being upset/ concerned.

croyland87

Rambosmum wrote: »

I think that what the poster was suggesting is that SS are currently investigating that something may have happened to your child which is causing a change in their behaviour. This could be a normal part of their development in relation to their disability or it could be due to a traumatic event that you are unaware has happened.

Could you elaborate on your child's disability? It will help me understand the context of their behaviour.

What they are concerned about is that your child's behaviour is out of the range of normal behaviours. This is either due to their disability or because of trauma/ abuse/ neglect - not necessarily by you or your partner but still concerning and SS job is to determine which of these two it is.

6 months is standard monitoring time. If they are not concerned about neglect it is unlikely they will do unannounced visits. If they do, you can say you are going out or refuse to allow them to look around your house - I know I wouldn't like it but if I had nothing to hide I'd let them get on with it, they are more likely to leave you alone.

Just make sure that you count to 10 before giving any responses-if you come across as aggressive it goes against you, even though it is a normal response of you being upset/ concerned.

He has Autism

I asked the SW a few days before the CIN meeting whats going to happen after the meeting and was told that we would monitor it for 6 months but nothing was said in the meeting about support or someone coming out to the house.