Where do we stand with landlord?

tain

I'd go and have a kind word with the landlord rather than presuming he would kick you out? I can't see any reason for them to want to lose your boyfriends rent every month over a single row which any lodger/tenant is likely to have. I'd just say thanks to him for being concerned and trying to help, and that you'll do everything you can to not let it happen again.

However I'll be honest - it sounds like you've had a barney with the landlord about them barging in, and things have been said that amount to them considering kicking your boyfriend out. Or this row is on the back of other things that have gone on. It seems really excessive to consider being evicted after a single argument. You're paying this man cash every month. Why would he want to risk that? He's earning a living from it. If there really was nothing else said, or no other problems in the past, then thinking he would be evicted is hugely excessive.

PasturesNew

I'd be pee'd off if I were a live-in LL, with a lodger, who had somebody stay over that ended up in a row. Some of us don't row, never have rows or any violence in our lives - and it'd be very unsettling/upsetting to encounter it within our own homes from strangers.

If I were the LL I'd be thinking about banning you.
If I were the bf or you I'd be thinking about him moving into self-contained accommodation and you not staying over.

It's just plain rude to row, in front of other people, in earshot of others. Rude. Plain rude.

Do all couples row? To that extent? Or are you just telling yourself that?

kimmy393

No we've not had any upsets with the landlords before always polite . Just the first time we've ever been in rented accommodation so I guess we wouldn't know if they would just turf him out, and no we don't tend to argue often and yes I believe couples do tend to disagree on things now and then.

And in fact the landlady and her two daughters row all the time . The few times I have stayed over I have heard their yelling.

tain

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'd be pee'd off if I were a live-in LL, with a lodger, who had somebody stay over that ended up in a row. Some of us don't row, never have rows or any violence in our lives - and it'd be very unsettling/upsetting to encounter it within our own homes from strangers.

If I were the LL I'd be thinking about banning you.
If I were the bf or you I'd be thinking about him moving into self-contained accommodation and you not staying over.

It's just plain rude to row, in front of other people, in earshot of others. Rude. Plain rude.

Do all couples row? To that extent? Or are you just telling yourself that?

I'd advise you not to take money off someone every month if you're going to force your ideals on to them.

A paying lodger in your home does not equal a guest in your home.

And it's plain scare-mongering by telling this obviously worried and distressed poster that you find them rude and would kick them out because you're a perfect couple who never row and expect the same from everyone else. I don't find this at all helpful.

kimmy393

thesaint wrote: »

So you think it was unreasonable. I think you are in a minority.

Yes I guess I do. I was their and i would never burst in on someone I would always knock and ask if everything was ok..

PasturesNew

tain wrote: »

I'd advise you not to take money off someone every month if you're going to force your ideals on to them.

A paying lodger in your home does not equal a guest in your home.

And it's plain scare-mongering by telling this obviously worried and distressed poster that you find them rude and would kick them out because you're a perfect couple who never row and expect the same from everyone else. I don't find this at all helpful.

Well if everybody said "there, there, what a bad ll, you poor dear" then they'd not think their behaviour to be different to others and unacceptable to some. Agreeing with an OP doesn't really help them does it.

Guest101

thesaint wrote: »

So you think it was unreasonable. I think you are in a minority.

She's the supposed victim!

silvercar

However my bf and I had a row last night where he raised he voice yelling at me. It wasn't ultra loud but loud enough. Next minute the landlady husband and 30 year daughter burst in his room asking ifor I was ok and should they call the police. Obviously I was upset and so was my bf as of course all couples row now and then and no violence was involved .

All couples may disagree, even argue; I'm sure all couples don't have one partner yelling loudly.

I would be grateful that the landlord was in earshot. There is only one person to blame for this and it isn't the landlord.

Pixie5740

kimmy393 wrote: »

Yes I guess I do. I was their and i would never burst in on someone I would always knock and ask if everything was ok..

The LL was just concerned for your safety...be thankful. You can also be thankful that you don't live there if it's such a big deal to you.

SeduLOUs

I've been with my partner 5 years and we very rarely row, but when we do it tends to get loud! I don't think it' unreasonable for couples to have a heated argument, but I also don't think it is unreasonable for LL to show concern while you are under their roof.

Perhaps they over-reacted slightly by barging into the room, but better that than doing nothing at all if something bad was going on.

I would hope that everyone is just a little bit embarrassed and a civil chat about it should sort it out for thins to carry on as normal, as long as the 'rows' aren't going to be a regular thing.